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It's yours, Jess! Go out and have a ball, ok? You don't have my pity, I don't feel sorry for you - I just have an understanding that you are a fellow human being who puts her family first and I absolutely love that :) So, for once, have a guilt free night out to catch up with school buds and feel like a WOMAN in your community as well as a mummy! Your mum is being a gem, too.
I gotta go and think of dinner...
Thanks girls, knew you would not take it personally.. it has more to do with the fact that all the girls in my actual Mothers Group have June babies and they are ALL crawling / sitting / have teeth... so when we meet up Ally just lies there like a blob and cries as she is tired and does not know how to put herself to sleep. Their babies are sleeping through the night and will just put them self to sleep if they get tired, Ally still wakes at 11pm, 2am, 4am and 6am (and is then awake) and still only cap naps during the day like a newborn...
So I feel like she is not developing properly or as fast as the others... their babies are also so much bigger than Ally.. She has slipped from the 80th percentile, to the 15% percentile so that is not helping either... I'm not sure if I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill, but when I read the July girls posts it was all stuff like "my baby has learnt to roll"... and I was like, yeah, that is the stage Ally is up too she is not behind at all. Anyway sorry for babbling, I'm just so tired and wanted to explain that it had nothing to do with you all...
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CC
sorry I've been missing for sooooo long.. so much has happened.
Sorry to hear about your split Simone - hope things work out for you soon.
Cooking dinner atm so will pop in again later. Ciao for now!
Hiya Jess, has the rain arrived up there yet? I understand about having to simply share a vent. Like IK said, we know you aren't looking for sympathy...By revealing your battle that, like my signature quote says... everyone has one, it's just seeking understanding. Just to be heard helps hey? :) Sometimes I drive people crazy with my Pollyanna perspective on life but there's always a positive slant to every challenge. In your case I think you are raising children who will have incredible resilience! They'll be the kids who'll deal with a stinking hot day on school camp when the others are fainting all over the place! Verity experiences this all the time. In winter (even though we have central heating I'm very stingy and rarely use it) she doesn't seem to notice the cold as much as her friends who get driven to school in heated cars (Verity walks even on the coldest morning)... sorry to sound like a dragon mummy... but she's tough! And your kids will be tough too! I agree it's probably YOU who finds it the hardest to deal with ATM. So don't feel bad venting. This is exactly what this forum is for. Also, those of us who don't share that particular challenge shouldn't feel bad about it... like Mel who has got air con. It's ok to be grateful for something and not be afraid of annoying those who don't... I know Mel isn't rubbing my face in anything :) LOL (((hugs Mel))). I also momentarily felt bad about posting that my DH wrote me a love poem the other day... I thought to myself :"oh, maybe that wasn't very thoughtful given Simone's loneliness"... but then I realised that if I took that train of thought it would never end!!! Because then I would have to avoid posting about Verity's education in case somebody feels bad that they can't provide that? And maybe I shouldn't mention my DH's bonus because some people in here are experiencing financial difficulties... maybe I shouldn't mention that we are going on a holiday becaue some Junies haven't had one in years??? So I don't think we should censor ourselves either...it's ok to celebrate and be thankful for what we do have. It's up to each of us to be strong and deal with our battles knowing that this is a caring place where we'll always find a shoulder to cry on when the going gets tough. So vent Jess :) And celebrate the good times!... we all know how much you deserve your night out on the 27th so you get on here on the 28th and fill us in on every detail!!! :)
ETA: I can receive but not reply to emails ATM :( sorry to those who have emailed me recently! I'm not deliberately snobbing you all!
Bath, you reminded me! I meant to say about your poem (he wrote it for you, it's YOURS now LOL), that was such a beautiful thing to read about! DP would have to be very ill to write me something like that, but I know he thinks these things from time to time...sadly, I don't even know this because he's telling me, I know it cos I have to work really hard to think about what he's thinking by the way he's acting! Challenge has brought back some of the old DP that went underground (when switching to working in construction...which he hated working in), however, he was never disposed to really talking about how he feels about me. I thought that would really bother me, but mostly, it doesn't. So, instead of making me insanely jealous, I lived it a bit vicariously through your post :)
I agree, too, that if we worry too much about other people we will never be ourselves. It's up to other people how they process what you say and do, provided you are being honest and respectful about it. I don't feel any jealousy reading about people's aircon, bigger houses, better cars, appliances etc, because what I don't have I make up for in other ways that would just not interest others. My horse, for example. I am rich and privileged because I have a horse I derive intense pleasure from having, I live in a beautiful area that stays cooler than other areas of this city, I have a full social life that sometimes needs scaling back, I have interesting hobbies (to me), and I can sing better than a lot of people. They are my values and they make me happy. That same set of circumstances could very well make someone else absolutely miserable! We all do what we gotta do, in the end, to achieve our own happiness :) Even if we're not in our ideal situation, like Jess and Simone, we have our unique aspects of our lives that do make being alive just that bit better - our kids, our communities, families etc. It's all relative. We're not just a cheer squad in here, we're also the reality check because often we don't need empty agreement, we need a dose of the real deal. THAT is what I love about us Junies. What's left of us here does really warm my heart, even during disagreements and spats!!
