You are in a bind! With skills in the workplace and in the home and with a taste of both lives.... what to do!?!?!
It seems as if your DH may have developed a few new employable skills since working in your business, maybe he could use those to get a part time job, allowing you to get a part time job too and share staying at home with Peter??
That way you could have a few days in the workforce, he could too (that sounds fair) and then you both get to spend a few days as a family too. Peter would be soooo lucky to be able to have such great contact time with both parents and you might find your sanity again !
I do think it's worth exploring ALL options and that includes a job/career for you partner. It sounds like you don't think he's workshy just not career-driven or the corporate ladder type. And that's absolutely fine - just not when it puts a lot of pressure on you to come up with all the answers so you need to work this out as a couple.
Maybe he's just not found something he's really interested in yet but just knows what he's not interested in doing.
This sounds like it could turn into a sensitive subject between you so I would explain it to him in terms of the way it makes you feel ie. that it makes you feel under a lot of pressure and you want to explore all options not just the ones that revolve around you working full-time.
As far as him not being super-qualified for anything in particular goes, well that's kind of a short-term problem. If he found something he was passionate about, then he could become qualified but the underlying issue seems to be that he's yet to find that passion. And if it's there lurking with him somewhere then it would be good to bring it out. If it's not, then I guess you need to both work out your feelings about you being the main/sole breadwinner and what that will mean for your family especially if you want to have more kids.
As far as his written skills go, that doesn't necessarily rule him out of an office type job. I am constantly amazed by the number of people earning $100K+ who make simple grammatical and spelling mistakes or labour for half an hour over the wording of something that should take five minutes. But at the end of the day, it doesn't really detract from their ability to do their job - they still get the job done.
But I think it would be worth thinking outside the square and concentrating on what he loves doing and whether he would be interested in developing a career out of that - whether it's gardening, music, DIY, cooking, beer-making , whatever.
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