Thank you ladies... quite a relief to know that kindy in NSW is like our Prep. Ok. Not so bad then!
I think I should make a list of things that I want the nanny to work on with the kids. Be more instructional - tell her about helping DS with his ear/nose confusion, encourage DD to write things... maybe that'll help.
Ah not long til I'll be finished work again and hopefully I'll be able to work on some of these things myself...
remember hun to let kids be kids! they have soooo many years of formal education ahead of them, there is no hurry.
i had no intention of teaching DD to read (still not keen on doing it) but she was sooo ready and pushing us to teach her
Like others have said, kids are all individual and will develop at their own rate, but they also have their own preferences and special talents. Some will learn words at a faster rate, others will be better at sports or at developing social awareness etc - none of which is anything to be worried about.
My DD started in full time childcare at 4 months of age as I had to go back to work, it was that or severe financial stress. Mummy guilt is a horrible insidious demon that I know all too well, like you I worried that I was failing her as a mum, but in the end she came through fine - better than fine actually, she's doing very well at school and has a very compassionate beautiful nature. She couldn't write her own name when she started kindy at 4 years, but after the first week she sure could!
Everyone has a point of second guessing themselves. We do it all the time. Should I have gone to work? Probably. Finances have been tight. Life would be so much easier, both financially and emotionally if I had. DH wouldn't be under so much pressure to deliver the goods. But we make it work because this is the choice we made. I wasn't in a job that paid well and we worked out that if I went to work, most of my wages would vanish into childcare and fuel.
Just like you make it work. Your kids are just developing at different rates to each other. I'm sure that there are things that DS can do now that DD couldn't do so well at the same age. That probably won't change if you were there 24/7. When I was working, we had worried parents come in all the time, with 2 and 3 year olds. Some worried that they couldn't write. A couple worried that their kids couldn't read. They all wanted to buy workbooks and CDs to educate their kids, so they wouldn't be left behind their peers. We'd always say the same thing. Kids need to be kids. There is plenty of time. In my honest opinion, if kids were supposed to read at the age of 2, then we'd be sending them to school then.
My DD is a month behind your DD. She can't read or write (she recognises her name, but let's face it...it's only three letters long!). She has just figured out if she draws three dots, then it kind of looks like eyes and a nose She didn't walk until she was nearly 18 months old. She rarely sleeps through the night. She isn't TT. But she's awesome (if I do say so myself!). She's polite, gentle (mostly) and is finally trying new foods. She's developing a great imagination. All of these things are as important as the fine motor skills that allow for writing and reading. You have beautiful kids, OP. And you're a really genuine and nice person who is beating herself up
Last edited by Miss.September; October 17th, 2011 at 02:53 PM.
: My letter "D" key is a bit dodgy on the computer!!! Had to put a few in!
BellyBelly Life Subscriber
She didn't walk until she was nearly 18 months old. She rarely sleeps through the night. She isn't TT. But she's awesome (if I do say so myself!). She's polite, gentle (mostly) and is finally trying new foods. She's developing a great imagination. All of these things are as important as the fine motor skills that allow for writing and reading. You have beautiful kids, OP. And you're a really genuine and nice person who is beating herself up
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks