Jo - I think it would have still been hard if you still lived in the UK unless you had family living close to you that would help out.
I miss not having anyone to give the kids too when i am having a bad day and latley i have been having lots of them.

Don't worry about the housework mine is never 100% done once you have kids your house is never the same.

If you ever want to chat just email and i will give you my number.

Enjoy your cuppa tea