Babies Born August 1st - 15th 2008 #4

[Arimeh]

Squidipa - Miss M poos at least twice a day, sometimes 3. I don't think its abnormal for babies to poo that often.

MM - how did the house hunting go?!!?! Did you find something??? We might move down there if the meeting with the IL's goes really crappy tomorrow.. hehe... I doubt there would be jobs down in your area for us though

Sasha - well done mate - woohoo!!!! great going

Better get to bed i suppose - DH is hounding me to go to bed - don't think it has anything to do with ME specifically, more the fact he wants to sleep in the new bed!!!!! typical...

lol

[Indadhanu]

Hello all,

I've been reading, can't for the life of me remember what has been said though, except...

squidipa, I really hope they find what is causing Joshie's slow/no weight gain.
Jazz poos 2-3 times a day (except yesterday, when she did one... Josh must have gotten her poo vibes!), so not abnormal. We gave her panadol the other day WOAH yuck, we got some icky messes to clean after that! Most babies have that reaction though don't they? Gross slimey greenish poo (because, of course, you all wanted to know ).

Ok, I have a question. I kept a sleep diary for Jazz the past few days... she is sleeping 10-11 hours out of 24. What do your babise sleep? 8-9 of those hours are between 8pm and 8am, the other 2-3 hours are during the day time (which means one MEGA cranky baby!). What the heck do I do? Should she be sleeping more? Yesterday I was in tears with her she was just so tired but wouldn't sleep and I was banging against brick walls with everything I tried... I wanted to yell (not at her, but just yell), I ended up growling (not at her, but just in general you know) but it scared her and then she screamed louder

She's not sleeping at night again. For the past two weeks shes only slept through twice... (and even then 'sleeping through' means waking at 4am), all the other nights have been 1-2am wake-ups, but she doesnt even give me a sleep n, its back up at 4.30-5ish So thats not helping me stay calm, I'm absolutely frazzled (along with Shel telling me I should do more during the day so she can come home to a clean house...). So I'm stressed because she thinks I'm not doing anything.

Well, the conversation went like this...
Jazz was screaming (a regular occurance these days) and I was hiding from her (also, fairly regular when Shel is home)... Shel got the absolute *****s (after holding her for 10 minutes, if that) and came in and said "look, would you take her and settle her down" and so I said "well why can't you do it!" and so she starts getting angry, saying "look, I just want 10 minutes to myself, I've been at work all day (!!!!) and I just want to relax and all she's donig is f---ing screaming at me, just take her", so I took her and said "i don't think its fair that you get frustrated at her screaming for 10 minutes when I am listening to it all day (slight exageration ), and then you just pass her to me, don't you think I'd like a break?" so she said "well I don't think its fair that I work all day and you stay home all day and I really can't see what you do all day!"

Oh no she didn't! *imagine me one hand on my hip, the other hand out with my finger pointing... like some woman no the Jerry Springer show!*
EXCUSE ME, SEE THIS, THIS IS OUR DAUGHTER AND SHES STILL ALIVE, THATS WHAT I DO ALL DAY
so I said "well I'm supermum or super housewife, I can't do both" so then she starts on "if I was home all day BLAH BLAH BLAH" (tuned out as I was trying not to throw everything i sight at her).
BTW, being supermum means being a super housewife, in case anyone is wondering (according to Shel...).
Ok, so I could possibley do more. But now I'm stressed, because instead of being able to sit down in quiet while Jazz is not screaming her head off during the day I feel like I need to clean. Of course, I still come on BB, but I feel like I should be cleaning. So now I feel like a slack mummy

A stupid door to door saleperson came round... Jazz was crying and I had just finished crying so obviously looked a mess.. I opened the door and was polite and said "hi, i'm sorry but if you're selling something I'm not interested" and he goes "oh, well, I'm not really selling anything...", so I say "look, whatever it is, now isn't a good time" and he goes, "well, I'm from Intergral Energy and I could save you money, I see you're a low energy using household...", dunno what else he said cos i just shut my door on him and then the curtain. What a d!ckhead! I tried to be nice... he's just lucky I showed restraint, because my patience was just about zero... There were a few words I consdered using... mostly norti words lol... Should have yelled at him but I was scared that Jazz would scream louder...

