Weddings with no kids...

[paradise lost]

Hoobley - Have someone you trust on call in case your DD needs to be taken home and put to bed. Its going to be a big day for her as well as for you.

There isn't anyone. In her life DD has only been cared for by XP (who will be working) and DP (who will be at the wedding with us). Actually i will be leaving when she needs to go home to bed! The bride knows this - we had her hen on Saturday night and DP looked after DD while i got to go out, let my hair down and spend proper time with her. She knows that when DD gets tired we'll be going, and to that end they're having the ceilidh first so we can dance with her before we go

I will be very surprised if we're home much after 9.30pm.

Bx

[Rivlas]

Glad that things will work out.
It was great that you got to spend time with her on Saturday night as you don't get to spend any special time with the bride & groom on the wedding day.

[paradise lost]

LOL, i know, i can remember when my BF from childhood got married and i went to the loo with her to help her keep her skirts up out of the way while she pee'd and it was the only 5 minutes i got with her all day! LOL.

Bx

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

As if kids weren't part of (or perhaps even the POINT of) the family.

No, children are NOT the point of the family. A man and a woman joined in marriage are a family whether they have children or not. I know this isn't going to be popular on a parenting website but it's true - children aren't fashion accessories or optional extras but they are NOT the point of a family. A family can be a family without children.

TBH, I don't attend no-child weddings. If DS isn't welcome somewhere then my entire family isn't welcome. I remember being left out of a wedding age 7: "why am I not invited - am I bad? am I naughty? do they not love me?" Yes, at seven you're a bit too into yourself. Same with anything. If one member of my family isn't welcome, none of us are. But then, if I'm not welcome DH and DS don't want to go either! Similarly, I wouldn't go anywhere that banned DH.

I wouldn't mind DS leaving early if only someone would take him early! We've ducked out early of three weddings this year because DS was tired. But if he's not welcome then neither am I.

As for the age cut-off or exceptions - that's up to the bride and groom. There are many reasons to ban children, such as none in the family (I didn't have children there simply because none of my guests to the main bits did) or cost of food etc: it shouldn't be seen as a personal slight. Nor should exceptions. But if you feel strongly about it, don't go to the wedding.