Yeah, i don't really like giving cash either, but its what she wants. The honeymoon is most likely not going to need a travel agent, so that won't work. They are more the hardworking, not much money type not so much big drinking/pokies type.
A friend is getting married in March and is having a wishing well, this is the poem she has on her invites:
"Soon you will hear our wedding vows,
As friends and family wish us well,
Our household treasures are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two,
Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,
We're having instead a wishing well wedding,
But more important we ask of you,
Your prayers of love and blessing too!"
I thought that was quite a nice way to ask for money instead of gifts
I think the poems are cool - I think it is great to ask for money if that is what they want, and I applaud anything that results in less 'stuff' in the world so holidays are great.
We had some friends use a site where basically they set up a list of things for their honeymoon and then you contributed money towards them - at the end of the day they just get the money so could if they wanted blow it on pub and pokies (in my mind if that is what they want to do with it so be it) but it showed a bit more of what the honeymoon would be like so you could contribute accordingly. But say their honeymoon was in Portugal it would have a list of things including flight/accommodation etc you could 'contribute' towards but also things like 'relaxing massage' or 'parachute jump' or 'bottle of champagne and roses' etc etc so meant you could choose to put your money against whatever you thought suited you and your relationship with the couple the best.
That was fun, but probably some work to set up and no doubt the site gets some money for it - so I think the poems are great (particularly the second one which doesn't actually 'ask' for anything)
For re-wording - How about
"We are lucky enough to have set up our home, therefore we would truly appreciate any contribution so that we may enjoy a honeymoon a little later in the year. There will be a wishing well at the reception to receive your well wishes. Alternatively, XXXXX has a list with a few gift ideas and may be contacted on xxxxxx"
DD2 is getting married soon and are having a wishing well for large household items as they have the smaller ones as she has been living with a girlfriend.
What I think they are going to do is with their invitations have an envelope with their names on it and also include tag to hang on the tree to show who has given a gift of money. They don't want to know how much a person has given but want to be able to thank those who have given.
I am one who would prefer to give a present as the one wedding we went to who asked for money for the honeymoon was because they spent it on pubs etc instead of saving. Other weddings we have been to have put down exactly where the money would be spent.
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