Babies Born June 2006 #44

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Bath (and anyone else who knows they've had there last child) - how do you know the difference between being just clucky over babies while being secure in the knowledge you're not having anymore children and actually knowing you're not "finished" so to speak

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Sorry I didn't see that last time...

Ummm, at first I thought that I would only ever have 2 children. But after Wade came along I realised that little boys were not as "hard" as I was led to expect... infact he was much 'easier' than any other baby I had cared for (I know that it's not right to label your children as "easy" or "hard" but just for simplicities sake.... anyhow Wade basically made it very easy to imagine finding enough time and energy for another. DH was very keen on the idea so there was no problem there! :) So it wasn't really contact with other babies that started me thinking about a third. It was numerous factors... even logistical ones: we had a spare room in the house... and a spare seat in the car! Finally I started to see "signs" eg my Emmaljunga pram was replced with our contents insurance because Verity broke it. This meant that I would have a nearly new pram and if I didn't have another baby it would go to "waste". LOL Also there was the fact of the big 9 year age gap between Verity and Wade... I just thought that it would be nice for Wade to have a play mate.... as it turned out we had another little boy, so that's perfect. I feel that there is a lovely 'balance' with our family ATM. I feel no desire to have another because i intuitively feel that the balance would be upset by: cramped conditions, problem with having to buy a new car, that two children play better than 3 (I don't want to risk the two boys ganging up on a younger sibling) plus there are other things like school fees, my body (especially the cholestasis I had last pregnancy which would be very highly likely to return and cause even greater complications)... and finally: I am just too tired! I hope that kinda answers your question Jaspen, feel free to ask away, I'm usually an open book when it comes to these things :)

Japen - I look at new mums and cluck over their babies, then I say I'm not sure whether I can handle another baby. Some of you will remember that I went through a type of depression after I had my "op" and started why oh why did I have this done. But now I'm glad that I had it done as I know that there is no way that I can inflict my condition on another baby and have the risk of losing the baby. I'm happy with my 6 babies and if I ever want to have another baby, then James and I will look either towards adopting(because James was adopted) or fostering. I went to a mums group today and one of the mums turns 50 next year and she is going through the fostering course. I have thought about it, and it was one of the things James and I thought about after we found out that I could effectively kill another baby. I hope that makes sense, I 'm boiling here and am just about to walk down to pick the kids up.

Bath - When only one turned up, I was extremely disappointed, especially as I had invited my SIL and her friends and they chose a birthday party where they could have a **** up, instead of having a fun night. It hasn't put me off though, as I know that I can have better parties without that sort of ppl there.

I had some sad news on Saturday night. An old(90ish) friend of the family died after a long illness, she had reached the stage that she couldn't see and couldn't move around by herself anymore, and relied on her daughters family. She and I were very close and my kids regarded her as a great grandmother. She had a turn on Saturday afternoon and after they took her to the hospital, slowly slipped away. Her husband died 40 years ago and I know she missed him terribly. I am going to her funeral on Wednesday, just to pay my respects to her family. RIP Mary,I will always love you.

James has gone fishing with Dad this afternoon and I have a meeting tonight, so its his night to look aftert the brats...oops kids!!!! lol

Pat split the space between his top lip and nose on Friday night, and has a gash there! We are being really careful because everytime he hits his mouth on something it splits open again and blood starts pouring out.

Anyway, better start towards picking up the kids, or they will be here before I know it.

Love yous all

Jaspen - thanks for the well wishes! My anniversary was great, quiet but nice. Must mean I am getting old lol!!! Don't worry about venting, sometimes feels good to type it out, get it out, then you feel better. Plenty of us have done it, regardless of whether is was really warranted. Glad your DH is doing things to help you (esp when not being asked too), maybe he had burning ears? DH and I always wanted 3 kids, even before having 1. I came from a family of 3 and really enjoyed it. I just know that I am not "done" yet. Like Tali, both of my girls have been wonderful sleepers and I worry that I might get a bad sleeper next, but that won't change my mind. I will just keep my fingers crossed. I still want to work after the 3rd one so that is why we will wait a little bit longer.