Thanks for the call, Jess - it's nice to 'connect' from time to time :)
CC - If it makes you feel better, Oscar doesn't 'sleep through the night' even though he is barely awake during feeds and is back asleep before he realises he was nearly awake. Oscar does NOT self-settle! And he has no teeth yet. He shows no interest in sitting (though if he sat still long enough without propelling himself into a destruction seeking crawl he might!), and doesn't wave. He definitely has his own pace happening! And I couldn't give a rats about the charts or percentiles etc. He is a happy chappy, bulges out of his nappies and that's what I go by. You just talk about Ally into whichever thread takes your fancy on any given day, just come in and say hi here of a time!
Ok, this took ages to write and post between distractions, I'm off again...
Thanks for the acknowledgement ladies.
I was saying to IK when we spoke earlier that we should have a back to nature meet!
Euroa is on the Freeway and we have a lovely park where we all could meet up and get back to nature.It would have to be on a weekend so all the hubbys/partners could come or we could have it during the week, even could jump on the train....(I was thinking after the kids go back to school.)
Just looking at the timetable
Train leaves Spencer st at 8.13am gets to Euroa at 10am
Leaves Euroa at 2.18pm gets into Spencer St at 4.07pm
I know its a long day but it would be worth it, I could have a BBQ and there is a park for the kids!
Alright, I'm boring everyone now. Its just started to rain here again so I'm going out to enjoy it.
Hey IK - Haven't read all the posts yet - just saw you were in online now.
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IK - thanx for kind comments.
BTW nice to see you back in CC.
Sorry I haven't been able to stay in and keep up with all you prolific posters! I only got half way thru page 3, and gave up so sorry for not many personals - it's a bit hard to catch up. This is my BIG week, ie. 3 days work. Last day tomorrow, then 2 days next week. We went to teh beach today, and Giorgia got a bit burnt (not at all bad) Ruby was fine, but me! Mate, it's always that way, they were all creamed up, fed, watered, but when we got home I was starving, dehydrated and sunburnt and of course very cranky!
I'm a bit down at the mo, DH and I having some issues that have been going on for a very long time that are very frustrating, and I'm feeling so fat and flabby and revolting. SOO glad Giorgia is back daycare and I'm back at work, even part-time, she has been wearing me out as I'm so irritable at the moment. she is wearing a lot of it, which is really terrible.
Love My Girls
I'm always dragging Ruby in/out in/out of the car. She has learnt to powernap whenever she can! How did the 4yo immu go? That was seriously one of the worst experiences of my life, it's so easy to immu a little baby, and comfort them after, Giorgia still talks about how she likes the dr, but doesn't like sharp things. We are still to go back and get the chicken pox that we have paid for as we had to stop at two needles! We were both crying. ETA : Giorgia said thank-you too! and "I'm sorry I think I need to go home now" Talk about polite kids!
Also check out a picture on my blog of Ruby after rolling around in her cot - soo funny. Legs sticking out and fast asleep.
BATH - HANG IN THERE with the frugal thing. But enjoy your life while you are doing it. My Dh was handed a big wad of cash for a (rather belated) christmas bonus - so feeling very grateful, although most will just go on the credit card bill. BTW I'm exploring the art of home foils/streaks as it's getting way too expensive at the hairdressers. My friend and I have each had our hair done so many times we decided to do each other's hair with those loreal multitonal kits. I even got complemented on mine!!
NICKERS - I have done similar things to missing a massage etc. so many times. No offence, but I'm glad I'm not the only one. At least they let you rebook it!! Write it on your bathroom mirror so you don't forget again. (in whiteboard marker so it will come off )
Is it really friday tomorrow? I think I blinked and missed the week!
