I'm feeling really good today. I feel like I'm getting into the swing of motherhood - feeling a lot more relaxed and confident with everything.
Hi Michelle - welcome to the group! Sorry to hear your bub has reflux. I hope things settle down soon.
Andjxx: That's fantastic that Harris is putting on so much weight! It's nice to find out how much our bubs are putting on! Oliver had put on almost 500g since birth at our last check-up. Getting those tips on over tiredness must have been great! Do share .
1PJ: Oh, I know what you mean about wanting to go home when bub screams in public. I'm not so nervous about it now, but I remember the first few times I went out with Oliver I was really nervous about him starting to cry and me not being able to settle him - something about having an audience with your new and developing parenting skills.
Antheia: Glad you're still about. How is Orson doing?
Blip: That sucks that you've had such a long and confusing/contradicting time with the MCHN, etc. I think the "If in doubt, whip it out" idea is great. Our bubs know when they're hungry! And if it helps Darren to settle, why not? Congrats on the RAK! I suppose you'll get an avvy soon - that must be exciting!
AFM: Oliver has been feeding and sleeping really well the last couple of days. He was doing crazy-cluster feeds of an evening/night where I felt like I was feeding him non-stop for a few hours... but I think he was just trying to trigger more milk - cause he's not doing it anymore and seems to be getting plenty of milk each feed. I'm still using the nipple shield though... I think I'm getting too comfortable with it - I need to start trying harder to wean us both off it.
Here is the list the nurse gave me, it is for Babie aged 0 - 6months
Tiredness - General
- Jerky movements
-facial grimacing
-clenching fists
-frowning
-grizzly
-Yawning
- a lull in activity
- staring off
- Calmness
-Becoming generally quieter
-Sucking
Overtiredness
- Irritable
- Tense
- Arching
- Fighting sleep (falls asleep in arms then wakes when put to bed)
- Fusses on Breast or bottle
- Crying as if in pain - loud, distressed
- Short sleeps (cat naps of less than 1 hour)
- Looks Tired
- Startles easily
All these are well and good but, what to do when you have an over tored baby who just wont settle! I'm still trying to figure that one out. I think Harris gets overtired very quickly.
The nurse recommended the baby only be awake for an hour at a time - including feeding - and that the baby should always be settled in the same place and manner i.e in their room, calm quiet environment, dim lights etc - It's not always practical though is it?
We had a bad night last night - HArris had a great deal of sleep during the day and just would not settle after his last feed. Unfortunately I get irritable and angry when he is like that at night. He probably picks up on that too. Had a bit o a cry to husband last night because I miss my friends in Brisbane who all have small babies and I get very bored at home. It just feels like there is no purpose to each day (apart from feeding and calming Harris) and then when I'm not looking after him it's all house work - makes for a boring life!
baby_blip - Why can't MCHN get their stories right? Always telling us one thing at an appointment and then something completely different at the next appointment. How is Darren doing?
sydney moose - Hows Sammy doing? She sounds like a good feeder. I was getting 8+ heavily wet nappies!
Cyathea - How's Marley? You sound like you know what your doing! How are you feeling?
Will be back later to finish of personals need to feed lach!
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hi all! im so glad to hear that everyone is going so well! especially all you first time mummys! dont have time to write much. just want to know if anyone else is expressing? i expressed 120ml off one side today and bella drank that with no worries.. how much do babies usually drink per feed?
I haven't been expressing, but have been quite curious as to how much DS is getting. He's obviously getting enough as he's satisfied after a feed, has plenty of wet and dirty nappies and is putting on weight... still, I'm interested in how much he's getting.
Laura: I just noticed your Bella is another Friday 13th bub! There's a few here!
moring ladies!
sterla- glad olivers doing well & putting on waight! as for the nipple sheald - try taking it off at the end of the feed. thats what the LC told me yesterday...that way they're nice and relaxed and should (as a guesstimate) go back on.
andjxx- fed, settled in an hour mg: how the hell do you do that. darren takes an hour to feed! as for always settleing in the same place, im sure i could lug my couch to the shops i understand how you feel getting frustraited late at night, i know i do. esp. when my DH chris is 'too tired' after a day at work...and feeling like you dont have any friends. i can also relate to that. you'll get there!!
laura133 - i know that if you want (at this stage) bubs to sleep for 4hrs they need 90mls. and for three hours its 80ml. (mind you 90ml is more nursry and rather un-realistic!)
