Celsie - Family politics are SO hard aren't they? I think if you've already told your Mum you are half way there and should stick with what you and DH are happy with. You can always say to your brother that they have so many kids between them you didn't think he would mind.

My sister would be Lewis's guardian, even though she lives in England. I disagree with DH family's cultural differences regarding parenting whereas my sister would be a great Mum to Lewis and only has one daughter so we think we are making the right decision. Tough one though.