6 weeks = wonder week. It's probably nothing you ate, just a big developmental leap that results in fussiness, extra feeds, bad sleep etc.
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6 weeks = wonder week. It's probably nothing you ate, just a big developmental leap that results in fussiness, extra feeds, bad sleep etc.
Yup, just did another huge feed - has been almost constant since 5.45pm. Must be the "wonder week", as you put it Marcellus. I might try and grab a shower and a kip while (if?) I can... not to mention a huge drink. Had to start on a hot night, didn't it?!
Night all, thanks Marcellus :)
PP i'd say most things are ok in moderation but you will find that bubs reacts to some things more than others and if it's a reaction you think she had trouble with you can know to avoid it for a little bit just until her tummy matures a bit. Hope DD settled for you, i know when Harper is a little uncomfortable she pulls her knees up a lot. Sometimes some tummy time or a belly rub and help with aches.
Cathie Charlie sounds so happy and content. Yay on the big chunks of sleep for you, hope it continues. I'll have the twins for a day, i'll gladly return them to you at the end of the day but they can come and play with my boys for a little bit :lol:
Kaz i hope you are having a little more sucess with expressing and feeding you little quoll. You've worked so hard and trying to get it right i hope you get there.
Georgi, Harper did settle in the pram and managed to get an hour or so and then in the afternoon she actually slept a little in her basinette. She made up for it today though, not as much feeding and a lot more sleeping. I don't know how you manage getting up to such an early riser, how many day sleeps does Byron have?
Jules i am noticing in myself that i am really relaxed with Harper compared to the boys. The only time things get a little stressfull and i don't handle it so well is when i have Harper in my arms and the boys are arguing or wanting me to do things that are just not possible. I feel pulled in 3 directions and want to be there for all of them. I hope Jacob settles for you and i'm confident that he will, the newborn stage is a trying time as there is so much to learn for both parent and baby. I'd have to honestly say to you that for me #1 was the hardest, i had so much to learn and the sleep deprivation was a killer. With #2 & #3 the sleep deprivation is a little easier to handle because you're used to inturupted sleep. Glad you had a better day today and hope they continue. Just keep guiding Jacob and he'll get there.
Marcellus how are you surviving the heat? You have been getting some very warm days lately. How's your little man enjoying his sister?
Audax Harper has been fussing at the bb a little lately, being a little noisy while feeding, pulling, kind of crying and then sucking away again. I remember it happening with my boys and it was something that passed after a little bit.
AFM I eneded up putting Harper in the pram yesterday (screaming) and she was asleep within minutes of leaving the house and was asleep the whole time we were out (took Aidan to the park & shops) and then slept a little at home still also. Finally in the afternoon she was happy to snooze in her basinette. Today was a different day. Harper was her placid little self, we went out for lunch and she slept the whole time, i had to wake her so my friends could have a hold and feed. It had been about 4 hours since her last feed, why can't she do that at night???? Last night i decided to make a point of sitting up feeding and getting her back into the basinette. She'd still only have one side then fall asleep, she went into her basinette no problem up until about 3ish then there was a bit of an issue. We got through it though but she was in bed with us after that. We pretty much only had 2 hours between feeds all night. Tomorrow could be totally different again.
Hope tonights a good night girls xox
Hi ladies,
I haven't been on much since bub was born as I find I just don't get time & can't keep up with persies etc.
Anyway my little girl is 2 1/2 weeks old, the past 3 nights I've had maybe an hr or 2 sleep a night.
She feeds on ave 3 1/2 - 4 hrly during the day & then the past 2 nights constantly from about 9 pm - 4am. She won't settle, won't go down in her bassinet & will only sleep when I'm holding her, within 5 mins of being in her bassinet she cries. She has also had bad wind & I think reflux. Yesterday she fed & instantly after finishing had an episode of blood curdling agonizing screaming and nothing eased her pain for about 20-30 mins. I spend about 1/2 hr burping, rubbing her back, lying her across my knees, cycling her legs, rubbing her belly after every feed to avoid wind building up but it still happens.
