Veronica, like you know, all bubs are different and they change all the time. Sometimes Jack is happy to put himself to sleep, sometimes he wants a little more bobby juice and falls asleep on the job. Same with Charlize, although she up until the age of about 13 months, never really put herself to sleep. But she does now, so they will grow out of it eventually. As long as it suits you to go with the flow, I would. But if not, I would try recommending stroking her head while she is laying down. Although I know this would probably do squat if she is screaming away. I reckon I would be picking her up for cuddles too. Sorry I couldn't be of much more help.