Steve Irwin Day at the zoo today, everyone wish for rain so its not too busy for Shel! If she comes home with the *****s today and decides she needs lots of "quiet alone without Jazz or me time" I'll probably end up killing her.
(Don't get me wrong shes allowed "alone time", as long as i get exactly the same amount... which I never do).

Hmmmm, vent much? Sorry guys, just needed to get it out!

[Arimeh]

Leash - its not easy to keep a clean house and look after a baby. And I'm all for procrastinating!!!

How about you try to get a system in place that works for you, so the place looks neat? I don't know about you - but I have a bag in the lounge room aand one in the kitchen that i throw junk in that doesn't belong in that area. If I get a chance at the end of the day, I'll put some crap away. But tthe fact is, the areas look neater cos there is nothing just lying around.

As for Shel's alone/wind down time - why doesn't she put her mp3 player (or equivalent) with headphones on - put Jazz in the pram - and go for a walk. She won't hear the screaming and the walk would do her good. Just a couple of suggestions?

Oh - and for the sleep - Miss M sleeps around 10/11 hours at night - and has naps after each feed - so probably 4 hours on average during the day, separated into 1 hour blocks. I usually put her down 1.5 hours after a feed, and she goes to sleep without too much trouble.

I'm sorry you are having a rough time at the moment. I can always come over and look after Jazz if you wanted to - say - RELAX or CHILL OUT - without doing the housework

Tell Shel that she lives there too - so if the place isn't clean enough for her high standards - perhaps she should start lifting her own fingers to help. Or I could come over and tell her that for you

OK what else is happening... DS has woken up with a chesty cough and a high temp this morning (is currently on my lap so I'm typing with one hand) also his doodle is really red and looks a bit swollen... something ain't right down there.... think I have to take him to the docs this morning. DH is having a sleep in this morning - DD is waking up, I can hear her hiccups from the loungeroom where I am...lol

See yas all later - Leash - let me know if I can be of any assistance - cleaning/minding/Shel bashing - whatever

[nagromeyk]

Morning!

Leash - big to you hun. I think Shell needs to pull her head in a little bit and put herself in your shoes. It is tough going during the day to get things done - some days I am lucky if I manage to have a shower Ya know you could always reverse roles for a day - you could go out to work and make Shel stay home with Jasmine - I can guarantee she will have a totally different persepective if that happened hehe

I guess you could say that I'm in the same position. My parents live with us and my dad does all the housework and sometimes *****es to mum about me not helping out but thing is he has an over active thyroid; tends to do all my jobs before I can get to them It really annoys me cause I would like to do MY washing. He even does all K's washing which pi$$es me off cause I love doing his washing and hanging all his stuff out on the line. Does his bottles too even if I tell him to leave them. Him having an OAT (over active thyroid) drives me insane most days, he's at home 'thinking' of jobs to do because he is just hypo and cant sit still.....

Squid - I truly, truly hope they can get to the bottom of things for Joshie. You have the right attitude hun, if something aint right IYO dont give up - keep searching until you have the answers you need!

Well its a beautiful day here today. 5:50am and I am already cookin'. Looks like it's gonna be a day of swimming

Brought K another pair of swimmers yesterday. Going to the pool shop this morning to buy him one of those floatee things they sit in with the sunshade over the top to give my arm a little bit of a break He is 8.3kg now and man is my arm copping it hehe

Anyways the man has just woken up so must go.... enjoy ya sunday!