I'm exhausted from sleep dep & there have been a few nights I've sat here & cried because all I want is a cpl hrs sleep and for bub to feed well, sometimes we have screaming and she refuses to eat for about 15 mins before then feeding Perfectly.
Hope you're all enjoying your precious little ones.
When things settle I'll be here more often :)
Jules - Totally agree with going with the flow ...................................... flow.........................................
Kaz - Don't stress you are doing a wonderful job.
Audux - HI :hello:
Georgi - Yay for Edan, what a great sleeper.
AFM - Well not much to say, I'm feeling better Charlie is eating and eating he has put on 320grams. He is asleep now and so are the twins so I better do some house work.
Bye all Cathie
babyluv - do you have a bathtub? a bathfor you, and bring her into it with you may help - get your DH to help you both in & out, and put a washcloth over her, keep puttin warm wateron it. sometimes that works... or if you'r having trouble getting her to attach, she may be hungry. If you can, keep a little milk expressed and give it to her via a teaspoon, then try to attach - i'm finding that working for us when he just won't attach. :hug: i know where you're at hun, it's hard
sounds like everyone's doing well!!!
afm - mchn visit yesterday promising. have number of private LC we're going to try, hopefully she's covered with our private health fund as she is with some but not others. quoll has put on 200g since losing 460, so he's still 260 down from birth weight. sorry about typing, on left and only cause expressing. am considerng diferent pump as i'm getting more out hand expressing in shower than on my pigeon pump. dh is annoying me, great with quoll, ignores pip, and spends all day on the puter looking at properties we can't afford, then grumps at my excessive usage!!!
took pip & quoll for walk yesterday, pelvis still grating and quite painful, so panadol now in the tablet mix - am having 3 times a day: 2 blessed thistle, 1 fenugreek, 2 motillium, 1 voltaren, 2 panadol. oh joy. and in the morning my ADs and thyroid, plus iron liquid twice a day. Anyhows we gave quoll a feed before leaving, then the other side at the park, the first side at another bench, and then I was walking while feeding :) yay me! weighed myself - 72.5kg, which is down on my pre-pregnancy weight!!!!
anyhows, off to do the second expression ... have fun all
Babyluv, you could try feeding her more frequently during the day - maybe 2 hourly. That might give you a better break at night.
Hope you're able to rest up a bit :hug:
Like I said to Jules, DS was like that and the best thign is to just do whatever works best. For eg, we used a wrap/sling and carry him around during the day and brought him to bed at night.
:hello: everyone
ETA - Hi kaz, you sound more positive today. You'd want the best pump possible, I reckon.
Well done at feeding while walking
Hi all!
Cathie, so glad that Charlie is being an angel! LOL at the twins though… my sister frequently advertises a five year old as free to a good home too :)
Georgi I think you’re right about getting out and about. We got out of the house yesterday and today after all the rain at the beginning of the week. I’m tired, but it’s good tired, and I feel better than I have for the past couple of days. The sunshine helped.
Jules, the community nurse suggested using the Daktarin oral gel on my nipples but when I phoned Mothersafe (on the packaging for the gel it said it wasn’t suitable for kids under 2, but that’s only because of the spoon dosing thingie) the lady said it would probably irritate the skin (true!) and suggested just the Daktarin cream, I guess the stuff you’d use on tinea! But I like I said, I used the moogoo. Got their deodorant, too – nice!
Marcellus, my MIL swears by arnica for bruising :) Thanks for your response last night too. It helps so much to have people to reassure me when things go a bit haywire – I thought it might have been the 6-week thing as I had Hainan chicken a few weeks ago with no ill effect. She has had a couple of cluster feeds which is unusual for her, and this morning she stayed up for longer – we got in some time on her activity mat, which she loved, a story (Slinky Malinki :)) and a song (Cat Stevens – Moonshadow). She fell asleep while I was singing and then slept for about 4 hours… during which time we took her to my in-laws house. She freaked out when she woke up out of her bed – it took ages to calm her down enough to feed. That’s new as well – previously we could sneak her out while she was sleeping and she’d be fine. I guess now she’s more aware of her surroundings?
