Babies Born June 2006 #44

[jaspen]

Thanks Rory and Ali for your wise and kind words.

Hope everyone had a fun weekend.

I am pleased to say the temperatures (and the humidity) have dropped up here and it is now the beautiful northern weather I like at this time of the year - if only my boys could get over this cold they have so we could enjoy it a bit more. At least Samuel had a full nights sleep last night so whatever annoyed him Saturday night has resolved thankfully.

Bath (and anyone else who knows they've had there last child) - how do you know the difference between being just clucky over babies while being secure in the knowledge you're not having anymore children and actually knowing you're not "finished" so to speak(I may have asked this question previously can't remember - and please if you don't feel comfortable sharing that's fine - just battling with it myself at the moment (cause I know DH isn't super keen on anymore) and looking for tothers perspectives.

[Bathsheba]

Bath (and anyone else who knows they've had there last child) - how do you know the difference between being just clucky over babies while being secure in the knowledge you're not having anymore children and actually knowing you're not "finished" so to speak

Sorry I didn't see that last time...

Ummm, at first I thought that I would only ever have 2 children. But after Wade came along I realised that little boys were not as "hard" as I was led to expect... infact he was much 'easier' than any other baby I had cared for (I know that it's not right to label your children as "easy" or "hard" but just for simplicities sake.... anyhow Wade basically made it very easy to imagine finding enough time and energy for another. DH was very keen on the idea so there was no problem there! So it wasn't really contact with other babies that started me thinking about a third. It was numerous factors... even logistical ones: we had a spare room in the house... and a spare seat in the car! Finally I started to see "signs" eg my Emmaljunga pram was replced with our contents insurance because Verity broke it. This meant that I would have a nearly new pram and if I didn't have another baby it would go to "waste". LOL Also there was the fact of the big 9 year age gap between Verity and Wade... I just thought that it would be nice for Wade to have a play mate.... as it turned out we had another little boy, so that's perfect. I feel that there is a lovely 'balance' with our family ATM. I feel no desire to have another because i intuitively feel that the balance would be upset by: cramped conditions, problem with having to buy a new car, that two children play better than 3 (I don't want to risk the two boys ganging up on a younger sibling) plus there are other things like school fees, my body (especially the cholestasis I had last pregnancy which would be very highly likely to return and cause even greater complications)... and finally: I am just too tired! I hope that kinda answers your question Jaspen, feel free to ask away, I'm usually an open book when it comes to these things