[Arimeh]

Sash - its a hot one here today too - not in temp - but the humidity is 94% at the moment, and its sooo muggy.. no wonder my cloth nappies take 5 days to dry!!!!! (Luckily I have 5 days worth for both children. hehe)

Leash - I hope I wasn't too harsh with what I wrote yesterday I'm thinking of you ... (oh and btw, I read that out to DH and he was disgusted that a chick was acting like a man.. lol)

Not much else going on.... hugs to all....

Can't remember what else I was going to say.. DS is still sick... Miss M is still perfect ... hmmm.. might be getting a fish for DS today - he loves watching them.. hopefully I won't kill it like I have done every other time...

[MummyTummy]

Wow! This thread went crazy for a little bit there!

I tried to get on here the other night but the internet wouldn't let me on here - soooooooo frustrating!

Ok, I have caught up but as usual can't really remember what I have read so I will do my best!!

SB - I hope the packing is going well. Tough gig with a bub, I would be procrastinating too!

Rach - Great to hear Eli is thriving!! I can't even imagine what it would be like carrying him as Jett is only just over 5kgs! I find him heavy enough. I haven't kept up with your friends blog, it was heartbreaking reading it last time, but my thoughts and prayers are with them and family.

Shel - Yay for Kye - he is doing so well! I can't wait to take Jett swimming, but not just yet, don't really want to put him in the public pool just yet. Mmmmm - band-aid soup!

Squidipa - My left boob always feels fuller and produces more milk and flows faster too. It is completely normal to have one side that functions better than the other. Some babies even refuse to feed from the dodgy side, or show preference to the good side cos it isn't as much hard work for them. Jett poos quite regularly - usually 3-5 good poos each day. When he wasn't gaining much weight that dropped down to only 1 poo which was an indication for us that he wasn't getting enough food. I didn't realise it at the time though. I'm not saying this is the same with your case cos all bubs are different, but the best thing is to just note any changes that are not normal for your bub and go from there. I so hope you can work with your paed and find a solution to Joshies slow weight gain. And that you don't have to see that first paed again.

Leash - Big hugs! DH is being a bit like that at the moment, not nearly as bad, and I know some mothers in my mothers group have been going through the same thing as well. I wonder if it is because our babies are 3 months now and def no longer nb babies so they figure that it must be easy now, we should have a routine and life should go on as normal. They just seem to have no idea how challenging this is. No sooner do you think you have their routine figured out then they go and change it on you! I know what you mean about the tears, I had a few of them last week too while Jett cried. But I'll tell you what I do... I call DH at work when Jett is at the height of his screaming frenzy with him in my arms while I try to talk to him. Of course I can't hear a word he is saying so I just keep repeating "I can't hear you, I have no idea what you are saying, you are going to have to shout, etc". Just give him a little taste of what is going on at home when he isn't here! Although to be fair, DH is very supportive and understanding, just seems to forget when all is going well and starts to give me a hard time by saying stuff like I've been working all day....blah blah blah. Oh and the other comment I like to fire back at him is "I don't get to go to work all day and leave the baby with someone else like you do". I hope Shel realises soon that it really isn't as easy as it appears on the surface and all we really need is the support of our partners and families.

Mel - I hope DS's doodle issue is now sorted... Did you get him a fish? Did he name it?

Pixie - Did you and Bear get to pick up your car? Pity I missed you if you did. Otherwise I can pick it up for you and drive it to you...hehe

Mell - Wedding was today wasn't it? How'd it go? I bet you looked just stunning!

Vic - Sorry I have been missing our expressing parties over the last few nights!

Now I am sure I have forgotton someone but I apologise, it is not deliberate I assure you... so big hugs!

