Babies Born June 2007 #10

[Charlyfrog]

For some strange reason, she never calls before coming over and every time she comes over, my house looks like a tip. Yet, when it's immaculate, no-one ever comes over... is it just me, or does this happen to everyone?

Oh Celsie! Yay it's not just me!!! *hugs* I have gotten a rather big bee in my bonnett (DH thinks its a wasp, lol) and so I am pulling things apart and chucking things out and rearranging etc etc......and everyone decides it's time for a visit to Charly's house!! Sooooo embarrassing!!

That's so cute that you're grabbing bubby's limbs, lol!

Just a selfish vent warning *blush* my sister is due end of may with her first bubs. We've become quite close in the past couple of years yet recently, she'd rather involve her friend (who has been then hasn't been then has been her friend etc). So her friend is helping set up the nursery, her friend is going to appointments (my one chance it seemed went when I came down with gastro) and they go out shopping together. DH & I offered so many of DD#2's things to her and now she's tellling me stories of how wonderful her friend is and she gave her this and this and this and this.....all which I had already offered her. I'm embarrassed as I know I'm simply jealous so am trying to refocus my thoughts and send baby vibes and sticky dusts to DH's sister and getting all the things spick and span for her. I am so fine if she doesn't want them though! Its just with my sister, it was like her friend was her saviour for doing what i had already done. I am making all the invites (all 25+) of them!! for the baby shower and co-ordinating it all but it seems like, well I'm supposed to now because I'm the sister, ykwim?

Ahhhh sorry, just feeling bit sad and sorry for myself today. So much so I've rearranged DD#2's bedroom! Lol! (hence the bee/wasp )


Anywhooooos DH did get intrigued, almost excited when I began to discuss with him giving baby things away. He thought I'd finally been won over and yep, 2 babies was enough for us. Wroooo-ung!! I said, "Nooooooo, if we do go again, we'll just be given stuff or buy things brand new but there's not much point us having the stuff when clearly we won't be needing it all for the next couple of years. Too cluttered"

..........and DH went



We're kind of doing our own family Red Cross drive too - that's what spurred the big clean up - to donate as much as we can. Tyring to explain to DD#1 why was quite comical. In the end, after I had explained that fire had taken all the mummies, daddies & children's things, she asked if they were naked then???? Ah innocence is precious.

Ok, must dash. Miss you all! Hope everyone is having fun where ever you are, and staying safe. I hope all your friends and family are safe too xx

Love Charly xx
Mwa!!

[PinkPalace]

Hi girls
Sorry been MIA for a while (but i guess you are getting used to that lol).. ok... update on our life!


DD is in her big bed has been for about a month woohooo.. the past 2 weeks she has been anightmare and not wanting to sleep until 10pm. She would scream and cry for a good 1-2 hrs and it was dreadful .

So what i did the past 2 nights was put her in her bed after her routine and told her i would sit on the couch next to her bed until she fell asleep.. and MIRACLE .. asleep within 10 minutes... so will do this for a little while and see how we go.!

We've become quite close in the past couple of years yet recently, she'd rather involve her friend

Oh hun i hear you on this one!

My sister has a 7 month old. And i only moved back to brisbane 10 months ago so got the share thethe last few months of her pregnancy. I even threw her baby shower etc when i moved down.

But she lives about 60km (1 hr drive away) so we dont get to see each other much!.... however she drives over to visit her FRIEND almost twice a week and not me... now normally i could care but her friend lives about 900m down the road from me... so figure that one out!

And if i invite to come shopping or for a drink or whatever... she shows up with this friend as well, so they need to leave together blah blahblah... no idea and i got upset about it for the past 6 months and now i am not caring anymore. I dont know why she does it and thought maybe she hates my kids, hates me - then figured it is her problem (terrible thing to say i know) but what else can i do?

Celsie - will be thinking of you this prge with the GD. I have a friend who had to successful birth with GD (she is actually insulin dependent as well outside of pregnancies).. and how cool about the feet.!!