Tali - I hope your friends aren't using you for the pool, thats terrible! Maybe tell them that you will come to their place and see if they are happy with that? It is nice to have company but not if they are only using you for the pool - tell them you are too busy!

Jess - that stinks that only 1 turned up! I would be mad too. Don't people RSVP anymore? I make sure I always call whether I can come or not, many don't esp for the kids parties. I always spend ages on the phone chasing people up.

Hi to Rory, Bath, Maya, Amanda, Julie and hope Nic is enjoying the day with her new son!

My GF is booked into have a c/s today after her breech bub decided not to turn. After 3 natural births, she was a bit disappointed but very glad to have this bub in her arms sooner rather than later. She is having a girl so looking forward to hearing her name.

Hi Mel :) I forgot to say "Happy Anniversary!" LOL "quiet but nice" sounds perfect to me! I swear we are all going to grow old in here and it's lovely to hear of all these milestones. OOOh what time is your GF booked in for theatre? Waht genders are her other children? 4 does have a nice symmetry when it comes to children... but I think I am going to be content with my nice "triangle family" IYKWIM. It will be very exciting to share your next pregnancy with you too! I've been thinking of Nic and FlowerChild (Deb) all day... hoping their C-sections went smoothly. :crossfingers:

Thanks Bath! She was booked it at around 2pm so she thought by 3pm she might have had the baby. Maybe they were a bit behind in the theatre schedule. She has 2 girls (5 and 3) and a boy (20mths). This one is a girl too. They haven't told us names yet. They have a pretty small house too, so the 2 girls have been sharing and the boy has his own room but this baby will have to sleep in their room for a while. They had to get a new car and are thinking of moving to accommodate their growing family. It will be so nice to share my pregnancy with all of you, my theoretical plan is to pregnant in Jan/Feb and have an Oct/Nov bub. Not that anything ever goes to plan lol!!!! I saw the post about Flowerchild, her bub is so small, hope everything is going well for both of them.

PML, Triangle Family! I love it!

Hi all, I am just poking my head in quickly to say hello, had a flat out weekend but got lots of things achieved that I have been wanting to do for ages. I think my nesting instinct has kicked in because I have been getting DH to rearrange furniture, and I have been busily decluttering.
Back to work today, I cant believe how quickly the 2 weeks went, which makes me think that the next 4 weeks will fly by and I will be on Maternity leave.

I will be back later in the week, I hope everyone is well!

Hi everyone,
cor, i don't pop in for a while and i miss all the excitement! I'm so pleased for Nic that she has her happy healthy little boy with her now. Hope Flowerchild and Imogen get stronger quickly - how far along was FC? I knew she was pg but can't remember how long and Imogen is tiny, sounds great with the apgars and not being intubated though.

Mel - Happy anniversary - sounds like you had a nice day. Have you heard the name for your friends little girl yet? hope all went well for her.

Jess - how annoying that only one person turned up for you - i'd be fuming. Sorry to hear about your friend. Ouchy for Pat's top lip/nose space!

Bath - lol re triangle family!

Ali - Hope you got everything you wanted too done and that you can slow down soon. Happy nesting!

Jaspen - hugs - read your vent and know exactly where you're coming from. My DH is fab most of the time but there are a few issues that i get knarked at time and time again with and he just doesn't get it. Have been tempted to post myself but just stopped myself, not that you should have, it's better to get it off your chest than just go round and round in pointless arguments and some of the replies were really good so might give you an idea maybe.

Tail - hope those 'friends' aren't just using you for your pool either!

