WWYD re wedding invite

[Rach75]

first question does this mean no presents not that I mind getting a gift but we are looking at $600 + for accomadation plus a 10hr trip each way and a ferry trip $120

we appreciate the effort to join us on our special day your presense is present enough

second question we were told about the wedding date back in January so we could book accomadation etc, anyway a mention was made of child minding as Jack isn't invited to wedding I am presuming this means reception anyway I emailed the bride and groom last week to ask what if any arrangements had been made re child minding.

The groom told Jase in jan they were arranging some people to mind kids in the room next to reception so although I have never left Jack with anyone besides Jase I was ok I can do this...if I feel weird I can duck out and check on him..

so they haven't responded I dont know whether to email them again..I feel pushy if I do, I need to know cause if nothing is organised I will go to wedding but not reception Jase will go to both..so I need to know as although we have replied to invite and dont want them paying for me to be at reception if I am goign to get there and find out I can't

would you be irritated to be asked this 6 weeks before wedding...BTW we have never met the bride and the groom was our best man

[briggsy's girl]

i would assume that they're not wanting gifts by that line hun for sure

is it possible for Jase to call about the child care issue - just put it to them nicely in regard to wanting to check, as you don't want to get there and find there is nothing arranged, and that they've paid for a meal for you that you can't eat....

[Visitor7]

I take that as no presents are required. Some people will turn up with presents, but it's not necessary to do so. Maybe just a card?
As for the child minding, I don't think you'd be too pushy if you ask them again. Like you said, if child minding isn't available/organised, then that's one less seat they have to pay for at the reception.

[~Raven~]

I would assume that no gift is required going by that invite!

I would also persist on getting confirmation about what to do with Jack so you know what you are going to do with him and also they need to know for numbers. I would assume that they wouldn't be too pleased if your place stayed empty and the food was wasted if you RSVP'd you will be coming but then didn't go to the reception.

[Rach75]

thanks girls I managed to get the grooms work email Jase said email him there if we get no answer he shall give him a call

I just feel weird goign to a wedding with no gift

[Beatrix]

TBH for the child minding i would ring, rather then email

Email is just so easy to brush aside and no answer whereas the phone is istant, there is no if and buts about the phone

[meow]

Our guests had to travel to our wedding so we said the same thing but still got some presents. I would just give them a card- a couple of people didn't give us anything including a card and I thought that was a bit odd personally.

Good luck finding out about the care!

[Salsa]

Yep, they are not expecting people to bring gifts unless they really want to (usually it`ll be family etc that still do).

Please get in touch and clarify about the childminding for you and them.
At my wedding we arranged childcare and specifically invited children by names on invites. The rsvps were returned indicating that children would be attending, so we went ahead with our plans to cater for the kiddies, and then on the day most of the parents left their kids at home , only for about half of those to make comments to us later in the day like " oh, little johnny would have loved this..."

[Rach75]

thanks girls so emailig groom at work worked well sought of this is the reply I got

bride has been talking to a lady about child care and has it pencilled in, however we need to confirm with her.
We will let you know when we find out the details.

what to do...well they know I iwont come to reception if nothing definate has been arranged can't do much more than that can I...if anyone knows a good babysitter on stradbroke island please let me know

I am so freaked about leaving him this has been playing on my mind since they got engaged last year