As Tan said, it is a juggling act and I find I just have to give my best to what I am doing at any given time without stressing about the other aspects ie. if I am home with the kids then I give all of me to them and don't think about work. Unfortunately it often means I don't think about housework - at all However, I did get a cleaner once a fortnight just to save my sanity. It has really helped. Also I found with the kids in CC the house doesn't get as messy as they aren't in the house as much.