heya girlies,
sorry i been mia for a while, dealing with some painful PND and PNA atm
Dansta, glad the move went well, hows the settling and epic unpacking going? howd u go with ur oopsy? im taking its from the lack of news u got a BFN?
belle, CONGRATS!!!!! parkers going to be a big bro im so happy for you!!!
:wave: hi everyone else!
Mr C officially decicded he was over boobie about a month ago, just out of the blue went from feeding every 3-4hrs to only wanting it when he woke up and after his bath. left me very sore and engorged for a few days while be boobs caught up. then within a week of that he decided he only wanted it when he woke up...now i struggle to get him to have a bf every few days... waiting for my supply to dry up completely. i tried expressing but that has never worked for me, now not being an exception. he seems happy to have water out of a sippy cup but not a big fan of formula or cows milk no matter how i try to give it to him. i am struggling to get the reccomended 960mls p/d of milk and have been giving him more yoghurt and milk on weetbix etc.
other then that we had 5 teeth come thru in 4 weeks not includng the week just been) so have been having a right old time with that!! crawling is for losers aparently so we have seen SOME comando crawling but mainly bum twirling and grizzling when mean old mum tries to encourage crawling. hes more than happy to totter around holding onto hands and furniture, to the point of letting go with one hand so he can try and open drawers and cupboards, resulting in some bumped noggins and squished fingers but we now have the baby gate up to the kitchen.
i am seeing a psychologist fortnightly for PND, PNA and insomnia as i have REALLY not been coping or functioning very well at all to the point of my sister coming over and cleaning the house and doing some washing cos Mr C had no clean nappies or clothes. (we are using sposies atm for the same reason) now i am not bf my medication options are better as there will be no transfer. i am on the waiting list to see a psychiatrist specialising in PNA and PND, currently looking at May.
i was also booked in to get a gyno reconstructive op on 24th, got a call a couple of days before saying private health will not cover it so i would have to pay up front... we were looking at $1400 jsut for the hosp, not including anthesatist or gyno fees (of course not covered either!!) so we had to cancel as we had just paid the deposit on a venue for our wedding. so now taking the matter to consumer affairs people and hoping to get it sorted by novmeber otherwise we will have to postpone our honeymoon. no way i am going on a honeymoon without being able to DTD!!!!! not to mention we want to try for #2 sometime around the end of the year.
in other news we have had to rehome one of our kitties she really wasnt getting on with Mr C and was being a right feral (since about 2 months before DS was born) to the point of bashing up our other kitty (whose half her weight and size) so badly she was shaking and vomiting and had puncture wounds on her neck!! shes now living with a exworkmate of DF (who is a crazy cat lady just quietly) and loving it. its heaps quieter without her here but our other kitty and our dog are much happier and more relaxed without her.
DF started anew job last week and is loving it. hes 200% less stressed with same hours, less responsibility and more pay (work that one out!!) working with people who are passionate about the industry rather than just coming to work to pay the bills and doing just enough not to get fired. relaxed enough in fact that we have set a wedding date now to organise everything in just over 7 months.
OK I JUST REALISED HOW LONG THIS IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! id better go to bed quickly before its time for Mr C to get up!
love and hugs to u all
xxx
Lol AP bfn here...i just sent all my opps vibea to belle hehe. If you need an ear to chew im always happy to listen. Your a fantastic mumma. You are doing so well. As for the phi what a stupid thing todo, on their part
Ooooo 7 months to plan a wedding ay? How exciting! I'll be stalking it...maybe if mr c is walking you can have him as a ring bearer!! Yay for df getting a better job! Stress = sucky!
As for us settleing in really well. The bloke next door is over most days. But im not worried though. Hes...differant. If you've heard of shaken baby syndrome, he has it thanka to his (now dead) old man. So im guessing hes here for the normality of things. But he did put wood in our wood shead...and snuck round the back and busted me singing but we're loving it...vic is cuseing the couches and just getting into anything. Two teethies through this week toboot. Better go sounds like I have one of the boys waking up.
ap.. join the private support group, it is really helpful to chat about pnd without letting the whole world know. our dtd issues are still here too, to the point that I am so fricken horny and we try but we just cant, its like ive been sewen shut (yep tmi..) and now after sil's baby popping out, I'm more than ready for another bub. We try often, but im pretty sure I'm infertile atm because sperm is going everywhere and some of it musta got in by now.
