Sorry Candy.... I don't mean to imply that fulltime care is always wrong... it's just (I think) strange that some of my friends who's husbands are on well over $100,000 per year and could quite comfortably live on a single income yet they say they both need to work to afford "a decent holiday" and "bling" *shrug*. (ETA) Also I guess I come from the perspective of having 2 parents that both always worked... never had time for us kids, even on the weekends they would do activites that we couldn't participate in much (golf and sailing)... that's why they worked, so they could afford to play their expensive sports and keep up with the Jones... when me and my sister would have prefered them to actually spend a bit of time with us. In the end they ended up getting divorced and they had to sell the house etc. Guess I'm just choosing a different path... everyone has to do what they feel is right I guess.