Just re bottle sizes - when I asked a midwife I was told the amount of breastmilk they would need is weight x .03 - so your DD would need approx 210ml per bottle. That being said, it sounds like an awful lot though..... I guess it depends on each individual baby...
Sounds like it's a done deal and would work out really well for your family.
Just another thought - can you job share? You could at least do that to start with, even just one day or a couple of afternoons/mornings a week until DD is a little older (and therefore feeding well from a cup/bottle etc), you all get used to the arrangement and you get the hang of the job. Then, gradually increase the amount of time you work and decrease DP's?
It sounds like with the set up you have you could switch back if it doesn't work out? So trying it you wouldn't necessarily lose anything? Job sharing could be a good idea.
To give another perspective - I went back to work full-time when DD was 12 months, DH went part-time - I thought would be fine I am the main income earner and financially it makes so much more sense for me to be the full time worker. I hated it, I stuck it for three months which was the length of my contract (the job itself was fine and I enjoyed it) and then when they asked me to extend I said only if could go part - time, so I went part-time and DH went back to full-time. I felt like I never got to see DD, I know this is how it is for a lot of parents and dad's in particular but for me I just felt torn in two all the time. I am not a very maternal person so I always thought that we would do what was best financially for the family but when it came down to it I realized that for me I wanted to be at home at least some of the time and I will have to part time later this year after having DS again, but I now know I couldn't hack a full-time job and be a mum at least till both kids are in school. I am really glad I went back full-time because I often get full-time job offers and I think if I hadn't had that experience would always be tempted by them - but now I know the full time working thing isn't for me. It will be hard because part-time jobs are in short supply in my field but I don't want that feeling of being torn and not doing either my job or being a mum as good as I want to. I nearly took a full-time permanent position before that contract and actually if they hadn't dilly dallyed so much I would have, but I am so pleased that I didn't as I couldn't have left so quickly or been able to go part-time so quickly without it having a negative impact on my CV - but in sounds like in your case if you didn't like it could swap back?
Something we forgot to consider was the Child Support payments we recieve for DD1 as they will change if my income does. We don't recieve much and it is something we have chosen to never rely on so I don't think it should matter too much...
I have an appointment with my psych tomorrow so we will be floating the idea with her although she is somebody I have not seen as yet (old one retired after almost 10yrs together) which will probably make it hard for her to judge whether it is a good idea or not...
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