Audax, nooooooo for chocolate causing issues! Such a shame. No poo for 8 days? Wow. DH reckons he’s going to keep track of the nappies Amelia soils the second we put them on and charge her for them once she gets a job! We’ve had a number of explosions – as revolting as it is (especially when she’s a nudie – OMG) the look on her little face is hysterical. How nice is it when guys dote on their nieces? Both of my brothers-in-law are just besotted with Millie – both big gruff blokes who turn to jelly when she’s around.
Myboys it must be really challenging juggling the boys now. I think Cathie is amazing with 6 kids. DH comes from a huge family – he’s the youngest of 6 and little Millie is grandchild #19 (4 siblings have 4 each) and I can see how the kids look out for each other… can also see how tempers would fray when everyone is tired/hungry/sick etc too! I can see us having a few more kids… as tired as I am and as hard as the past few weeks have been, I want Millie to have brothers and sisters. I’m putting off thinking about the juggling act that will entail for awhile yet :)
Hi Babyluv, sorry to hear about your little one’s wind/reflux – I hope it settles down for you both soon. Have you been able to sleep during the day?
Kaz, brilliant idea about the bath. DH jumped in with Millie when she screamed her way through her first weeks’ baths (I would have liked to, but stitches – boo) and having him in there with her calmed her right down and she’s been heaps better with baths since then. I can see how that would help with wind too. Hooray for Quoll gaining 200g! That’s great :) and hey - what is it about blokes and computers??? I tentatively stepped on the scales the other day and was pleasantly surprised too. Not too concerned about weight, but am finding it really hard to get dressed of a morning – maternity clothes too big, regular clothes too small, and I’m a tiiiiiny bit sick of wearing stretch pants. *SIGH* I got a flier for a new Zumba class opening up nearby next month, so I think that will be my exercise in the new year :) I’m thinking of you and hoping your hard work pays off with feeding. You sound more positive today :)
MIL gave us SIL’s infantino carrier today – heaps easier to adjust than the Kapoochi my sister gave us – so we’re going to give that a burl tomorrow and see how Millie takes to it. It’s going to be so hot for the next couple of days though, not sure how far outside the house we’ll venture. I’ve been feeling a bit mopey, which is ridiculous as I really have nothing to mope about. I suspect it’s just hormones settling down again – I feel like I did post-pill/pre-conception, which is basically like a moody teenager. I hate being “glass-half-empty” when my cup certainly runneth over.
Enough blathering, I hope you’re all well. Just want to say how great this community has been throughout the pregnancy and since the birth. It has made a huge difference to feel so connected to other people going through the same things.
xox
PP - I agree with Marcellus - probably nothing you ate, sometimes I think it's easy to blame that but I don't think it's always the case... especially if it's something you'd already had before. I often have days where Jacob is on and off the boob for hoursssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss but it does eventually slow down into the night and he settles in eventually! Hope you haven't had any repeats of the night. Don't worry about speaking too soon, it's definately nothing you've done, it's just that one day is different to the next - as we are all learning. You're still doing a top job with feeding!! It may even be that with her growth spurt she's demanding more to build your supply? And I couldn't agree more with you about this little community of people we have here...all you ladies have been such a lifeline for me, I honestly don't know where I'd be without it. Just when I have a bad day or night I read one of the posts and someone has JUST gone through something similar and it makes me feel less alone. You girls are all amazing.
Myboys - Jacob has been very fussy too lately, he makes little noises while feeding and pulling back and trying to take my nipple with him, then letting it go and then wanting it back and getting cranky. It's so weird... but good to hear that's somewhat normal! How have the boys been?? I bet they love their beautiful little sister.
Babyluv - I feel your pain lovely...I am dealing with similar issues here. He seems to get a lot of wind and just SCREAMS, stiffens etc. Some people say not to wind babies unless they need to, then same say to wind them during a feed to help avoid an accumulation of wind... I'm just trying a bit of everything to work Jacob out. I have been reading a book "save our sleep" and am finding it quite useful. I don't agree with all of it - she seems to be keen on controlled crying whereas I am NOT... but I find some really handy information in there. Maybe you could have a read? - I suggest asking a few friends that have babies if they have it as we bought it then a few friends suggested it to me and offered to loan me their copy. Might save you having to buy it. I understand how you feel with crying through the night and just desperately wanting some sleep, I get much the same, it's completely normal and I think you're doing a great job by hanging in there the way you are. Just get as much sleep as you can when bub is asleep as every little bit makes a big difference. I hope you have some support with you, a family member or something? My mum is here and I find when I just don't know what more I could possibly do, I hand him over and I walk away and take a deep breath.