So my news....hmmm.... Jett has been moody over the last week. Not sure if it is feeding/my supply issue or what. I think he has now learnt "If I cry they will come" cos he cries like there is something really wrong, then I pick him up and he shuts up and goes all happy again. Trouble with a capital 'T' I say! I have noticed huge changes in him over the last week though... he is reaching and grabbing toys with the greatest of ease. He has really started "chatting" (he was before, but now it seems to be deliberate sounds if that makes sense) and his sitting and standing is becoming his greatest strength. He even rolled over from his tummy to his back the other day. I think it was an accident though, but he did seem determined that he was having none of tummy time! Oh and today he laughed for the first time! It was very funny, because he was being held by someone who is about to become a father for the first time next year and is still a little shy of the whole nappy/poo thing. And of course Jett let rip and there was poo everywhere - the worst he has ever done. It leaked out of his nappy, out of his bodysuit and his jeans. Dripped down his legs and over his socks on to this guys shirt, pants and armchair! He had that look on his face while Jett just looked relieved (it was the first poo of the day!!) and when I put Jett on the change table he just wriggled and giggled like it was the funniest thing ever! Awesome!

We have another weigh in tomorrow so we'll see how his weight gain has gone over the last week. I am not convinced it has gone brilliantly as I feel like my supply has been up and down like a yo-yo over the last week. But only time will tell and we can figure it out from there.

Hey, is anyone suddenly feeling more tired and less energy now than when bubs was newborn? Suddenly I am finding myself needing that afternoon nap whereas I didn't before. Oh, well, it is late now so I had better get to bed before I turn in to a pumpkin!

Mwah!

[squidipa]

sorry no time here
think i need to clear SOME THING UP... josh normally poo's every 4 or 5 days... its irregular to poo more than once in the week! so thats why i became concerned

bye gotta scoot!!

[TheBear]

MT - we did manage to pick up the car, but the timing ended up being so tight we just had to scoot out of Melbourne and head north(ish) - We will be back, with a more relaxed schedule!

The flight out of Sydney on Friday got caught up in the thunderstorms, so it eventually left 3 hours late, which meant that we didn't get settled into our hotel until gone 2am. We had a slow start to the day, did a little shopping, had some breakfast before picking up the car and heading out to the east - we spent the night on a farm stay in East Gippsland just north of a town called "Seldom Seen" then set off again on Sunday morning through Little River Gorge, over McKillop's bridge towards Bonang where we picked up the tarmac roads again towards Cooma and Canberra.

This made for a long weekend in the car, which Beth tolerated amazingly well - probably better than we did...still it's nice to be home now!

Gotta go get ready for work - hope you all have a good one!

[nagromeyk]

he cries like there is something really wrong, then I pick him up and he shuts up and goes all happy again. Trouble with a capital 'T' I say!

MT - K has just started doing this too the past couple of days. He cries really hard and I always think its wind - most times it actually is. He cracked a tanty this morning -
I gave him Infants friend, water, walked around the house with him for ages and he just kept going and going. As a last resort I thought I'll try him in his rocker so I put him down and started rocking him gently, he went quiet and started smiling and laughing at me the little bugger!! So im guessin' its an 'age' thing.

Good luck with your weigh in today - sending 'gain' vibes your way!

Well on saturday I went and brought a few things for K from Toys r Us. One item was one of those wedge things so you can position them on their sides etc
Its one that has the mat with the two removable cylinder like pads and a headrest aswell, its really cool cause you can position the pads wherever you like, so handy!!

I used it when I put K down at 9:45am and he is hasnt woken up yet It's no doubt because he feels secure and snug, why didnt I think of this weeks ago hahahaha

He has been sleeping so good the past few nights. Goes down between 8:00-8:30pm and has been sleeping right through until 5:30-6:00am
In saying that even his sleeps during the day are much better. Yesterday afternoon he slept from 2:30pm till 4:15pm and this morning when he went back to bed after his bottle he slept for an hour and a half; so not like him, usually his max is about 45 minutes so I am really happy with how he's going at the moment!

Its a miserable day here today. I think most of the week is going to be sadly. Was meant to go out walking this morning with a friend but yeah decided not to as the weather is just too unpredictable.

I also set myself a goal starting today - I'm on the mission to lose 5kg before Xmas, that will get me to what I was before I had K.
Ideally I would like to get to 60kg again but yeah one step at a time PMSL