Mel - I don't know about the 18 month thing.... I only got told not to get pregnant again for a year to allow everything to heal properly. Maybe that was to increase my chances of a VBAC cos my Ob knows how much I want one and my odds are on the low side?

Vic - I figure that if they are both under 2 at the same time it won't be so difficult going back to the NB stage. I was talking to someone who left a 5 yeah gap between her kids and now regrets it cos she says her daughter is just getting to a great age and she has to start again. I also don't want to leave ti too late incase I want more than 2!! You know, the tick-tock thing!! But I know what you mean about wanting it to be the right time.

Squidipa - I think you should see someone too before you burn yourself out with exhaustion. Poor thing!