I LOVE the idea of getting married under a full moon! I have never heard of anyone doing it and while yes its crazy but its romantic crazy! and i completely understand that you just want close family and friends at the ceremony and if your other friends are really your friends they will understand that (anyways the reception is always the funnest :P) I don't know much about cemetries and what not so im no help.
Thanks for the replies guys!!!
That ghost tour thing is a good idea, might make an evening of it rather than an hour =)
We live in Canberra atm. But aren't limited by where the ceremony will be, as there won't be many people we prob could get away with traveling etc, and then have the reception even in a differnt city..
I would find out if you can get married at the war memorial. if you have had family die in the wars then you could say that you want to get married there so the spirit of your loved one is with you. might have a bit of red tape involved though.
You'll need to find a celebrant who will marry you in a cemetary as well as get the cemetary dudes to agree. I've organised security for a cemetary so I have some idea of the kind of stuff that idiots get up to at night and how much work is involved in trying to clean up the mess. I think it is very unlikely that a cemetary would let you in at night or for a wedding because their primary concern is with protecting the dignity of the grave.
We had a religious ceremony on a differant day to the reception and invited heaps less people. Then we went to the registary office to make it legal and get the paperwork almost 5 years later (about 2 weeks ago lol).
just on the small private ceremony and larger reception... i think no one has any right to be insulted on not being invited. it's not a right, that's why people put out invitations lol.
in saying that, maybe just ask people to a ''party'' and then tell them when they get there. that way you don't have the whole gift thing, some people might be insulted in terms of inviting them and "expecting'' a gift but them not being part of the good bit iykwim. (i realise you may not be expecting a gift but most people who go to wedding stuff feel compelled).
so maybe do the ceremony on the quiet and see if your photographer can get one of your pics printed up really large - have that set up at the party and perhaps get all your mates to sign it. Everyone will hopefully so surprised and excited they won't even think to be insulted they weren't invited. I think most people are pretty level headed about these things especially with the costs involved thesedays.
as for the ceremony location - hey each to their own! lol. But you will need to get clearance (check with your local council) and may have to pay a fee (that is the case if you want to use the local park usually, so i imagine this wouldn't be any different).
another consideraion is whether you are having a religious ceremony - not sure if a priest/pastor or whatever would be happy to do a ceremony ... same with celebrant, so I'd start calling now! plus you usually have to have a few meetings and often a "couples'' session so they know you are fair dinkum.
just out of curiosity... what are you wearing? traditional dress??? you don't have to answer that if you don't wish. I was just wondering, given the locaiton and the time of night...
good luck and remember - the wedding is about you and your DF. No one else. And if you do what you both want, then the two most important people in the whole shebang will be happy.
We are planning a small ceremony also with just immediate family and then a party after with everyone.
We will be getting married around 5pm with celebrant so will be a short ceremony on the beach and then dinner with family , party to follow at 8pm with friends. We are hopefully getting it videod and if goes to plan will show it on projector screen at party so guest will feel like they are apart of it.
I have been married before and did the whole big wedding thin g and i hated it, i am not a person that likes being centre of attention which is why i chose to have the ceremony as private. Good luck with yours i hope it all goes smoothly and you get what you want because after all it is you and your partners day no one else's.
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