I always wear mostly black with a very bright colour to funerals. For Ianto's, I wore a rainbow-striped dress with black pants and an open black dress shirt over it. Both my Nans', I had black pants and a red dress shirt. My Pa's, black pants, black vest/jumper thingie, and yellow shirt under that.

I don't remember anything anyone else wore to any of those funerals. I wouldn't even remember what DH wore if we didn't have photos...

to you and your friend having to even think about these kind of decisions