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Ah well, twas not to be - turns out it was a blighted ovum. :doh: I am surprisingly upbeat about it - its easy to say in hindsight but I never really felt "committed" to this pregnancy, IYKWIM? I bought a diary for bub like I did the boys but never wrote in it - I was waiting for the 12 week scan, so you could probably say I knew something was amiss. Anyways, I have an appointment for a suction curette on Monday but I suspect it will pass before then (bleeding more and finally getting crampy), so fingers crossed I won't have to have the procedure (sounds abit invasive!)
I am really looking forward to eating oysters at Christmas!! :lol:
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:hug: Rory, you know I've been there darl. Take it easy... I was upbeat at first but as the hormones readjusted i started to feel quite fragile at the time of the D&C. I'm only a phone call away if you need to talk. On a brighter note Wade was conceived 3 months later (they recommend you wait 3 months)... so I hope all is well that ends well...and yes, enjoy those oysters and egg nog! :)
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:( but yay for oysters! ;)
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Sorry to hear that Rory. Hope things work themselves out before the D&C.
On a lighter note, you can add smoked salmon, prawns, brie to your christmas list. :)
Look after yourself.
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Rory I am so sorry the hear this news, you are such a positive person, but I guess this close to christmas you have to be... I will pray that when you are ready to start you journey again it wont be a long process...:hug:
Mel I cant believe you are going to brave the christmas shops at this late stage, the very best of luck there...
well I have been reading all your post just not doing much on here myself...
lets see I have been in a dark place for a few weeks but I an starting to climb out as it does no one any good for me to be there, so I am just tring to " suck it up " so to speak..
I have been reading the twilight saga I loved them, so didnt think I would, couldnt work out all the twilight hype, but reading the books I understand, they are really easy to read ( read all 4 in a week :redface: wasnt much of an mum in that week ) went to see twilight the movie or on DVD, and have to say still cant work out why grown women fell in love with the movie, exceally if they haven read the books... but did go see new moon and thought they did a much better job on that movie, kept in line with the book more which always helps..
we are moving again :o I know I know I have heard it all from my family, but this time ( for now I still hate Mackay and if we get the oppertuity to move out I will JUMP at it )we are just moving into town, even thought the house we are in is lovely it is too far out and driving me nuts, we are 40ish mins from Mackay, ( where the ONLY shops are food and other ) so if you forget something at food shopping it is a pain in the butt, plus apart from a school in this town there is nothing else you have to drive into town for everything, so the kids cant do any after school activitys unless we drive into town... Plus I am getting FAT, so I really wont to be able to go to a gym next year, and fix my legs before they get beoned control, been able to walk the winkies to school will also help.. We have been excepted to a house that is 4 bedrooms and have town water plus aircon, and a bath which Kailaia was so excited about when she saw it, which the house we are in doesnt have any of those 3...
well thats about me I think, we are having christmas day next weekend as we have to drive up to Cairns on christmas day ( 8 hour drive ) so will be leaving at 3 in the morning, so though it would be nicer for the winkies if they got christmas day a little early so they could actully enjoy there presents... plus when we get back from Cairns we will be moving into the new place...
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Aw Tali, maybe the move will help get you out of your headspace - a change of scene might help you all find your groove as a family? Glad you are enjoying the Twighlight books - I might try and read them over the holidays!
Thanks alll for your good wishes - I just jumped into the miscarriage and loss forums and thankfully (so far) don't feel anything like the women in there did/do. But Bath I take your point that the hormone rollercoaster hasn't started yet! ATM though I am just annoyed about the wasted 3 months LOL! It might actually work "better" for us to have a bub towards the end of 2010 - Mick has enrolled for a 2-year part time Master of Teaching at Melb Uni (to become a physics and maths teacher) so to have a bub nearer to the uni break could work well, plus my workflow tends to wind down by Oct/Nov so it will be less pressure on everyone at work if I am around longer.
Speak soon, thanks again girls :)
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Tali - hope you get your mojo back soon, like Rory said a new place might be just the thing. If you need to vent, chat, whatever you know we are all here for you. I know I am an idiot to leave my shopping this late and I say to myself each year that I will be more organised and it never happens!!! Fingers crossed its not too hectic next week. We might go on Monday night as they have late night shopping and the first night is always the quietest. You did a mighty job reading all 4 in a week!!! What was your favourite? I loved Breaking Dawn. I was up reading till 2am some days, it was brilliant. I saw Twilight the movie before I read the books, which I liked, helped me visualize the characters better. Eclipse is out next June so we don't have to wait too long. And I heard they were going to make 2 movies for Breaking Dawn as it's too much to fit into one movie. Your new place sounds much better, must be hard without air con up there.