Harlee is getting into everything, climbing the stairs, trying to jump in the toilet, trapping herself in the kitchen cupboards and trying to cook herself in the oven. She wont leave me alone either. I put her down, and within seconds she's standing by my side, yanking at my pants.. or when dh is home she's pulling at his leg hairs. She's only just started proper crawling, but is walking along things and can climb onto the couch. And shes pooing twice a day too.. all that food. She eats like dh.. non stop. She'll eat olives and pickles, anything really, she's even munched down a lemon without my knowledge!
Ap; bah I hope things get better for you guys. Maybe see if you can go public toget it done? Fwiw, dh and I never had a honeymoon...we had two nights away after our wedding them he was back at work.
Tali tmi but have you tried positions that take pressure off the pretniam? or maybe give the epino a try? I lol'd at harlee grabbing your dhs leg hairs. Vic does that to chris. As for climbing vic is doing that too.
As for us we're slowly unpacking and settleing in. kids are loving the space. I've been getting up early and feeding the chooks, and trying to get on top of the washing ect but its not quite worked out due to the lack of pegs and clothes horses. But now it should be fixed! Vic is standing and trying to cruse around stuff and when he gets told no he gets really cranky. Ahh well better go and see what dh is doing...still asleep I bet, lol.
AP - Sounds like you're doing it tough at the moment? What grounds are your provider refusing you on, it sounds quite unfair? I hope they can find a medication that helps get your chemicals back in balance and all goes well with the counseling.
Re: the milk intake -Are you going off the tin of formula to get 960ml p/d recommendation because that is very high and prossibly just a case of trying to make more money kwim. From what I've read the recommended milk intake is about 600ml of Breast Milk or Formula per day, the same quantity for over 1's but that can be dairy products as well by then. FWIW is it the taste of formula he doesn't like? Karicare tastes closer to breastmilk then the others, or Heinz even (Not GOLD, the gold formulas taste damned awful, you can taste the fish in them, DD won't have a bar of it) Because my supply is a little short even of that, I use the trick of making porridge or semolina in the mornings with formula, if your bub is a good eater you should be able to get 100ml or more into him just by doing that, it's a pain to make a separate batch to your own (if you're eating it and having cows milk) but at their age, cows milk is still quite deficient in Vitamins B, C & D and Iron, so try using formula in cooking and cereal if you can, I know it's so worrying when you can't get them to drink!
Dan - yay the move is over!!! Hope you're settling in well, sounds like the boys are loving the new house to explore.
Tali - DD is the same, DH is getting very possessive of his leg hair. I'm more concerned about the face mashing, biting, grabbing a handful of hair whilst trying to mush into whoever's face picks her up thing DD's got goin - it hurts!!! Girls shouldn't be so rough should they?
AFM - We;ve all had a nasty cold/flu thing - really took a grip, DD1 lost half a kilo in a week and DD2 lost a little too, not me though I just lost more sleep and patience, am still sick, it's been almost 2 weeks now, am over it. Feel like I've picked every thing up possible since bub was born , I prob should go and get some levels looked at at Doc's but who has time for that hey.
Hi everyone, sorry I havent read all the posts in this thread, but I just wanted to pop in and introduce myself.
Im Liz, I have a beautiful daughter who was born on June 16th 2010 (hence why ive come in here hehe) and we are from Perth.
She is an absolute gem, she is cruising around furniture and letting go, thinking she can stand lol. She's such a character, making me laugh all the time. But is also a cheeky little thing!!
Im a single mum and currently going through crap with her dad over where our daughter will spend her time. Sux, but got to do what is right for her.
Anyway hope to chat to you all soon xx
Haven't been on here in ages ... PM me with your facebook guys, I look at that more often than here.
Lump started commando crawling when he was 7 months and is unstoppable. He just sprouted 2 teeth and started babbling, which is incredibly cute. Haven't had a babbler or a commando crawler before so it is all new. His big sisters squabble over him like he's some kind of advanced battery powered toy ...