Kaz - Awesome work on Quoll's weight gain!! You're doing a great job. I hear you on the husband side of things. DH gets all this spare time to himself while I spend all my time with Jacob and not having time to do ANYTHING for myself. I will have Jacob fast asleep and hand him to DH to hold while I get some jobs done - as putting him into the basinette wakes him up most of the time and then he gets overtired and SOOOO cranky. DH will be busily playing the computer while he has Jacob in his arms, I just wish he would put the damn computer down and focus on his son. Yay on the weight loss!! I got back to my pre pregnancy weight within the first ten days but I have more I want/need to lose!!
Marcellus - how is Miriam today? I am dying to get my close carrier!! Might help dealing with the fussy afternoons where he ends up over tired...
Question! Does anyone ever stop their bub during a feed to burp them? or do you burp them at the end? or not at all? Do you try waking them up if they fall asleep on one side or do you assume that means they've had enough? I know that it won't be the same for each baby that's why I am after a few opinions..
AFM - still muddling through, trial and error, trial and error.... the good news is we are having at least one/two decent stretches of about two/three hours of sleep a night which is great. I just wish he would sleep as soundly in his basinette as he would in my arms!! The minute I put him down those eyes open and he's hard to settle again.. He has way too much awake time so it's like I am dealing with hunger, wind and MAJOR overtiredness... but today he is almost a different baby, he actually didn't cry through a nappy change, he listened to me sing/talk and he is even more alert to his surroundings than normal! Fingers crossed today will be a good day. Yesterday was brilliant, until 11.30am..he was awake until 5!!! I could NOT get him to settle for more than five mins.... oh my, bring on 12 weeks :lol:
Talk soon xoxo
I hope this makes sense, I don't have time to read back through it, I need to get to bed while I can!!
I think muddling through and trial and error is exactly the right way to approach parenting! :lol: That's how you get to know your child and learn to trust your instincts.
Overtiredness sucks soooooo much! I will put DD straight in the carrier if she wont' settle because I do not want to go there again! DS has spent most of his short life overtired :wall:
We had our first screaming session last night. I'm pleased to say that DH has not lost his touch for settling distressed babies! He cracked out hte songs and rocking and it didn't take too long before she calmed down again. Oh yeah, he's still got it!
And then again in the middle of the night. What fun :D
I think we can torture ourselves trying to figure out what we've done or eaten wrong, but most of the time it's just normal baby stuff (they're not consistent and constantly changing) and then it sorts itself out with a bit of time in any case.
I was going to get into the exercise again after my beautiful natural birth, but I think it will be a while before I'm doing much. Walking and sitting is uncomfortable at the best of times. Plus I get light headed if I do much - the house is in DH's hands and you can't half tell! He has this complete inability to do anything if DS is here. Maybe it's a man thing - he can't multitask, that's for sure. He has been doing most of the essentials though, so we're fed and watered (and laundered) at least.
I love slinki malinki.
marcey - the exercise situation does get better! I was having a hard time sitting for a while, and couldn't walk far, but yesterday, at three weeks, we put madam in the close carrier and went for a massive walk. It felt SO good, probably racked up 4km or so. She loved it, I loved it, DH was a bit jealous because he wasn't carrying her, but he took her out in it today. It really is the best thing ever!
Kaz - SO pleased your visit went well. Hope that you get somewhere with that LC too.
Babyluv - definitely try waking every two hours in the day, I do it, because our little miss does have some long day sleeps and definitely has the potential to get day and night confused. Except today - took two and a half hours to get her down and she was well overtired by the end of it, so I let her go for three hours.