I think we can take a great lesson from both Jess's, that everyone of us in life is different, all faced with our own unique challenges. Just think how bored we would be if we came to this thread and everyone had the same story to tell- the reason this has become such a safe place for us all is that we have found a group of understanding and compassionate people to share our stories with, not a group who tell us what they think we want to hear, but tell us the truth and it is great. Jess I think you are a remarkable woman with a wonderful family, enjoy your night out, i hope you have a fantastic time.
Cee-Cee: I am glad you have found some comfort in the girls in the July thread, I am glad that you have found some babies with some things in common to Ally. Believe me though when she starts to do things they will just come in a rush.
Simone: Glad to hear that you are cast free, take it easy on that wrist though it still needs time to heal and get strong again.
We went looking at Day Cares today, the first one we went to I wouldnt even get out of the car and look inside, the outside just looked so run down and un cared for that I though I couldnt send Tori there and feel Ok about it, I told DH that I had to go with my gut instinct, and my first reaction- and I just didnt want her going there. The second one we went to was just wonderful, a fantastic clean, bright inviting atmosphere- really nice staff, modern facilities- it was awesome, so I am probably going to go ahead and book her into there 1 day a week. It was one of the slightly more exspensive centres, but I just felt comfortable there, and when it comes down to leaving my child I think that is the most important thing.
Tori has been really out of sorts today, I think she might be teething- she has hardly slept all day, and just been more clingy than usual. We are having a day at home tomorrow so that she can just relax, she can nap when she is ready, and there will be no in and out of the car.
Anyway I am off to make a banana and mango smoothy and then I am off to bed!
Missed you, Nickel :) I'm heading off to bed now. Tell us what you've been up to, what your musings have been!
Tomorrow I'm up early to doll myself up, doll Oscar up and clean the car out a bit. Dolling up for these Pixie photos - they're free, or I wouldn't go near a Pixie studio! Cleaning the car for when I leave it in to get the aircon done (it's a pigstye and I think they might need the room in there to get to the bits and pieces. Then off to Cranbourne to celebrate GFIL's birthday...95 years and still going strong! We'll be at a pub. This time last year we were reeling from a funeral and about to head into a fire season...hmmm, how time marches on.
Goodnight all!
Hiya Nickel and Ali... I'm off to bed now too *yawn* but good to see you both... will write more personals tomorrow... there's always so much I forget to ask and reply to... but before I go does anyone have copies of the photos of the last Junie's meetup at Rory's place? Nighty nite everyone!
Hi girls - its taken me so long to read through all the posts! I have had tradesman here today putting in a new hot water service (ours blew up!!!) and ringing up people for quotes for a new skylight, security doors, plastering and wardrobes!! I feel like I have had the phone on my ear all day. Marley has had her cranky pants on today too - not sure why. Went to have dinner with a friend who used to be my boss - she has just moved into an apartment in Windsor. It was lovely to have a child free night and enjoy a beautiful meal and a couple of glasses of wine.
CC - don't worry about chatting with the July girls, certainly no offence taken. Marley isn't doing much either (she does sleep through the night, so thats one good thing), no teeth, definately no sitting or crawling and she rolls one way only and can usually not make it back then spends the rest of the time crying cause she can't move. She is also in the 25% percentile but as IK said, its all relative when the get older and if she is happy and healthy, don't worry. They all do things at a different rate but when the get to 2-3 years old, they have all caught up. Please stay in touch with us as we would love to still hear from you.
Simone - great news about the cast and the way you are handling XH - keep up the good work and hope you enjoyed your night out.
Nic - chaddy is a nightmare! I can never find my way around and eventually end up buying things at stores that I have at my local shopping centre. They do have good kids clothes shops though. I got AF back after 8 weeks! 6 weeks with Chelsea. It came back with a vengence too - I get headaches, cramping and its sooooo heavy - i can sympathise with you. Hope it moves on quickly for you.
Jess - You do an amazing job raising a family on $600 a week! You should never worry about what you post - feel free to let it flow! You could probably teach me a thing or two about how to conserve money - I am hopeless! Have a blast at your high school reunion - and stay out really late LOL!!! I have never been to Euroa (or many other places in Victoria actually which is pretty bad)
IK - you have such a lovely way with words - I always enjoy reading your posts. Great news about air con! The pixie photos are good esp when they are free - hope they turn out well and capture Oscar with his cheeky little smile. 95 and still going strong, how awesome - hope he has a lovely birthday.