Never got round to finishing my first post off - how slack! I kept meaning to come back and ended up having a quick lurkbut not the time to do a meaningful post! Had a nice week, off to walking group tomorrow - hope i won't scare them this week! Last week i got so peed off with Oscar as he just wouldn't leave the bowl that was put out for dogs alone that was in the cafe that we were at.. i'd been asking him for about 5 minutes nicely to please move away, please don't touch, yukky etc when he bent his head down to drink from it and i ended up shouting NOOOOO so loudly the whole cafe stopped and stared - have to admit it surprised me too as it was so loud and growly it sounded what i would imagine the devil to sound like! Poor Osc stopped pretty sharpish and went back to the play area and i stared into my hot choccy red faced! Had a nice day the next day as one of the walking group girls rang up and asked if i wanted to meet up with her and her two in a park so i couldn't have frightened her! Will had a break from being grumpy after having 3 molars come through for about 3 days and now a 'fang' has started - grrrr! although he's not as bad as with the molars, just a bit sensitive! His words are just amazing, for saying he wasn't saying anything before we went to the UK (Aug 7th) he must have about 30 words and will repeat virtually anything i say to him (better watch myself!) and he was touching eyes, nose, mouth, arms, feet etc when i was asking him where things were last night!
He did the grimmest thing yesterday - he ate a snail!!!! yuk i was nearly sick - i found him with these bright green hands and he was crunching and i managed to get it out of his mouth but not much left! fowl fowl fowl! I got james to clean him up as i was just retching!
Have had a productive cleaning week and am feeling the house and garden are in a good state (hence the guilt-free bb!). A friend /work colleague of James is over in Perth for a few months to work with James and she came over and stayed on saturday night for a bbq and some wine. it was great to see her as i hadn't seen her for 6 years and we always got on well so that was fun. Had quite a bit of wine (for me, now a shandy-light-weight!) so felt a little wooley Sunday morning.
Will stop rambling now, hope alls good with everyone and hello to Rory, Maya (hope you're getting there with your assignments) and Amanda
Julie x

Well I'm just going to do another me post and feel a tad guilty but I will defineately try to do personals when I get time. We had a productive weekend and got the boys room clean and yesterday we got our room done, I will do the bathroom and Cody's room hopefully today. Lockie woke up on Sunday with a sore near his right ear and we thought nothing of it until later in the day he flashed me his tummy and more spots, I thought oh no, chicken pox. Went to the doctors yesterday and yep it is chicken pox, great. So I've now got him home and have to look at some houses but can't now as I've got no one to look after Lockie.

I had to have a blood test to see if I'm immune to them as we're TTC and I'm due for AF tomorrow, so a little scared about what if I'm not immune? DH has never had chicken pox, so what will this mean for him and trying for a baby? Ah the joy. Plus last week at Bunnings I tripped over one of the trolleys and my foot has been getting sorer, so I can't have and x-ray until AF turns up and if she doesn't I don't know. Ok woe is me is over now, will be back later.

hugs xoxo

Oh Amanda - wishing you the best for the chickenpox immunity, and as for the sore foot I am there with you cause I sprained my ankle yesterday - now I look like a pg woman who is struggling rather than a clumsy person with a sore foot, which is not good for my ego :redface:

Julie - not the snail!!! I thought rocks were bad enough - YUK!! What do they say, though, about what little boys are made of LOL!

Ali, like me you are counting down huh? The next bit will fly - DH said to me the other day in disbelief "when you finish work will you only have 5 weeks before the kid arrives??"

Mel another Junie bubba soon then?? Look forward to hearing the news early next year ;)

Jess poor little Pat! I bet being the youngest he is a toughie, though?

Tali we had friends with a pool when I was a kid (we had a pool but an above ground one) who used to have the same issue I think. We now have mates with a pool and I am always real conscious of not wanting to invite myself over for a swim cause I don't want them to feel taken advantage of :(

Jaspen glad things have coole3d - it hit 27 in Melbourne yesterday and I found it unbearable - I guess that's why they say not to have bubs in summer!

better go - 8 days of work left and lots to do (well, only 7 if you don't count today heh heh heh!)

Rory - you never count the day you are on so only 7 to go yeh!!!!!! I can only imagine how painful third trimester in heat would be - as much as I would have liked to have been pregnant back in February when I had a chemical pregnancy I'm sort of glad I wasn't with respect to being heavily pregnant at this time of year up here. Hope it stays a bit cooler for a little while longer for you.

Amanda - after such a good start to the weekend agh!!! hope everything is ok wrt to immunity and hopefully your DH doesnt get it.