AFM- darren has toung tie (not bad though) and bad reflux. from what that LC told me yesterday, that is the main reason for the waight loss. he throws up half his food! so im ment to express after each feed (and still one boob a feed ...i think not!) and im going to my GP tomorrow to get something for the reflux, so that he can keep his food down, but the LC also told me to 'hold him up right' for 20mins half an hour after a feed. she also told me to get a bouncer for him so he can sit up right and i can have my 'own time' (which i didnt like...i like having darren with me all the time!) but going to the hossy LC was FUN. it was the first time i'd gone out with darren AND the pram...with rain clouds looming! i managed to get the pram all set up darren was hungry (had been for half an hour) so i thought "stuff this" and started to feed him. so i walked around the hossy bfing darren..the then LC told me i should have waited and i potined out that i had NO IDEA where i was going and i wasnt going to have a screaming babie. but towards the end of the appt she told me he has toung tie and reflux. i go back next wednesday (at the same time, so i have to feed him at 7am!) and my MCHN needs a kick in the...face. she called me on wednesday and asked if i wanted her to come over and waigh darren..when i said no. i felt pritty good about the feeds we where having and just really good within myself feeling like i was getting there - she said "it seems like im more worried about this then you" but im ok with that now. darrens put on 20g. so im happy. plus the LC told me that the MCHN got it wrong with the waights, he orgianly lost 80g. not 100g. i know its only 20g differance...but i feel SO MUCH better!
any one else found that now *every time* they hear a baby cry if their bub is down they go running to check on them? chris laughs at me when i do it!
Hows everyone? Today is the first day for mum and Sammy on their own as DH has gone back to work this morning. AS much as I was ready to have hom go back to work, its actually been quite nice to have the whole house to myself (well almost!!) and I am enjoying my first day as a stay at home mum! Sammy has been good, a bit fussy over the breast sometimes but usually, its because she needs to be changed ( she doesn't like to feed with a dirty nappy, how very ladylike!) but all and all, she is doing well and settling really well.
Blip: I can see your frustration with the MCHN, is there perhaps another one you can consult with or is she the only one? How much weight has Darren put on/lost since he has been out of hospital? I;m glad he has started to put on weight, I'm sure he'll fatten up in no time! I think your LC had a point though. I;ve got a bouncer and Sammy is almost able to fit into it now but I agree with your LC (and I know you may not want to hear this),but it is important that you do get a bit of time to yourself (even if its for 5 minutes) mummy matters too, its not about being selfish either, its about balance, but you do what feels right sweetie.
Sterla: Glad to see Oli is doing well and has been a good baby. As for BF in public, I;ve done it in the car a couple times in the back seat in the Mall parking lot. That can be an option for you if you feel a bit intimidated but the nursing rooms are great at my mall, a nice curtain and bench, not sure what they are like in Tassie. In the end though, if Oliver is hungry and you have to feed him in public, just don't worry about it and if some people stare at you or give you dirty looks, well let them stare or ask them if they'd rather have hear screaming baby, its all very natural and the bub usually covers 90% of the breast. It will get better the more you do it.
Melanie Kate: hows it all going? If you are wetting all these wet nappies AND putting on weight, I dsare say your little buba is doing just fine!
Andjxx: 600 gr is great!! I usually get Sammy fed and asleep within 1.25 hours, apart from her 2 "witching" hours which usually is from 10:30am-11am til about midday and dinner time til about 7pm but some days are better than others. Although there was 3-4 days over a week ago where she turned into a lil fuss-pot and wouldn't sleep for ages. I hope Harris settles a bit for you and gives mummy a bit of sleeping time at night soon. Is Harris sleeping more than 3 to 3.5 hours during the day in one sleep?
1pj: I wish they could tell us too, but then we wouldn't all be on here rattling on about what we THINK they are telling us eh? :P I hate it when Sammy starts creaming in public too, makes me feel a like a bad mum even though I know I am not. I'm sure we'll all get better and more confident as we go along.
Hi to everyone else I missed...One more question from me, where can I find a free baby ticker??? CAn anyone tell me?