Food still hasn't become something you eat when you're hungry - its yummy, but boobies are the real deal. Only started solids at 7 months too, he just eats what we eat or what he finds on the floor. EVERYTHING goes in that mouth. I find flies in his nappy sometimes ... miss 3 says "Frogs like flies and Feo likes flies".
OMG it's been a while. I've been so busy with work... travelling.. it's only just started to quiet down now that Easter is here.
Welcome Liz to our group! What is your baby girl's name? sorry to hear you're going through crap with her daddy. I hope that settles down soon.
RE - I have added you to FB
Sas - we've been sick too... Lachlan ended up having to go on antibiotics and prednisone to clear his chest and I'm just getting over it now and it's been 3 weeks or so.
Dani - yay you've moved! I've seen some awesome photos on FB.. how are you settling in
Tali - sorry you're having issues with DTD.. I hope you get that sorted soon!
AP - It's probably a good thing that Mr C is over your boobies now that he's got that many teeth! I hope you too get your DTD issues sorted... noone ever tells us about this sort of thing when we give birth! Now I know why women elect to have C-sections! Their bits remain in tact! I still have a few probs when we first start DTD but then the pain goes away as we get into it and i'm fine. I'd just like to have it more often.. but DH is on depression meds and so his libido is down the tubes
Belle - YAY! UTD again! how exciting! Don't leave our little BB group though... I'm hoping that I am UTD in september so that Lachlan has a baby bro or sis by his birthday next year! Have a H&H 9 months xx
AFM - I can't believe that Lachlan is going to be 10 months on Saturday... where the hell does time go? He is such a gorgeous little boy. He has the biggest smile, LOVES crawling everywhere and is so huge he is now in size 1 clothes! he's 75% for weight and height, so I think he's going to be big all over rather than "fat". We are finally moving... after we get back from our QLD holiday. We are moving in with mum and dad for a couple of months while we empty our apartment put our stuff in storage and sell. I'm a bit excited about it all... can't wait to move into a bigger place. Work is going great, still part time at 4 days a week but I'm starting to think that I should be looking for a permanent position or independently contract so I can make more money... not sure yet, but happy where I am at the moment. We're off to QLD tomorrow, driving up and staying in Brisbane on the way up. Going to see Lachlan's Grandfather in Bundaberg. Not looking forward to it all that much cos there isn't much to do where he lives, so I get to cook and clean for 3 boys in a whole other state! Umm... Yay..
Sorry i've been MIA from 'round here! we've been busy with the house and boys. DJ was in hospital last week after a 3 seasures (at home) followed by another 5 in hospital. meds dosage upped - plus we now have another drug to try and 'stop' them but we still gotta call 000 as we dont know what his 'normal' is as such. but other then that (and me almost decking my *darling* FIL) we've been good. i now also have a "second DH" in the bloke next door. its a joke as DH is always telling me to clean/watch the kids/do house work. D next door is on about me baking, my cooking and how i look after the chooks LOL. but D's away for a week pig hunting. he told me he'd bring a baby one back...only to kill it in 12 months. needless to say i corked his arm!
Vic is getting more and more cheeky. he still co-sleeps but he woke me up yesterday by biteing my tummy! boy did it hurt. but he only has the four teethies still. with more comming no doubt.
Well I'm on holidays this week in a place just outside of bundaberg. It's my FILs place so I get to cook and clean in a whole other state for 7 days. We also drove up so I've got to endure a 2 day car trip home before I get back to any sense of normality. While we've been here we had to take L to hospital cos he was running a fever and was vomiting listless and looked so sad he ended up having a sever ear infection and so he is now on antibiotics. I was so scared! Dani I don't know how you are colic with DJ being in and out of hospital
All the time. You are super mum!
Tried to talk toDH about wanting to trying for baby number 2 soon and he is stuck on them being 3-4 years apart. I want to start trying in sept cos I want them 2-3 years apart. He isn't budging so I'm making him feel guilty by just sighing and saying sadly 'ok fine, have it your way I guess it's what you want and I have no say. My dreams and what I want don't count for anything and you're not willing to compromise at all' and that makes him feel all guilty.
Meanwhile I haven't told him I've gone off the pill so if we have an oopsie then 'oh well!' hehehe
Ok ladies I'd better get up and start my day.
