Good luck deciding. There is no 'right or wrong' answer to this one, what suits one person will not suit another.
I just wanted to say that it is OK to put your needs and wants first in this situation if you want to. Sometimes you need to be the supportive partner that makes sacrifices, but sometimes it is OK to go with what YOU feel and let your DH be the supportive partner and make sacrifices. Only you can make this decision, together with you DH. But you need to figure out want you WANT, before you can negotiate on what will happen. There are Pro's and Con's to either decision, but I am a big believer that you 'work to live' not 'live to work'. (And I say this as someone who LOVES canberra and would recommend everyone moves here permanently )
Well he's taken the job... at first he declined, told them it was due to fact that we would be unable to support ourselves as a family financially until his first wage was to come in (6 weeks) and there was no way that he was able to start on the start date (today).
They rang him back the next morning, with a different pay structure (fortnightly wages), offered to pay for his first flight down to Canberra & change the start date to 2nd May.
As a family we discussed the whole "what if" factor that WOULD play on our minds if he didn't take it, and we decided that if in a months time it's not working for us he would come home.
So now we are just in the process of trying to source some temporary accommodation down in Canberra for him until we are in the position for him to get a place for the 6 months that me and the boys will be able to travel down to once a month / six weeks.
Once his pay check comes in I will be also arranging for someone to come to our place and help me with the boys around dinner time so I can put myself first in getting myself healthy and on the track for weight loss and ensure that we are all eating properly and I can get one on one time with Ethan.
So yay for moving forward and fingers crossed!!! this is going to work... we are going to be in a great position in a few months time!!!
Last edited by Danielle_NZ; April 18th, 2011 at 04:10 PM.
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