Weddings, hens nights, and pregnancy

[Liz185]

I'm sure your friend won't mind if you decide not to go. You can never tell how you'll be feeling- I know that the last 4 weeks are the absolute WORST because all your body aches and pains come flowing right on in!

Look, if it was me, I'd probably tell your friend that you'd love to go but that you don't know how you'll be.

I think if you go somewhere that you're not sitting down for ages, it should be OK! I went to a charity concert and was in the seat for AGGGGES!! SO uncomfortable

[visitor1]

I wouldnt be going to either. The last few weeks you need to save up energy!!

[sangie]

I would probably wait until it got a bit closer before deciding, if that is possible? I went to a wedding when I was 37 weeks and I was fine, it was 1.5hrs away and DH didn't drink so he could drive me if I went into labour. I decided to go along when I was 36 weeks and the bride/groom were so understanding and told the wedding reception staff that I would be 'late' deciding!

Oh and believe it or not I found a gorgeous red maternity dress at Target, not potato sack looking at all!

[Enchanted]

That reminds me, thanks Sangie!! Kmart also have some great maternity clothes too!

[Beach Mama]

Awww hun firstly :hugs: Sounds like you need it!!
I was asked to be a bridesmaid for a really good friends wedding, and then we found out I was pregnant. I was due the 8th May and wedding was on the 19th May! I was the only bridesmaid too so things were really tricky, we basically took it as a I might be there I might not, and this wedding was 2 hours away too.
As far as the hens night goes - I was 38 weeks pregnant and organised the whole shebang for her - we went out for a great night out, yeah I was tired but I had a blast and everyone understood that I wanted to sit for most of it. This particular hens was quite a tame night - out for dinner at the Langham and then drinks at a ****tail bar so it wasn't like we were out partying but still I was HUGE but I enjoyed every part of my pregnancy and wasn't going to sit at home for 5-6 weeks waiting for the baby to arrive!!

I would say, talk to your friend and tell her you will work it out as it all gets closer. You might find that once you hit 38 weeks you will be tired and waiting for bubby to arrive but you might like nothing better than to get out and have a night out =- sure you might go home early but you would be there.

As far as the wedding goes and being so close to your DD, again, I think it really needs to be a case of wait and see. Reply that yes you will be there- with the proviso that you might not. Nobody will crack it if you don't turn up because you are in hospital having your baby!! If bubby is already a week old and you feel up to it, you could go, again could you speak to your friend about all the scenarios?? Sure she might not want kids there but a newborn is completely different!

Ok Im getting all preachy and stuff - basically I think there are possible ways around it if you do want to go but it might pay to chat to your friend about different scenarios and see how she feels!! One of my internal thoughts was - ok if I go and Im in labour on the day of the wedding am I prepared to give birth at hospital XYZ and my answer was yes.
Good luck hon! Its a hard one and by the way - I never got to the wedding - Isabelle was born on her wedding day!!

ETA - Oh yes!! I bought my outfit for the hens from Kmart not maternity but it was a cute black dress, empire cut under bust and I got it in a size 16 and wore it with leggings!! Very cute!! I think buying something regular but in a bigger size is a great idea, I did that for lots of my clothes!

[meow]

Ahhh- it's all a bit frustrating huh? We have THREE weddings on the weekend 2 weeks after bubba is due. For quite a while I was still hoping to go to at least one but once we finally said "No, we can't come" I realised it was a huge load of stress off. You don't want to wishing your baby will come just to fit in with things- you don't need that pressure.

There is no way I'd want to be bar hopping at 38 weeks- my pelvis gets tired enough going up to the shops! And if it's not normally your style I can't see you making it. Maybe if they are starting the hens with a dinner you could do that then bail?

So, unfortunately I think it's a no to both as well. You'll just have to have her over to pour over the wedding photos and tell you about the day afterwards.