Nickel - sorry to hear you and DH are having problems. I think we all have fat, flabby days, just ride with them. Our bodies go through so much change after babies and I think its move obvious after subsequent pregnancies! Be proud and beautiful! PML at the photo - reminds me of how Marley sleeps. Sunburn is a bugger - it stings and doesn't cool down for ages. Rubbing tomatoes on it helps, the acid in them helps take away the sting - looks pretty funny too! Love what Giorgia said after her immunisation. Chelsea has no reactions at all, you coudn't even see where they had done it. She told DH that she had 2 "noodles", he could not stop laughing!
Ali - thats great news about the daycare centre. Do they have a place for you? It is so true that you get a gut reaction about the right place. I am sure Tori will love it - playing with lots of other little kids. The banana and mango smoothie sounds really good, I am so damn hot right now. All air con is off and the house is so stuffy.
Bath - extremely well said and I couldn't agree more. I love hearing about everyone elses lives, its interesting and we all do lead very different lives. I wouldn't want any of us to feel we have to censor our posts - its what makes the Junies so special. I promise I wont talk about air con anymore :lol: LOL!!
Might think of heading to bed - got to go and get the party stuff tomorrow. Fun, fun, fun!! Night girls.
Not much from me, i didnt get home until 4.30am... Just me and Anneliese home today, i cant stop yawning, and CANNIWAIT until she goes down for her nap... i will be joining her!!
Will catch up on personals a bit when ive caught up on some sleep... im getting too old to stay out all night...
Short one from me - just spent ages putting the pics of our meet on the website and setting a password (will email you all individually)
I am up for a meet in Euroa - never been on a v-line train!
Euroa sounds pretty good, although i would prolly drive out there. A couple of the girls are also looking at doing a meet in Warrnambool, and i've never been down there, so looking at going to that too... 3.5 hours away!!
ali and ceecee, can you pls send me an email with your addys - I couldn't pm you both
Thankyou sooo much Rory for uploading the Meetup pics :) I've copied some already and will add them to my Junies Album too if that's ok. I'm also going to add a password too to help preserve privacy.
Isn't a gorgeous day! Love the rain.
Niall has just gone down for a nap... so much to do!
LOL at "getting too old for late nights" Simone! Hope you sleep long and deep.
Your night out sounded lovely Mel. Good luck with all the tradesmen and Marley's mood! You are so organised with your personals... 10/10 ;)
Ok... chaotic mess in main living area... got to be dealt with before I have any more time on here... will take a few hours... back after lunch!
Bath - When i turned 18, i used to work from 6pm-6am in a bar/nightclub, then have staff drinks, head home, couple of hours nap, up for an early dinner or drinks at the pub and back to work!! (My weekends anyway) weekday were fro spending with friends at the beach, nights at the pub... Now i have one night out a month (*if that) Dont have ANYWHERE NEAR the amount of drinks i used to(last night i had 2 Yellowglen chamagnes, they have a new one called "Bella" its yummy :)) And 4 vodkas. Now while i do not feel the affects of those, i am so tired because when i drink, i cant sleep LOL!! so ill be stuffed today... let XH have the car (Before you all tell me off!!) he was going to catch the bus, but it was raining, and the trade off was he had to get up earlier and come around and get the boys dressed and packed for daycare, dropoff and pick up. Which is a pretty big job. And i figure me not using the car is saving fuel! (As XH always put about $5 every time he drives to the station, and it would use less than $1 of fuel...) And i dont mind catching public transport if i only hvae 1 child!!
Thinking of buying a new stroller today, i want a layback one. I already have one, but the wheel fell off :( and i cannot find it!! Much easier to run around the shops with Anneliese in the HAB, declan in a stroller and xander alongside...
Well, what a longwinded post about nothing!!
Simone: I had a glass of Bella on New Year's Night... I agree, quite yum :) And a very pretty pink!
Just put attempt number 2 of IK's slice into the oven... added currents... used proper sugar, made a slightly larger quantity of it because the last batch was a fraction too small for my slice tin and I wasn't going to go out and buy another tin. *fingers crossed* Oh and regarding the spreading of that tricky top layer: I cleaned my hands thoroughly and gently used my fingertips to join the dots... much easier... a bit like forming shortbread which is done with finger tips too.
*fingers crossed* for you bath, hopefully it works out this time...
Well, im trying to get up and motivate myself to do the 4 loads of washing sitting on my couch, and the dishes in the sink... but im just knackered. And i have no juice to mix my enliven with, and i cannot stomach it with water :crying:
Do you have any tinned fruit? maybe you could wizz it into a smoothie with some ice? I took some too today and I feel so much calmer and productive. I woke up, took one look at the mess and turned to the fridge for my InLiven LOL
ETA: Nickel: Enjoying reading your blog too btw :) Also... do you need an avatar made for you? I feel like doing another one!
