It certainly is Rory... and I don't want to resent it... I just want it ACKNOWLEDGED and appreciated... and I don't want to feel like I am "(betraying) my gender" (according to CJ Warren) by providing it... because it's not a huge sacrifice it's just what my family need... and my DH will happily take turns being the wife when i return to study (in part). What really annoys me are my peers who deny the role still exists... they pretend there isn't a need to be a non renumerated nuturer. There must be a hell of lot of confusion around as couples get together, have kids and look at each other saying "ok, who's going to nuture us now? Who do we pay? I don't wanna do it... society says i don't have to do it... you do it". Anyhow, as I said, i don't mind doing it but i want it's invisible need recognised and supported.

BTW Niall handled his immunisation needles very well... (put a price on that Economy: soothing one baby in pain... how much is that worth?)