Jules - I burp every time she comes off, whether she's asleep or awake. As for whether to wake her, it depends on what kind of feed she's having. If she's not long had a big one, I let her go, but if she seems to need more (like first thing in the morning) then I go and change her nappy to wake her up, and it usually works.
Got the massive poo right after my last post! She had her nappy off, and I had a prefold under her bottom, she did three big squirts on that, then I had to add another one, and two big squirts on that one, then she got into a third one! DH had taken the nappy bin downstairs to wash and forgotten to bring it back up, so I was yelling at him to bring it so I had somewhere to put my dirty wipes! Good thing was though, the nappies she did her artwork on were soakable, which made it nice and easy. And a day out in the sun has them sparkling white again! Yay!
In the hot weather, do we just trust that they will take on enough fluid on their own? Or do you offer more often than they ask?
Dunno Audax - wow on the poosplosion!!!!!! BFing is not really enjoyable, very hot to hold against me. I've been sitting him up to feed, he won't take it in the football or cross-hold, he did take on the floor lying down, but Pip was a little too enthusiastic for that again. Yay on the walks, that's great!!!!!!
Marcellus - sorry to hear you're feeling poorly, I have total sympathy for you. I've stopped taking the panadol & volataren (thought that 10 days was more than enough) and boy, am I feeling it in my pelvis. can't turn in bed etc again. doh. Might give my body a rest from the panadol for a few days then get back onto it if I'm still in pain. Need to lose a jelly belly!!!!
Jules - my doc has told me not to focus on weight etc, but to focus on his allertness levels. So your little man is alert more than usual - YAY!!!!!! that's great news!!!!!
Phoned the lactaction consultant, she's coming over tomorrow, she's upped the dosage on some of my tablets again, oh man I rattle! DH and I are going shopping at some stage, going to get another charm for my pandora-style bracelet for Will. He's also taken Pip out to the shops (in his PJs!) cause he's getting a bit too boisterous around the baby - explaining to a toddler that jumping OVER the sleeping baby isn't ideal isn't easy, anyone got tips????? (OMG just saw Bec Twiggley's wedding dress on the news!!!! StUNNING!!!!
Oh, and I have already been subjecting Will to good music - watching the Royal Tattoo here!!!! YAY bagpipes!!!!!!!
Happy New Year ladies!! Hope 2011 is all you wish for and more!! Been wonderful sharing so much of 2010 with you all! Xoxo
Happy New Year from us also ladies. We were out for a little biy but i came home, was in bed by 11pm and didn't even hear DH get home. My last few New Years have been with me being pregnant or breastfeeding... very uneventful. I know 2011 will be full of lots of fun times for us with our little ones. All the best ladies and look forward to sharing this growing time with our little ones with you xoox
Happy new year folks - may your problems be "little ones" and your joys marvellous mountains to climb. thanks for the support in 2010, may 2011 be more fun and adventure! Stay safe!
(Btw - who else had a babe at the boob at the stroke of midnight?)
HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!!!!!! I HOPE 2011 IS A WONDERFUL YEAR FOR ALL. :loveshower:
We watched the fireworks from our balcony with our little pea all wrapped up in her pod. It was quite lovely. I had a champers, then we put her to bed and sat up for a chat for a while.
Have not had a good day today, not sure if it's something i've eaten or if it's just Harper. She's been unsettled since this morning, barely slept in her basinette and the walk in the pram didn't work today. I walked holding her while she screamed and pushed the pram. She finally slept and woke not long after we got home, had a feed and a little sleep. When she woke from that sleep she had a bath which she really enjoyed and was really relaxed throughout for and getting dressed (even had a massage) then fell asleep in DH arms. He put her in her basinette and about 10 min after that she was screaming and didn't stop for more than an hour or two. I ended up giving her to DH in tears because i couldn't do it anymore. She just screams so much so loudly and i just hate her getting so worked up. Lately it seems like every second day is like this, we have a good one where she is content to sleep and feed and then the next is just so hard and she seems so unhappy the whole day. She is currently sleeping wrapped to me, i'd love a shower but i'm afraid to take her off incase it starts all over again. If we're following the pattern then tomorrow should be a good day right!? I hate her crying and getting so worked up.