Jess - it must be the time for bumping heads and splitting lips etc- last Tuesday both by boys did it although a friend of ours little boy did way worse than mine and smashed all his teeth in on one side. Hope Pats face is improving and not too many more bumps

Julie - agh!!! for the snail!! wow at Wills speech - Sams main word is a high pitched screech!LOL although teddy and uu pbp!!

Good afternoon girls :) Had PlayGroup this morning. need to settle Niall down for a nap soon but he's happily feeding himself yogurt ATM...

Jaspen: yep, Niall's speech hasn't really come together yet either though at least he doesn't screech. Wade was my screecher: if you've ever read Harry Potter he screeches like a Mandrake (those plants that needed to be repotted and the roots looked like gnarled babies who screeched so painfully that it could kill you). Wade still does it when in immense pain... Niall's voice is lower than Wade's at the same age... interesting. Oh and Niall still callls me "dadda" :(

Niall's just come over for a feed... reducing me to peck typing... will have to come back later... will go and read until I put him down in bed.

Hi girls. My GF had her little girl last night (she was also due on 25/10 like Nic, freaky!!!), they called her Elise Jessica, 6lb 9oz. She is recovering well from her c/s but she thought it might be the drugs. Wonder how she is feeling today.

Julie - your posts really crack me up! You crazy she devil lol!!!! Well at least you didn't scare off the mum that invited you out. I have been known to yell sometimes too. PML about the snails!!! How yuk, I can understand the retching. My GF's DD was eating sultanas outside on her deck, but later she was in the corner eating what my GF thought were sultanas, but it was possum poo!!! No more eating sultanas outside! Will is being very clever. It is amazing how much they actually understand.

Ali - enjoy your nesting, make sure you get DH to do all the work!

Amanda - don't feel guilty, you have so much going on at the moment, you poor thing! Chicken pox is not nice, Chelsea had it when she was 2.5 and she had to stay inside for 2 weeks, she drove me crazy. I hope you guys don't get it, its not good for adults to get. And having to move, that sucks! You must have lots of stuff to move. Thinking of you and try to stay positive.

Rory - how did you sprain your ankle? Down to single digits, the countdown is on. Hopefully my plans do work out, I like to think I can plan these things LOL!

Jaspen - it would be very hard to be pregnant in the Nth Qld heat. Have you always lived up that way?

Bath - Wade and Marley have something in common. She is a major screecher, I love the Mandrake comparision. Have you seen them in the movie, they are horrible. I usually call Marley my banshee! I still really don't get "mumma" or "dadda", just lots of mumble lol!

Work today, they had Bollywood dancing in the cafe today, it wasn't very exciting. Delicious lunch though, I had Thai fish cakes with rice and sweet chilli. It was really good (then snuck in a donut for atea!!!).

I saw Rory's post about our missing Junies and it doesn't look like any replies yet. Does anyone have their emails? Hope everything is OK with Donna, she had some testing with her bub but I didn't hear what happened.

Maya - how are things going for you. Its been so long, where are you? Busy studying and becoming a Tupperware tycoon lol! Just wanted to let you know that I miss your posts.

I sent a txt to Nic yesterday and she replied last night to say that Tyron is starting to feed better and that Nixon hasn't quite worked out what is going on yet. Great to hear that they are doing well.

Amanda – yay on the productive week, nay on Lockies’ chicken pox! Hope no one else gets it – especially you and DH – it’s nasty in adults – I had it for my 20th birthday and was so ill. Hope your foot gets better soon. Hope AF doesn’t turn up for you today although maybe with everything going on maybe it wold be better if she did then went away next month!

Jaspen – I had Oscar at the end of the November in Townsville and I was like a lobster for about 2 months in that heat – not good!

Mel – ah, that’s a nice name your friend has picked. Glad you heard from Nic – sounds like it’s going quite well. Yuk on the sultanas turning out to be possum poo! Yep, I’m pleased with Will finally picking up something fast (as in speech not snails, blurrgh!) as he’s been very slow with virtually every other milestone but not complaining bless him. And thinking back it was nice that he could only sit for ages and couldn’t crawl off – now he’s finally walking he follows me everywhere – low betide me if I attempt to shut the loo door to have any privacy! Yum yum for the thai fish cakes with sweet chilli mmmmmm!