Rory - how exciting that Mick is going to be a teacher. I think he would make an excellent teacher. Keep on smiling, things have a habit of working out just as you need them to.
Marley had a bit of a meltdown last night. We went out for dinner with the school mums to the local pub. Toward the end of the night (about 9.30pm), Marley was getting antsy and she was very tired after 2 days at creche. She cracked it about something, I told her to stop and she just let out this high pitched scream! I ignored her and that didn't help, then she can behind me and pulled my hair! When I told her not to do that she hit my face and while I was taking a breath to work out what to do next, she BIT ME!!!! Quite hard on the top of my arm. Well I nearly lost it with her, I grabbed her arms and looked her right in the eyes and told to stop it and I was very upset with her. She was in tears on the floor, saying she didn't want me to be upset with her. I told her that I didn't want to talk to her until she apologised. It took a few minutes but she finally came and said sorry. I was so embarrassed :redface: Chelsea has never and would never to that, so I didn't quite know what to do. Her temper lately is driving me mad..she gets so grumpy and yells all the time. Any suggestions on how I should be handling it? I keep telling her not to yell and to talk properly but that only works sometimes. She is driving me MAD!
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Mel sounds like you are doing everything you can do, Kai is the same one minute she can be a little angel the next the devil comes out swinging... I have heard that Gemmi can be that way... neither Zayden or Mayleaka were like this, we always joke that if she doesnt get her suger hit then no one would want to be around her, ( she seems to settle down a little if she gets something sweet ) but of course that doesnt help when she is already having a tandy as I dont want to reward that behavier, its such a fine line... Now that the plods have finished school she didnt cope at the shops coz BHL normally gives in and gets her a coffe and cupcake everytime we are out with her, but because we had the plods he did do that, so she was shocking the whole time, not good when we went into the real estate to sign a lease and she was doing her devil act...
Like I said I think you are doing all you can, just talk to her telling her that, that is the way we behave to anyone, we have a few gifts under the tree already which if she is mucking up I will take one away, she doesnt like this at all, but will calm herself down to ask for it back at the end of the day ( she doesnt quite get the spud thing yet but will next year ).. Lets just hope they grown out of it soon, BHL is already saying when the girls are tweens he want to work away all the time lol, should have seen his face when I told him that when woman live together they cycle together it was a classic...
As for Twilight Rory you must read them its more of a love story than vampire stuff but very much 1st love and all that, so might not be everyones cuppa tea...
Mel I too loved breaking Dawn, but really love them all, I was so glad they made breaking dawn that way, I would have been dissapointed is I never saw bella as a vampire...
thanks for your support girls, I know I can always count on you, I think its just alot of things right now, TTC for 12 mths, missing family, Hating Mackay, and feeling guilty everytime I speak to my parents doesnt help either, making the move into town is also giving me loads of mummy guilt, making my poor suffering plods move schools again, we did ask them if they want to move or stay, they said move, but still I feel bad for them...
Rory, so glad you can see the sliver lining in all this, but you know where we are if that sliver lining starts to get some cracks
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Thanks Tali, its always nice to get confirmation that you are doing the right thing. Having never experienced this before, its often hard to know what to do!!! Apart from :wall: I find that if Marley has a full belly, she is much better. Someone suggested that she might suffer from low blood sugar, and gets cranky. Who knows but I might mention it to dr next time I am there (which is not often thankfully!!).
We ran a christmas stall at school today, the kids loved it and we had lots of lovely little gifts that the kids could buy for their parents, grandparents, siblings etc. Two of the mums made these beautiful embossed candles, they sold like hot cakes at only $2 each. I bought 4 to give as gifts to Marley's carers at creche. One of the teachers bought 25 of them, one for each of her students which we all thought was such a lovely gesture. Many of them had religious type symbols, being a catholic school and they sold very well.
Been searching the net for inspiration for presents, so far only found a great place that sells hair clips (a fetish of mine, we have squillions!). Better keep at it!
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Oh, Mel, I agree with Tali! You are doing all you can do, really. Just be available for her to melt down to. Doesn't matter what the looks on other people's faces say, they all KNOW what this is like! I figure that when Oscar melts down I may as well be there to pick up the pieces when he's done. bugger, gotta go again...
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Rory- i hope you arefeeling ok after your d&c, i cant imagine what you are going through but you alwasy find a positive outlook on things.
Mel- ive had bitting incidents too and they friggen HURT!!
talk about getting embarrassed in public, i deal with episodes almost every time we are out in public.
The latest was yesterday. Nixon had a sleep over at nanny & poppys and we decided to meet in the city to see the xmas caves at DJ's.
i caught train in with Ty, mum with Nix and my sister with her 2 girls.
