Thanks ladies. I'm in Sydney Heva5 but thanks so much for your offer. I don't have any friends who aren't working themselves or have kids that they don't want to mix with a sick child. Most people are busy with their own life and don't need my complications. I don't know why I let these conversations go on, I should just change the subject. I don't need to hear how she is going to be at home every day for their kids when they come home from school or how they can recover perfectly at home...it makes me question myself. I think working is important, I help financially and I think it makes me a happier person.