Are any of our babies walking yet!?? I know Harlee is getting pretty close!
How did I miss that Belle is UTD again??!!! Congrats woman!
Dansta - I second Erica, what a tough trot your family is having with poor DJ, I really hope they can get him stable soon.
Erica - I don't know if your DH will buy a 'woops', methinks he may be suspicious. That sounds like a difficult holiday, we think our holiday this year is going to be my taking a week off and just hanging at home, maybe going for some walks or the cinema, going to sydney a couple of times to the aquarium or zoo or what not, as are too broke after pretty much every single expensive appliance breaking and needing to be bought this year . . vacuum, oven, hot water system, laptop, washing machine, so much for cutting back on work lol. How are you going at work? Still loving it?
As for us: DD is a poop machine, ew. Probably because she is an eating machine. She has finally learned how to eat (well greatly improved) without choking on every finger food type item, though I'm sure it helps that she now has 7 teeth almost 8 and has learned how to use them!
She can walk between DH & I for several steps today, and thinks it's a hilarious game, but hasn't tried it on her own yet, but I wouldn't be suprised if she's walking by next week as she can do it, she just doesn't know she can KWIM. Actually, edit to above, she just walked a couple of steps between the coffee taple and the giant pom-pom, so who knows?
I had mastitis of all things this long weekend, (of course I'd get it when the Dr's are shut, and no, no, no I will NOT go up to the ED unless I am unconcious, have a fever over 40, or am in an ambulance, so I felt like utter crap (as most of you know who've had mastitis, makes you feel like you've got an awful, awful flu) luckily since DD is an excellent booby drainer, she regularly drained my not so awesome amount of milk anyway so prevented it from getting worse and it cleared up on it's own without ABs but ech for a couple of days there, how ridiculous at 10 months to get that! DD is a scratcher and my suspciion is a tiny nick on the underside of my booby or maybe a little bite let an infection in and it went right to the spot I had it so BAD with DD1, so must just be weak there.
Anyone elses bubs little roughians? DD is a real hair grabber, face masher (I think she thinks that's a hug), bite/sucker (kiss), swiper, and will downright wrestle DD1 and just grab the object of her desire (say DD1s bottle) and hurtle off to the other side of the room. Am wondering if this is a second child thing, but ouch it hurts a lot, I'm not a large fan, I have to keep one eye open all the time when she's about or she'll just come up and bite my leg.
Sas.. Ouch! Mastitis! That makes me shiver.. After being hospitalized for 4 days with it, I never want that again! Maybe Lilah has cut down on milk so thats why you are getting it now?
Harlee is a bit rough too, she has only JUST cut her first tooth and she will sneak up to me and bite my toe, boy it hurts, she is a scratcher, a pincher and a hair puller, although doesn't sound as rough as your Lilah!
Erica.. Harlee is not walking yet, just standing by herself, but not for long moments. I think as soon as she is walking a few things in the house will need to change! It's scary what she can already get into, she has been climbing the stairs for over a month now, so fast too! And she is attracted to the fire place .. and the oven! So I had to buy a fire guard, but I really dont want to shut her out of the kitchen as that is where we spend alot of time. We go to peoples houses and she crawls off and is so quite.. moments later I find her IN a drawer, pulling everything out!
Feedind is getting very difficult atm, Harlee is full of beans/has ants in her pants like her daddy, whilist feeding she will walk up me, turn herself upside down, pinch me REALLY hard on my saggy boobs.. ulgh. I have breastfeeding necklaces but she bores of them quickly.
AF has still not returned, but I think she may be on her way, starting to get the painful cramps I used to have the week before. but well see as they have been going for a week now.
Theo is a glasses stealer. Which means Miss 3 copies him and sits on your lap going ooh aah goo goo *grab glasses*.
He still isn't crawling, he obviously has a quota of overalls to wear through first by commando crawling before he gets up on his knees. He's started climbing up us and the furniture and can get over a surprising range of obstacles just by dragging himself around everywhere.
DD#1 was crawling when she was 7 months and talking at about the same but DD#2 was nothing like that, so we've already been through the whole thinking we've got a slow kid (rather, just had a fast one first time) and are just enjoying him being an overly cute happy smileypants. He's a really lovely baby.
