thread: ARGH I don't know what to do... how to let someone down...

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  1. #1
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    Feb 2009
    In the poor house...
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    Look after number one !

    Sounds like the job you want is the job for you !


  2. #2
    Registered User

    Jan 2009
    A little place called paradise.
    207

    First off CONGRATULATIONS, 2 job offers not bad work hun!!!

    Maybe you could say to the first clinic that the 2nd clinic offered to you first and that you are feeling compelled to take that position for that reason alone.??? Usually when you say "I have decided not to take the position..." they stop listening anyway to the excuse you give them.

    Ultimately you need to do what is best for you and your family, from the outside looking in there is no comparison however I know it is a different story when it's actually you in the predicament (sp) The 2nd clinic sounds much more like somewhere you would want to take a member of your family (pets) too for medical care.

    Good Luck !!!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Aug 2006
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    Aw Christy, you've got a good heart but the girls are right, you don't owe them anything. It sounds to me like you'd be very unhappy there so do what's best for you.

    And congratulations!

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Jul 2007
    in a super happy place!
    1,008

    I would definiately go for the second. Would you rather be posting a thread in here in 3 months time saying "I love my job!" or "I hate my job. It is such a negative place to work"? You don't owe the first place anything - if you feel really bad, decline it and send them a letter saying "Thanks for your time. Very much appreciated but just not the direction I want to take".

  5. #5
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    Aug 2008
    Ouiinslano
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    Tell them that something more flexible and suitable has come up, a place that is more willing to pay attention to what you need.
    Be as honest as you can, make sure they know that this is constructive feedback, and make it a better place to work for the person who does take the job.
    Then take the other job.

    Good luck!

  6. #6
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    Feb 2007
    on the move.....
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    Hi Christy. The nicest thing you can do for them is to be clear and honest and say that you are looking for only a couple of days and want to be involved in the behavioural side. Honestly they are over worked because the place obviously isn't managed properly. If they aren't taking enough care over the staff they have and are evading the things you need to talk about then run, don't walk, to the second clinic.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Oct 2004
    Sydney
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    Congratulations on getting 2 job offers - that is great!

    I know it totally sucks and its hard to do, but I think you have to be upfront with the first place. You already said that the first places nurses were exhasusted and run down, and that they want you to do 35 hours which is not something you want. I think you have pretty much made a decision about that one. I think just tell them you've been offered a position at another place and it just suits you better with the hours and the other opportunities (puppy preschool) that they have offered you there. But definately thank them for the opportunity to do a trial there. In the end you really need to do what is going to work out best for you and your family, and that sounds like the second job.