ETA: Mmmm slice turned out much better! We're all having some for afternoon tea... still a little warm but I can tell it'll be more chewy than crumbly when it cools... it's much better for being thicker and the currents are a definate keeper! Oh and I'm changing tack with my kids and their holidays eating habits. They now have 3 meals and 2 snacks per day.... no more of just grazing whenever they feel like it. It was getting way too hard to keep track of how much they were eating and they were FOREVER in the bloody fridge/pantry! And the fridge wa starting to struggle to keep things cold I think. It also was impossible to keep the kitchen tidy and food out all the time is starting to attract ants... and there's this whole set of repercussion of grazing that has now stopped because for once I have implemented some structure. Grazing is good in theory but with kids it just doesn't seem to work.... older ones that is... it's hard to keep 1 and 2 yos into a strict eating routine.
im going to have to find something to take it with. i need my fix LOL.
i have almst nothing in the house, too tied to go shopping :(
Bath - thanks for my 10/10!:lol: I stay up far too late some nights to read them - but I like to keep up to date. Your slice sounds good, will have to whip up a batch myself now. Re the grazing thing, we have strict rules here as Chelsea would eat all day! She can have a mid morning snack and an afternoon snack (usually fruit or rice crackers, but ocassionally and icypole) and definately no eating after 4pm. Since we implemented this rule, she nearly always eats her dinner - before she was just picking at it. I too get sick of shutting the fridge or pantry cupboards - or he telling me "I'm really hungry" after just having something to eat. Very good rules to have. The tradesman have been pretty good. Wardrobe man (Henry) is so lovely, so he has quoted on 2 new wardrobes put he gave me some options for Marley's which I need to talk over with DH but they were fantastic suggestions. Chelsea asked him if he knew the other Henry - Henry the Octopus!!! Skylight man rang back and gave us quotes over the phone, plaster came at 10.30am and will call us back with price and security door man coming next Tuesday. Almost all done. Just have to go to glazier for some new glass near out front door and call the tiler - I want to get all this done before we go away in 6 weeks!
Simone - you party animal and if you are too young to stay out, we must be ready for the retirement home LOL!!!! Hope you can get motivated soon - its so muggy today. How is it without your cast? Did you manage to get something to have with your inliven?
Rory - will go have a look at pics now. Thanks for passing them on.
Had a busy morning. With the party on Sunday, I have been racing around getting supplies. Went to Spotlight to get most of it, still need to get a couple more things which I might do tonight (if my brother can come over and watch the girls) as DH is at work tonight, then tomorrow morning. Still need to buy food and alcohol and start my cake, buy Chelseas dress! Tomorrow is going to be even worse.
No enliven here :( going to get some stuff for spring rolls for dinner (some great recipes in the recipe section) so will get some juice then. REALLY muggy here,has been raining all day and has recently stopped, about 30 here now :( My wrist is still quite sore, but only because i have some ligament/cartlidge damage, so just have to take it easy and ease back into using it. Sounds like you got alot accomplished today!!
My poor baby is so hot! We have to somehow procure a urine sample from him to get that tested, to rule out a UTI. Otherwise it's some virus that will run its course and require regular doses of paracetamol to keep his temp down. He is so hot that he often can't keep his feeds down. Most of his feeds come up and they are hot, too. His mouth on my breast is so hot, to match his hands, throat and belly. I'm feeling sorry for us both, so forgive my heaviness of feeling. I've been pouting all day. He hasn't climbed a single piece of furniture today, hasn't giggled or even tried to laugh - but he did manage to crack a smile at some rellies for his great grandfather's 95th birthday lunch. He has been sleeping a lot. He is not very interested in food and that's worrying me a bit because I can just picture him tied to a drip in the hospital! Very melodramatic, I know, but even when he has a cold he can manage a bit of cheer. Woe is me and Oscar :rolleyes:
My car is having its enhancements done (other luxuries, apart from the aircon, are the rear demister that doesn't work and the boot release to be connected because that also never worked!) and should be ready by the end of today.
Pixie Foto never happened because I took Oscar to the doctor instead (I think DP thought I was overreacting, but it was the 2nd morning he had woken up feeling HOT, not just warm...temp of 38.8), so that will have to wait.
Might have a nap after paying uni fees - feeling very depleted.
