I have some special news to share, yesterday at 2yr 11m 5d Brendan said 'wub mummy'
Brendan is also enrolled into doing a speech and language course starting in a few weeks. He will get weighed and measured next month just before his birthday.
All is ticking over here. Liebling is doing really well - he was being a bit of a rotter after a holiday with my mum, but we've sorted that out pretty much now.
I wish Liebs would go back to "I love you very much" - today he just says "I don't like you Mammy." My fault for not letting him run riot in Church I suppose.
He is - sadly he's handsome enough that most people let him get away with it.
I've realised how my parenting style is opposing DH's though - I let DS do what he wants, answer his questions and encourage him to stick up for his own beliefs. DH has now decided DS has to learn to read, so spent almost 2 hours getting him to say "a, b, c, d" as he wrote the letters. Not worth it: I use fridge magnets and talk about letters when DS is interested, not when I have some time and want to fill it.
As I said to DH, his persistance and knowing his own mind (ie stubbornness) is an asset to an adult, so don't wipe it all out! We're currently taking the line that he does what we say NOW and can ask us why as he's doing it. I will always give a reason. But he has to do as he's told. So he can ask why he has to come to table and eat (he usually gets that one though!) or why he has to tidy up, but he has to stop making a mess first. I've got a feeling that will be OK with DH until he decides it's backchat from DS... sigh, I feel like I'm having to teach the both of them!
I know how you feel! DP and I have slightly different styles too, but most of the parenting is left to me these days. DP finds it hard to cope with Brendan's lack of communication/Speech/Language ect.
That's what annoys me - DH is a "parent" for about 5 hours a week. I do everything else. So why is he telling me what I should do? At least I got a nap while DH decided to do letters yesterday. I just think it was great Liebling told me he was drawing a circle while he did so.
I suppose on one side it's a good thing DH wants to play an active role in DS's development. But the other side is YOU know DS better and what he is happier and more capable of doing.
DP doesn't attend any of Brendan's appointments, he just doesn't understand that Brendan is not your average 3yo and he can't expect him to act like he's 30. lol... ah well...
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How is everyone?
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