Well DH is having his tubes done on thursday . It is hard because we dont want more kids but i think he is nervous as he has never been in hospital before (lol... and he's married to an RN ironic!).
I told him i would rather him back out then have him resent it for the rest of his life... will see how the week pans out


MWAH to all... will try pop in soon - with the 2 i am a little time poor *sob*

[Celsie]

Oh Charly... That's really hurtful of your sister. I know where you're coming from, not that I have a sister, but I do understand what it's like to not be allowed to be involved or appreciated.

PP - I love that photo of Ethan on your ticker! He's so cute! You should be one very proud Mummy!

Have been discussing in great detail with DH the subject of guardians for both kids and God Parents for No. 2. We made a huge mistake with Caeleb's God Parents. When he was born, one of my brothers and his wife (Nick & Sue) took a huge interest in him and were heavily involved in his life for the first three months after he was born, so they seemed like the natural choice. On the day of the baptism however, Nick sat there, rolling his eyes through-out the service (obviously didn't agree with what was being said) and had a stand off with my other brother (Chris) right outside the church. If that wasn't bad enough, he and his wife all but vanished from Caeleb's life. Caeleb saw him for the first time since his 1st birthday (which he rocked up 2 hours late and left early from) and was upset because Caeleb had no idea who he was. You've got to be kidding... you don't even call to see how he's going and you expect a 19 month old to remember that you visited him once in the past 12 months?!? Grrr....

Anyway, so this time around, we don't want to make that mistake again. I've become really close to a girl I met about 12 months ago through child and youth health. Our boys are best friends and we get along really well. She is religious (which obviously my brother Nick isn't), so that's a step in the right direction, but when I mentioned that I was thinking about asking her to my Mum, she said that I should ask my other brother (Chris) this time, because you should ask family first. Now, I have no issues with Chris, except that we never see him, he has nothing to do with Caeleb and makes no effort to be involved in my life, never has... so why does she think he'd be the best choice?

She also wants me to make this brother guardian of the two kids. He has two teenage kids and has been involved with a woman for the past 5 years who has three kids of her own. I think that they're both good parents and I mostly agree with their parenting techniques, but I do see that her children are favoured over his. So, I think, if something were to happen to us and the kids went to live with them, would she do the same thing with my kids?

I've already told my parents that we wouldn't make them guardian, because they argue too much. Don't get me wrong, they love Caeleb more than anything, but I grew up with anxiety as a child because of their arguing (not that they recognise that they had any part of it). They constantly pick fights and bicker with each other. I don't even think they even realise they're doing it any more. I can't have Caeleb grow up walking around on eggshells like I did.

Have you girls (and guy) assigned guardians in your wills?

[MumofLewis]

Celsie - Family politics are SO hard aren't they? I think if you've already told your Mum you are half way there and should stick with what you and DH are happy with. You can always say to your brother that they have so many kids between them you didn't think he would mind.

My sister would be Lewis's guardian, even though she lives in England. I disagree with DH family's cultural differences regarding parenting whereas my sister would be a great Mum to Lewis and only has one daughter so we think we are making the right decision. Tough one though.

[Charlyfrog]

Miss you all

Re: Guardians - seeing as it is such a huge responsibility for those being assigned (even though we all hope that they never have to fulfil their roles! ) I couldn't care less if someone is related or not!! It's the relationship they have with us, our children and also their parenting & life styles. It just so happens however that DH's sister and her husband are just the most precious couple and whilst they don't have kids, BIL has been an uncle for years and the way he is with our girls is just gorgeous!! (we're all fingers crossed for them that their bunnykins will be along soon!! ) I feel like you just know the right people for your kids kwim? as like MumofLewis said, it's a tough one but first and foremost for me, it's about the kids. I don't care if someone gets all sooky coz we didn't choose them.....like I said, i hope the girls never have to go elsewhere *charly shudders* so first they should be happy we're still here for goodness sakes! Lol!! Secondly, respect me as a parent and what I want for my kids! (and then maybe ask why I didn't choose you, *cheeky laugh*)

We are in a friend's will for the same reason......and they have siblings as well. So again, being blood related means squat imo when it comes to the well being of your kids. I'd rather offend and know I've done the right thing for my princesses than keep others happy but know that my princesses won't be parented how they need to be, kwim?

*charly gets off soap box*




Anyways, like I said, miss you all!!

Hows the countdown going for Teepee2 & Celsie????????? *squeal* soooo exciting!!!

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