ETA: Damn VSU! I've just realised that there are no fees payable because some d*ckhead senators thought unis run on fresh air and now, if I want some childcare on campus I will have to pay through the nose instead of just my once off annual payment that subsidises everything! I am so angry and dismayed! You would never think that someone would WANT to pay that amenities fee, but what I wouldn't give to be able to pay that again!
well ive been cleaning skirting boards/walls/doors all afternoon! Real estate are coming on Monday to take some pics of the house so getting it clean clean clean...
going to see Tenacious D tonight and neighbour is babysitting for us.
where did u go out to Simone?
Rory- thanks for the pics!
Nickel- good to hear from you again, hey dont wory about the fat flabby feeling i feel like that neally every day. i started my diet last week, went so good the 1st week then this week ove just been getting lazier.
Bath- your cooking sounds yumy i can almost smell it!
great rain here today, hopefully it helped to dampen some fires.
ali- its worth paying a little extra if u know Tori is going to be in the best possible care
Nic - i went to a few local bars/pubs, and went to some persons place (friend of a friend of a friend sort of thing KWIM? :))
Have fun at Tenacious D, that would be awesome to watch... love 'em :)
IK - poor little man! Have you tried him on any water? I know he doesn't take to kindly to the bottle, but might be worth a try if he is not interested in feeding. Maybe a cup? You can also rub him over with a luke warm cloth or a bath, but the water has to be tepid, not cold as that can have a bad effect on their blood pressure (my friend is a nurse and I always remember her telling me that). Do you have a fan that you can lay him down and let it blow over him? Its going to be tricky to get a wee sample. Hope he feels better soon - and you too! Its a bit strange that no compulsory amenities fees this year. I will have to remember that when I go back! The list of extras you have to pay for it pretty high, like to apply to graduate, new ID, late enrolment etc. Its a shame really as the fees were not super expensive. Have you investigated childcare there yet. The one on Beddoe Ave looks really nice from the outside and one of our doctors sends her daughter there and has been very happy. Not sure what fees they charge but you would get child care benefit for all 3 centres.
Simone - you'll have to start physio soon and get is strengthened up!
Nic - DH loves Tenacious D (esp Jack Black!), where are they playing? Have a great time.
Its on at Festival Hall. we seen them NYE 2 yrs ago at Luna Park party but it was just the two of them then it was great though, they have a whole band with them this time i think.
I love jack Black he is a pis#er....
I hope Oscar doesnt have anything serious, like Mel said a damp cloth or fan might help cool him down a little. doesnt help when the weather is hot and muggy. keep an eye on his temp, if it gets past 40 i would be taking him to hospital to be on the safe side.
oh and Happy 7months to Marley, Nathan and Oscar (although he's not too happy atm)
Peace descends! DH has taken V&W to a Little Athletics Twilight meet so it's just Niall (who has just gone to sleep) and I :)
IK: You can get little collection bags for urine samples from the chemist although I'm surpirsed your GP didn't just give you one. It might be a bit easier to collect from a boy as they often show signs of it coming if you let him have nappy free time long enough. Verity had a UTI when she was about this age... babies with it often let out this particular high pitch cry when doing a wee. I knew when Verity was doing a wee even when she had a nappy on because she cried in this particular way... I was alerted and able to make a collection of wee. Otherwise you could sterilze a small tub and hold him over that as he does a wee then pour it into one of those yellow lidded sample jars like they gave us when we were preggers. It will be interesting to see if Oscar breaks out into a rash in about 4 days time. Don't panic if it's just on his torso and the spots are tiny. It's most likely roseola which Niall had a few weeks ago... and once the spots come out they are fine. It must be soooo uncomfortable for him with this humidity :( And don't be surprised if his temp peaks tonight... it's often the way with fevers and children. Give Nurse-on-call a ring if you get worried. Sometimes illness in babies is just as hard on us poor mums! We worry ourselves sick!