Was in Adelaide buying furniture the other day and all slightly older salespeople seem to think he's gorgeous and he obligingly smiles at them and they coo over him lol ... but then we stayed overnight at the inlaws and it felt like they pretty much ignored us completely so its nice when *someone* pays attention to the kids, even if it is complete strangers after us for our money. The odd comment we did actually get from the inlaws about the kids all got turned into discussions about their cousins (who they can see anytime) which is really annoying considering we visit quite rarely. I don't think they realise they're ignoring us or focussing so much on the cousins, and neither of us are going to speak up about it, we just try and minimise time spent with them (which isn't hard). Its a bit sad though, it becomes this reinforcing cycle where we visit infrequently, we don't enjoy the visit at all, so we visit less frequently ... and now we've decided to just stop completely as why bother if it is disrupting to the kids routine, noone gets good sleep and there's noone to fuss over them and play with them like happens at my parent's house.
We have a lovely 4br house with all new furniture taking shape and we can do shopping in Adelaide in a day trip with only two of the kids (eldest can get herself home no problem) so there's really no need to stay overnight at all. Also delays needing to drop a small fortune on a new car. My parents have worked this out, they visit us every few weeks instead, which is nice, and the other set of inlaws visit us (and drag their bored offspring with them) every now and again too.
Edit: the inlaws visited on my birthday last year and the MIL spent almost the entire visit going on in greeeeaaaat length about some friend of hers that had just died of cancer and again, barely talked with us about US and again, we bit our tongues and didn't say anything and just went OMG about it afterwards. We're wimps. Avoidance is better than speaking up
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erica: hospitals suck in deed. i got the baptisum of fire from both boys. so the two hospitals we went to in melbourne, they became second homes for us. up here we've been told we'll see them "more often" as well. i'm glad you told your DH you're off the pill and didn't just do it. that'd cause a rift with you guys - i've seen girls do that before and it wasnt pritty the bloke next door D is going though something like that with an Ex GF...and well yeah.
sas: aww poor thing with the mastitus! i haven't *touch wood* suffered from that yet. im glad your DD drained your boobie though so you didn't need AB's. and aww at DD almost walking. vic can stand with one hand holding on. im dreading him walking. its scary 'nuff as it is!
elf: i know the feeling with the IL's mine are fairly p!$$ poor too. my FIL has told DH he "cares very little" about me and my SOL. joy. aww at the lump commando crawling. vic skipped that part. and thats good about all the beds and stuff too! win.
AFM: been busy. Vic is walking behind things. from boxes ( yes we still have some around) to his drum to the pram. scary. all bets are on him walking before 12 months. DH still hasn't found a job. he's been fussy. but meh. rollerdoors are being installed today. Dj has been stable for three weeks...hopefully will remain so for a while now. although if he fits while DH is at work. i'll deal with it and i guess follow the ambos to the hospital. or something.
i have a sneaking suspition D from next door is up to something when i saw some frame work and asked what it was for i got told "if i tell you i'd need to kill you" who knows. the cheeky little monky (who i have claimed as a third child) thinks its amuseing again to up on me. but he has pruned our fruit trees.
I'm starting to feel i guess the "pinch" of it when the idea, and i guess the finality of not having any more babies. right now i am so utterly clucky i offered to "puppy sit" D's new dog. but i got told no. and no cuddles...now to hunt down a puppy for us! hopefully soon i'll have a puppy so i can go clucky over it...or else i may just join my hens in the chook house and lay an egg or two. *faceplam*
Better go offer the work men some tea/coffee bikkies ay?
hope every one has a wonderful mothers day...mines ganna be crud. my IL's are staying the flipping night..
heya girls
just a quick one from me while Cman is sleepiing. hopefully bbl for personals.
not much happening here, with mr c starting to crawl properly about 2 or 3 weeks ago. hes quiet happy coasting around the furniture as well, and can stand up for a few secs by himself as long as he doesnt notice that u have let go!
hes very chatty tho and will insist on being involved in any conversation that is happening around him and "sings" and dances to mucic funniest thing ever!!
we had his 3rd hosp admission over the easter long weekend with severe gastro that DF picked up from somewhere and kindly passed on. for a kid with nothing wrong with him, he certainly has a fondness for hospitals i tell ya!!
ive got a meeting with the public hosp gyno people on the 19th so we can hopefully sort this freaking thing out cos i am FREAKING over DF being sulky over lack of DTD. not that it really worries me the actual no DTD, i am still really struggling with the PND so its not that high on my list of priorities right now.