Went to walking group this morning and the actual walk was nice but the play bit after was just not relxing. Where we sit next to a fenced in park, is in the shade of the trees but there was lots of glass between the roots, plus a cycleway is very close and just the other side of that is the river so I have to watch the kids constantly and osc was just such a pita! Would he play in the park or the big expanse of grass? No he just wanted to play in the roots and run across the cycleway to the river! I just felt I was shouting for him to come back, stop that, leave that constantly and felt really drained at the end of it. It didn’t really help that some of the other mums didn’t seem to mind their kids playing around the trees even though their was clearly glass everywhere so osc doesn’t understand why he can’t play there when other kids were which is fair enough to him. Was glad to get them to sleep when we got home after some sarnies!

Hope you are all having a nice day

Julie x

Hi all ahd a friend over today and she had her three mth old with her so sad that they really dont stay babies for long do they, her baba is already acting like she has teeth on the way as she is drooling and chewing her hands all the time. Plus she had to start her on food already as she was such a hungry baby and now that baba is on food she is sleeping throught the night. which is great for my friend as her last baby didnt sleep through until 3.5yrs and still wets the bed almost every night and he is now 7yrs.

Julie- how horid eating a snail but then again at about the same age I found DS in his room painting the room with his pooie nappy that too made me gag but as DH was awya yet again I had to clean him and the room up myself. I cant believe william is talking I dont think kai is saying any words atm she does do a lot of pointing and yelling but thats it, but then again may talks enough for the two of them dont know if I will cope when they are both talking. Shame about the park at the end of the walk hate it when you cant relax just make the whole thing not enjoyable, shame the other mums didnt pick up that you didnt want your boys over by the trees and didnt call there kids in.
Amanda - good luck with the chicken pox hope your bloods come back ok. Its the worse thing about ttc the not knowing for a while as I too feel like you have to extra careful just incase sending you some sticky vibes:stickyvibesgirl: for tommorrow.
Rory it is hard when you have a warm day and pg I had DD1 on the 2nd of may so had to have the 3rd trimester in the peek of the wet so very hot and very sticky, kai wasn't much better as she was the wet in darwin and it doesnt cool down there until may and thats when we move over here and I was already as big as I was going to get which was HUGE.
Rory and ali - cant believe you too are next to have babies time has just gone by way too fast this year...

well hello to everyone else I have missed have to go and put my lot too bed YIPPY !!!!!

congrats on 500 posts Julie

anyway realised my earlier post finished mid replies hopefully will get back later or tomorrow for more replies

I'm off in about an hour to go to a funeral in Euroa.Its going to be huge!The family is spread throughout Australia, so there should be a couple of hundred at the church to farewell this grand old lady.
Has anyone else got cling wrap baby atm? Pat doesn't want me to be out of his eyesight atm and its driving me crazy!
DH has been up all night due to asthma so he's off to the doctors, hopefully after he sees them he should be right, he has to work on Friday and because he has just started he can't really ask for sick leave!
Better go and sort things out here! Ciao

Jess, sounds like it will be a lovely funeral with all those people there :)
Been dropping in quickly to read whenever I get my email notification. Not much done on the assignment front, but I have booked flights to London, just have to confirm with money now so that I can then book the connecting flights to Dublin. Also have to work out itinerary fairly quickly so that I can work out who to contact to stay with and also just to visit, but also to work out when we need a car. And I have to do this between writing a major assignment?? ARGHHH!!!
gotta go again...

hello ladies, quiet in here!

Had a lovely day yesterday at the park with a walking group friend and my kids were angels for a change. Didn't sllep last night as builders told us yesterday that our house should be ready before Christmas!!!! So i'm in a panic about everything that needs to get done and just lay there all night thinking about it - grrrr!

Went to story time at the library today and the kids were pretty good and they even did a joint painting at the end which was very cute - and not much paint on any of us either - very impressed! Just got back from a lovely meal out with a friend from playgroup and i'm tired so should go to bed but have a huge belly full of pasta so have a sneaky feeling the sleep thing isn't going to happen that quick tonight either!
nighty nighty

Julie x