Well interesting news here: I wasn't going to mention this (because my own mother tended to embarrass me when she discussed these things with other people without my permission) but Verity calmly announced she's received her first visit from Aunt Flow a few days ago. She knew the deal.... did an excellent Growth and Development subject at school last term and I've always been open about it with her. When she was about Wade's age and it was just us at home I would sometimes call from the loo and say "Verity! could you get Mummy's bag of things for The Blood". (pads etc that were kept in the bathroom next door). I also only discussed the subject when she asked questions not wanting to push the issue with her... she asked a few more questions the other day but she's very up-to-speed. Thankfully it seemed to be very light for her... she didn't complain of any cramps and has been in a very good mood too! Anyhow, lo-and-behold mine arrived for the first time since having Niall today! I had a bit of a dream run this time... it came back a lot earlier after V&W were born. I didn't feel it coming, no cramps or anything either so let's hope it too is blessedly light! Anyhow, I'm not going to be the kind of Mum who tells all my women friends at playgroup etc. it was all too clear how mortifying that was... my mother also made it sound even worse by her dramatic portrayal of how it arrived on my first day of high school. Thank God history didn't repeat itself with Verity! Anyhow... I must say it's quite an strange thing to get used to...
back in a tic...
Wow, verity is growing up quickly... naughty you for discussing it with us LOL. it also wasnt a taboo subject in our household, we all knew what it why and why it was. Easier then confusing the poor kids!!
Well, just gave Anneliese a bath, dinner (swet tonight, she hates savoury in hot weather) and put her to bed with a bottle - she's holding them up on her own now!! boys just having some quiet time watching a movie while mummy recoups...
Yes, she is growing up way too quickly... bittersweet. The subject isn't taboo in our family. As with all issues of a private nature we just prefer to err on the side of caution when it comes to discussing each other's personal business with people outside the family. We are very open within our family. You all know how anti-taboo I am and don't shirk away from the hard issues. There is a difference however in blurting it out to the world like my mother did... that destroys trust. Infact because Verity knows how strongly I feel on respecting the dignity of everyone within the family she trusts me with a lot more information than I ever did with my own mother. My mother though it was a huge joke that I was embarrassed to talk about personal issues and would raise the subject deliberately when her friends were over. "Tell them how we went shopping for your first bra the other day!!!" This was her way of teaching me not to be a prude... because that was her agenda, that I not grow up to be a prude. She thought that the way to get me used to discussing sensitive subjects was to make a joke about it... yeah, very funny, ha ha :( Now all those friends of hers have obviously been embarrassed by her too and she's growing old alone never having had learnt to respect people.
She is a beautiful strong young woman who looks on you as a role model, not shying away fromyou because you might embarass her. You look like you have a really good relationship with her, and that is something you should be extremely proud of. You have brought her up so well. :)
She's growing up! Well, it IS a milestone ;) You are not only a good role model for her, I aspire to raise my family in many similar ways that you have!
Thanks for the tips, girls. I have a feeling it may be gastro - I'm upping the hygiene practices around here JIC! His poos have been a little on the green side and he is throwing back up everything I feed him (well, 2 out of 3 feeds get thrown back up). Still, could be something else. Bath, we were given a sample container as well as a collection bag and in the end stuck the bag on cos he wasn't peeing for nobody the whole time I was on the floor with him - that's why I was wondering how we were going to get the sample! He'll probably have to give another sample if this one comes up positive. He even put himself to sleep in the portacot earlier - that's not his usual self at all. Also, before I read your post, Mel, we had put him in the laundry tin and DP had it cold, so I added warm water to take the chill off it...stopped the whingeing straight away. Good thing, too, since you alerted me to the blood pressure thing. And DP gave him some sips of water in an Avent sippy cup we have. Thanks, Nic, if I have to drive him on my own to the hospital then I will, if his temp hits 40 - I won't be talked out of it and told to take a chill pill! I have Nurse On Call number on the fridge. I hope his fever breaks before tomorrow's heat.
At least I now have aircon in the car, so if I have to I'll conjure up a destination to drive to for cooling purposes. Oh, the auto elec's young offsider messed up and didn't tell him about the demister or boot release (he'll get his arse kicked, I could tell!), so I'll take it next week to get looked at.
Happy 7 months for Nathan and Marley! I keep remembering, forgetting, remembering, forgetting...so now I've been reminded!
Nic - when you talk about all the cleaning and organising, it makes it seem so real - which is silly, cos it IS real that you're moving! Have a good night tonight, too :)
Mel - I never got a response from the Caulfield childcare when I emailed them about the two Fridays I had chosen for my weekend school, so I may just leave this mite with DP. For other uni visits I will venture to leave him with my dad or DP's mum or one of various keen brigade partners! I just would like to have him with me. In fact, if I'm just photocopying, borrowing books or using SPSS at uni (might have to buy the Windows platform software for Mac so that I can buy SPSS for windows, cos SPSS for Mac is upwards of $800!!), then I can probably bring him with me and use the sling. Then I would HAVE to take regular breaks of fresh air for my brain and for Oscar's sake. It is just too weird that our amenities fee has been taken from us. Young Libs might think this is great...but wait till they realise where else they'll be paying for things...and more than just once a year! d*ckheads.