AF returned yesterday *shakes fist* and thanks to not having had the procedure yet i cant use tampons and i am really NOT a pad person and i have to get my sis to go swimming with cman on monday if its still around. blah who woulda thought itd be so inconveniet??
BUT on the cluck cluck front, some friends of ours had their baby (lil boy weighing 10pd!!!!!) last monday and we went and saw them today, and omg hes just GORGEOUS!! hes half hungarian so beautiful olive skin and dark hair and deeeeeep dark eyes. i swear i just about coulda eaten him!!
oops i had better go, mr c is awake again *sigh* hes sick again today and on lactose free formula since having gastro. fingers crossed this is just a 24hr thing this time.
love and squishy hugs to all
xx
Af returned here on mothers day dammit. Stupid thing! But hopefully fertility returned too if I can bring myself to go through labour again then we will go for more kids, dh is more ready than ever and is just waiting for me to be ready, doh!
Harlee is still petite, but standing very well by herself now, she won't let us hold her hands to get her to walk though, can't believe she's one next month! So scary!
Ap - aww poor mr c and mumma! I hope the gyno's can help you out. I think my stiches from vic healed funny so I have a kinda dip/ pocket thing. Hope your ok ap, I, around if you need some one to text.
Tali - naw thats soo cute about harlee! She's a cutie. As for af, bugger! As for birthing again, each birth is its own. I was blessed to have good middies, but both births where worlds apart.
Afm: another one whoes af showed up, the biatch she is. Shes not a flow. Tmi but ita freaking sludge! Like semi dried blood. Maybe next month she'll get the hint? Mind you it looks like my cycle is 21-22 days long again. *groan* vic is not yet standing alone. It wont be long.though. Scary and sad as he is my last baby. As much as I could do it again dh is adiment he wont have another. And he is really getting to me as I want a puppy but due to a) us putting bella down and b) him not having a job and being really fussy about the job hes applying for. Hopefully soon I guess. Dj has had minor fit this week; not enough to call the ambos though (it was under a mineit) hopefully its a one off...now I better go clear the boys toys up while they attack my tuppawear stuff.
Reply With Quoteshe really wasnt getting on with Mr C and was being a right feral (since about 2 months before DS was born) to the point of bashing up our other kitty (whose half her weight and size) so badly she was shaking and vomiting and had puncture wounds on her neck!! shes now living with a exworkmate of DF (who is a crazy cat lady just quietly) and loving it. its heaps quieter without her here but our other kitty and our dog are much happier and more relaxed without her.
now to organise everything in just over 7 months.
but we're loving it...vic is cuseing the couches and just getting into anything. Two teethies through this week toboot. Better go sounds like I have one of the boys waking up.
join the private support group, it is really helpful to chat about pnd without letting the whole world know. our dtd issues are still here too, to the point that I am so fricken horny and we try but we just cant, its like ive been sewen shut (yep tmi..) and now after sil's baby popping out, I'm more than ready for another bub. We try often, but im pretty sure I'm infertile atm because sperm is going everywhere and some of it musta got in by now.
I just lost more sleep and patience, am still sick, it's been almost 2 weeks now, am over it. Feel like I've picked every thing up possible since bub was born 
, I prob should go and get some levels looked at at Doc's but who has time for that hey.
yes we still have some around) to his drum to the pram. scary. all bets are on him walking before 12 months. DH still hasn't found a job. he's been fussy. but meh. rollerdoors are being installed today. Dj has been stable for three weeks...hopefully will remain so for a while now. although if he fits while DH is at work. i'll deal with it and i guess follow the ambos to the hospital. or something. 
up on me. but he has pruned our fruit trees. 
funniest thing ever!!
if I can bring myself to go through labour again then we will go for more kids, dh is more ready than ever and is just waiting for me to be ready, doh!
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