Nixon really doesnt do well in big crowds and noisy environments, i dont know why i pushin myself and still try and do these things.
Nix had a few meltdowns,dealt with them, the biggest one come walking through the QVB going back to the trains, we had to go up escilators, Nix was holding my hand and i needed him to hold his aunties hand cause i had to take Ty with the pram up there wasnt enough room.
my mum with 1neice were already on their way up.
just asmy sister went to walk on Nix cracked it, i watched hopelessly whilst already heading up with the pram.... she was trying to hold neice 2 hand plus a slumped Nixon.
a random lady end up taking neice 2 hand and bringing her up, Nixon screamed the place down and halted the escalator cue...... everyone starred ofcourse..... all i could do was smile.... otherwise i'd cry.....
anyway Nixon's OT report has come back, he has a sensory processing disorder (SPD) and a sensory motor based disorder of "Dyspraxia"
still learning about it all and he starts OT in Jan.
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Hey Nickers I am g;ad you know have some answers on your lil man.
I am very up and down - one minute I am fine and the next crying. and I am having trouble sleeping (which is why I am typing at 5am LOL!) I am really looking forward to TTC again now......
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I'd be worried if you weren't, Rors - spending time at every point in the spectrum of emotion is ok, being static at just one point is maladaptive :hug: You WILL make another beautiful child when everything converges to make it right.
Had a very successful inspection day today...would be surprised if nothing came of the three offers we'll be presented with tomorrow evening...
Oscar had a bad dream the other night that I jumped in a river with crocodiles to look for Tallarah (!!), then his bottom lip quavered at the same time as his voice (as he was telling me about it, upon waking, so that he was still sleepy and had his arms around Tallarah) as he uttered "...my baby sister" - I just wanted to eat him up whole! I'm glad he's a sibling now, like the other Junies :)
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Maya dont make me cry, that is just about the cutest thing ever, you better save me a piece coz I could just eat both you children, too cute...
Nic glad you are getting some answers as once you know what the problems are you can work on helping him though them, just sometimes has to be a hard long road to get there :hug: Zayden has a mild form of ADD, which among other things if he is made to make a decion ( even if its what flavor ice cream do you want) a melt down can happen, even now that he is almost 10, he will be come so upset with hime self because he cant decide that he will walk out without anything and then just be sad, its easier on him if we just go in and choose for him...
Rory, when you are ready I am sure you will get your 3rd buddle of love :hug:
well its Christmas eve here at our house, as we will be leaving for Cairns at 3 am on the real Christmas day, so it was either tonight ( tomorrow is the only day BHL has off until christmas day ) or when we get back...
the winkies are very hyped, even Kai this year which is very exciting, she can bearly sit still, poor Zayden has already asked why today has been the longest day ever, which I so remember always thinking when I was a child...
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Tali - just noticed your new av!!! How cute. I hope you all have a wonderful xmas eve tonight. Doesn't matter when you do it as long as you do it together.
Maya - Oscar is little cutie, that is so sweet. Wonder where he got that dream from? They dream such strange things. I'm sure some days Chelsea wishes she wasn't a sibling lol!!!! Marley can treat her quite poorly sometimes. Good luck with the offers, you must be sick of having people trasping through your house every weekend! Thanks for your affirmation too. We haven't had any repeats of that behaviour since, and I hope we don't!
Nic - yes they do hurt lol!!!! Sorry to hear its happened to you to. Was beginning to think I was the only one. You were lucky someone decided to help, most people just give you the look and watch. And you are right, smile or you cry! There are times I just want to crawl into a hole with things she does. Glad you at least have a diagnosis, but often those big words sound scary and confusing. Take your time, read up and ask lots of questions of your OT. It will be learning curve for you as well as Nixon.
Rory - let the tears flow as freely as the smiles do. And I hope we don't see too many more posts at 5am!
Still not organised for christmas yet!!! Getting there, but still more to get. Monday night is the night. MIL will look after the kids while DH and I do the marathon shop. When will I learn lol!!!
Only 1 more work day and I am off for 4 weeks - YEAH!!! It will be nice to wake up on Monday morning and not have to get Chelsea ready for school and I think she is glad to have finished too. They get so tired by the end of the year.
Hope everyones xmas shopping is going better than mine :)
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Merry Christmas everyone, I hope that you all have had wonderful days with your families and have enjoyed watching your children open their presents.
Rory I'm sorry about your loss :hug:
Mel and Tali sorry I haven't sent those horoscope things, the printer ran out of ink and I haven't had a chance to replace, but I will have to sent them to you.
Tali I'll need your new addy as well.
Sorry I have been MIA will explain in my next post.
Have a great night tonight, Merry Christmas :D.
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