Once again thanks for your ideas - I love the idea of the special personalised gift for the couple .... The family is of European background but the wedding is a little different, it is very small and low key. It is 2 hours from home and DD1 is the flower girl so we have spent considerable $ on her dress etc. I sound really mean but they are just planning on putting the money in the mortgage ... which is admirable but not quite what I want to contribute towards. There are quite big expectations of others but none from their end. Thanks for your suggestions to help me out! To be honest I will be glad when it is over...