What do you think-relative having baptism a few wks after our first child's due date

[glenny_c]

Sorry- but I have to agree with Lime Slice and PumpkinZulu- I think it is a little petty for you to be this upset. It would be different if they knew what date you had planned and used that date deliberately but they just chose a date that was good for them. I don't understand why they should change it to suit you?? I don't understand the feeling that you can't have it in a month when there is anything else happening either. Sorry

[briggsy's girl]

ok, i kinda "get" the sharing a month thing - it can be painful if you have people that need to travel to ask them to travel twice - makes sense - we planned DD's baptism for the same weekend as my mum's 50th so that people only had to travel once. however, if you don't want to organise your childs baptism to coincide with the month of someone elses, it's up to YOU to change your plans. your DF's cousin has every right to plan the baptism of their child whenever they want. it's not like you said "ok, my baby is due then, we're having baptism on x date" and then the cousin organised it for x date. they are planning the baptism of their child at a time they are happy with, and you need to do the same for your child.

i guess you need to step back and decide what is important to you. if you want a small intimate thing, HAVE a small intimate thing. you don't have to go all out! if the other baptism "overshadows" your childs, does it matter? a baptism isn't about the pomp and ceremony, it's about introducing your child to the church and starting their relationship with God. the party afterwards isn't about that. the party afterwards is about celebrating your child with the extended family/community. how you choose to celebrate that is entirely up to you.

i would suggest you find out when the baptism is and plan your own childs around that. you have NO plans in place at this stage, they do - it's up to you to work around them

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

I'm sorry but i agree with the girls, i don't see an issues with having a baptism in the same month as someone's baby is due.
To be quite honest there is no point planning it for BEFORE your bub is due as what if you go early? it's an EDD so theres no guarantee of a date for them to plan around.

You should do what YOU want for your own childs baptism, if you want small then have small it shouldn't be a competition with relatives and there should be no reason to be worried that it will be 'overshadowed'.
You might even like to do it around your mums birthday, like BG said people wouldn't have to travel twice and your mum might like sharing the month of her birth with her grandchild for that special reason.

I know sometimes the small things upset you, especially while your PG and you just want the best for your baby and want everyone to be happy BUT that said it is a small thing in the big scheme of things and your LO's special day will be special no matter what.

GL with it all.

[Oscar&Grouch]

again im sorry i would have to agree with all the other ladies. I dont really think you have the right to be upset at them - they planned there childs baptism for this date, so you should plan your DD/DS's around theres.

I had my DS's baptism the weekend after Easter - I found alot of my family/friends were happy to share this special time with me and DS even though it shared a month with Easter. I wouldnt worry to much about your babies baptism being 'overshadowed' its not a competion is it? Its a special occasion no mater how its celebrated.

I hope you work it out smoothly. Good luck