My little princess is about to wake and I need to put the washing out first so better get going
moose: click on mine and a website pops up! i know i need me time - thus darren is sleeping on the couch now (doing a very cute attempt at catching flys!)but i like being with him (he sleeps in bed with me!) plus with all thats happend with him i find its better for me to have him near me becuase that way i know he's ok...and i know hes warm after it went from being 30+deg to 18 in the space of 24hrs lol. your lucky with sammy she only has 2 witching hours - darren is 'witchy' from 5pm-9pm normaly...then up again at 11:30pm- midnight so feeds can finish at 1:30am (with all this issues with feeds!) darrens birth waight was 7 pund 14oz. hes now 8 pound 2oz (which isnt huge...but its SOMETHING ) hopefully it'll be uphill from here!
Moose: its funny but i've tired darren in a moving pram and he's too alert for his own good, he cant see whats happening so he HATES it! haha. as for the car, he can see light moving so rearly falls alseep in the car. but i did *just* put him in his bouncer 'cus i had to pee, he semi woke up i put his dummy in and Bang, he's a sleep! hehe so i get some BB time now!
ren - im glad your little 8lb'er is going well i've found that a) throwing ANY clock out the widow has helped and doing what I feel is best because dispite being told his has toung tie (which im starting to really doubt, as he put on 120G before i put him on the bottle!) he's getting there. but i find out tomorrow! i've been following your thread in the BF support and you're doing so, so well keep it up!
sterla - thank-you for the comment about my avi, i only just saw it. i've had the last few days as 'darren days' where all i do i eat, sleep and feed him. and i've found it much better! im with you with the flat nipples, the LC i saw told me to feed with them, but at/toward the end of the feed take it off so you're both relaxed and see how it goes. i've done this and darren gets two/three sucks then gets annoied lol so it goes back on! but its getting there!!
afm: sorry i havent been around. i've been working on fattening my little light bulb (darren) up! and i think its working. i also went to the GP about his refulx and got some stuff for it (it tastes horrable!) which is helping. i see my (evil) MCHN tomorrow, this time im demanding she meusre him, not just waigh him. and if he's gained then i'm going to shove it in her face MY WAY worked, not hers! and wednesday i see the LC again, hopefully to prove that darren dosent have toung tie, and that hes just a lazy little sucker! but i feel good about things and i intend on staying this way. so i hope it all goes well tomorrow and i dont end up screaming at the MCHN...cus she's really...stupid! haha
Ooo darrens up, better go feed him!
Hope you're all doing well!
Hi Michelle - welcome to the group!
Sorry to hear your bub has reflux. I hope things settle down soon.
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mg: how the hell do you do that. darren takes an hour to feed! as for always settleing in the same place, im sure i could lug my couch to the shops 
i understand how you feel getting frustraited late at night, i know i do. esp. when my DH chris is 'too tired' after a day at work...and feeling like you dont have any friends. i can also relate to that. 
you'll get there!!
...i think not!) and im going to my GP tomorrow to get something for the reflux, so that he can keep his food down, but the LC also told me to 'hold him up right' for 20mins half an hour after a feed. she also told me to get a bouncer for him so he can sit up right and i can have my 'own time' (which i didnt like...i like having darren with me all the time!) but going to the hossy LC was FUN. it was the first time i'd gone out with darren AND the pram...with rain clouds looming! i managed to get the pram all set up darren was hungry (had been for half an hour) so i thought "stuff this" and started to feed him. so i walked around the hossy bfing darren..the then LC told me i should have waited and i potined out that i had NO IDEA where i was going and i wasnt going to have a screaming babie. but towards the end of the appt she told me he has toung tie and reflux. i go back next wednesday (at the same time, so i have to feed him at 7am!) and my MCHN needs a kick in the...face. she called me on wednesday and asked if i wanted her to come over and waigh darren..when i said no. i felt pritty good about the feeds we where having and just really good within myself feeling like i was getting there - she said "it seems like im more worried about this then you" 
but im ok with that now. darrens put on 20g. so im happy. plus the LC told me that the MCHN got it wrong with the waights, he orgianly lost 80g. not 100g. i know its only 20g differance...but i feel SO MUCH better! 
) hopefully it'll be uphill from here!
i've found that a) throwing ANY clock out the widow has helped and doing what I feel is best because dispite being told his has toung tie (which im starting to really doubt, as he put on 120G before i put him on the bottle!) he's getting there. but i find out tomorrow! i've been following your thread in the BF support and you're doing so, so well keep it up!
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