Simone - glad you had a rager last night! Must have allowed you to let off some steam :)
Rory - they are great photos, I'll upload mine shortly (if the hobbit stays asleep). Thus far he has been asleep for nearly 40 mins...DP and I sort of took the opportunity to ummm...with the curtains open...a bit naughty, but I like to feel a little naughty, that works for me ;)
IK - i hope oscar gets better soon, i've taken Declan in before with a temp of 40.6 and they told me it was nothing, mademe wait hours to see a dr (never got to see one in the end!!) so stand your ground and make yourself heard! At least the temp is now only meant to be 32, not to initial 40 mark we were terrified of all week...
you exhibitionist you IK LOL
Happy 7 mths to Nathan & Oscar. Sorry if I don't remember all the other bubbas, I have trouble remembering my own. Thanks Nic for the reminder. I seriously didn't even twig about it being the 19th!
Nic - make sure you tell us all about it. What a great night to be out in St Kilda, hopefully a nice walk along the beach or a yummy dessert and coffee at one of the cafes.
Bath - what a big milestone in Verity's life and thank you for sharing it with us. It is so wonderful that she can talk to you so freely and not be stressed out about this monumentous event. I certainly hope that I can have the same effect on my girls and that they can be free to discuss any issue with me. Might be calling on you in about 7-8 years time (hopefully we are all still in touch) to get some advice, maybe you could run a parenting hotline we can call? Like IK says "You are not only a good role model for her, I aspire to raise my family in many similar ways that you have" - I think you are a good role model for us! My mother was a shocking mother and I really hope that none of her traits are passed on to me. I think thats why I was sent girls, to test me out LOL!! Enjoy the serenity of a quiet night.
IK - you are doing everything you can for him. Just keep up the fluids and the panadol every 4 hours. Wonder if it could be gastro? Is your campus Caulfield or Clayton? Didn't even realise they had one at Caulfield. When did you email them as I am sure they would have closed for an extended period over xmas/new year. I am sure they wouldn't care if you took Oscar in. A few of our RA's have young children and most work from home but sometimes need to come in to meet with their boss and bring the bubbas in. We all love it and sometimes they leave them with us. We are a much friendlier mob than they are at Caulfield or Clayton! You could check with Alex who is the School IT Manager about SPSS as new licenses came in at the end of last year. He could guide you and answer any questions. Go you naughty girl LOL!!!!! ;)
Happy 7 months to Nathan, Marley & Oscar!!
and bath, i didnt offend you at all did i?? i just read through my posts and through yours, and thought that i might have... i so didnt mean to if i did, im really sorry...
Well, this is my last night online, i have posted in the boohoo about it. I'm going to be so alone, with no-one to speak to... hopefully i'll be able to afford a cheap computer and maybe fork out for some dial up, and then i may be able to get online again...
Simone - I read your post and I wouldn't be handing anything over! If you and XH are divorcing, then the computer would need to be considered in the division of assets. If FIL was stupid enough to put someone elses name on the paperwork, then thats his problem. You can't give someone something, then change your mind and take it away. I wouldn't think he would have the right to do that legally. I would ask them to wait on taking it away until you find out your legal rights. Call Legal Aid on Monday as you need to get legal advice with your divorce. If you think XH will hassle you on behalf of FIL, remind him that you can contact centrelink about maintenance payments! If he is working for cash only, you can also get him in trouble for that! You need to stand up to them and make them realise you are not going to be a push over anymore. Get on the centrelink website and arm yourself with information - knowledge can be a good weapon! We don't want to see you offline - STAND STRONG AND FIGHT!
XH says he's taking the computer when he moves into a place, and it looks like he'll be moving in with his.... dad. So they win. Once again i lose. XH is paying child support, but i gently reminded him to tell his dad not to screw with me... the IRS would LOVE to hear about his dad running a business without paying tax for near on um... 10 years?! He doesnt work for cash only, he runs his whole BUSINESS cash only!!
If FIL is so good at flashing his money around, why doesn't he just by XH another computer and leave yours. Did you say the computer was in your name or XH name or both? Just because XH is moving in with him, doesn't automatically give him the right to the computer. They seem to enjoy being bullies!
the computer is in XH name, even though we were both working on the business.
i should go to bed, have to get up early and go to glen waverly tomorrow... have to be there at 8.30am :eek:!!!