haha, welll..... this is going to seem silly, but hubby and I originally started discussing marriage because the school we work for wouldn't give us the reduced rental option to live onsite as we weren't married!!! Of course, that's not THE reason we got married. We got married because we knew we would and that particular catalyst was as good as any other. Our relationship changing? Well... we did kind of step up the 'responsible married people' identity a little. We bought a house, moved in together (we'd lived separately because of work, it just happened that way) and waited 7 years before having a baby (not entirely deliberately LOL). I do believe we would've been together whether we got married or not. I'm glad we got married, but I would've been happy as long as we were together in whatever form that 'together' was, and I'm sure we still would've had kids .