Thanks ladies, still haven't quite got my head around it all, I haven't been able to come to a conclusion on where my depression comes from, I'm guessing a range of things but I don't tend to stress about money so not really that.

Help we are talking about is a Au Pair or a Nanny, but we really like the interactions Ethan gets at daycare so not entirely sure yet. We have just taken on someone to help out with housework once a week.

I like the idea of visiting for a week once a month, but we'd need to find out own accommodation for that week as I believe they "flat" while up there (quiet a few contractors) and he would get an home away from home allowance to help cover the costs of living in two places.

I have my mum and sister local here in Brisbane, but they don't really offer the support that I'd feel comfortable with being on my own... however I also wouldn't relocate for a temporary position.

It's hard knowing how much I should look into this until he's been offered a contract of some kind...