Hi - I have a friend, who, about a year ago would say that she would yell at her son (also nearly four, but nearly three at the time) every day and she was sick of telling him to do things over and over - I just sat there and thought how lucky I was that I didn't do that ...

.... one year on, I'm eating my words (or thoughts) .... what do you do when all you hear all day is -

* no, i dont want to get dressed.
* no, i dont want to eat my tea.
* no, i dont want to put shoes on.
* no, i dont want to pick up ... anything ...
* no, i dont want to go to bed ..

And the running off whenever you go out anywhere. I took Cait to the movies on tuesday and i know its hard for a three year old to line up, even for a few minutes, but she's off to the other side of the foyer in a second - I call out her name, she looks around and keeps on running.

I know I'm pregnant and tired - but what do you do to deal with this ? Do I need to back off a bit, relax a bit ? I got so used to her doing as she was told.

ANd how can I have another child, when I can't keep track of one ?

Barb.