I felt like a good mum last night when Mikayla slept through the night in her cot for the first time and woke up this morning as happy as ever!
I felt like a bad mum when she was screaming in pain from her reflux and there was nothing I could do about it. Also felt very guilty when i had to give up breastfeeding
BTW have spoken to mum and she'll be staying here Monday & Tuesday night - what a relief!!!
I haven't got mania but you probably think I have!
Alright, so last time I posted I was ****ED OFF. Now you may notice that I am 'IN LOVE'. It really corny but after I posted yesterday DH suggested he try DD with the bottle as it wasn't working for me at al (nurse suggested he do it as DD knows she'll get the real deal from me). So I agreed and shut myself in our room, while DH tackled the issue in the lounge. He really had an awesome shot at it and spent 1hour trying!!!!! Between cries, which he managed beautifully, DD didn't take any EBM but it was sooooooo good that DH gave it a go for me. Unfortunately I don't really think that I should persist anymore and wait until she is 6 months to try a cup. Oh hell, what's another 3 months attached to your daughter 24/7??? I love her to pieces but it does get to me occasionally.
Sarah - I agree with the break thing......I feel I need to let DH know where I am, even down to the fact "I'm going outside to collect/put out the washing" or "I'm going to have a bath - please leave me for at least 1/2 hour"......yet DH gets to have 'me' time everyday!! DH does a lot of driving to and from work and I must admit is NOT COPING WELL WITH THE BROKEN SLEEP FACTOR. I get up to DD during the night (usually only one get up) and have done since DH went back to work when DD was 4 weeks old. This doesn't bother me at all - as DH can't breastfeed!!!!! but I'm really going to push this bath thing just to give me some time to gather my thoughts and to improve his confidence with DD.
Charlyfrog - wow, here I am having a whinge and you have 2 little mites to look after - what a super mum. Sounds like you have it down pat.
I feel like a good mum when........ DD looks up at me while she is feeding, delatches and gives me the biggest grin......So good as I know she really likes her food so interacting with me is really important too.
I feel like a rotten mum when.........I get frustrated when she won't settle
Have a great week everyone.
By the way Debbie - how are you going with the mastitis? Hope it's all cleared up.
Nellnell - oh I defintiely wouldn't say I was a super mum, crikey no! I did meet a couple of super mums the other day, one's FIFTH child is 5 months and the other lady's NINTH, yes NINTH child is only 3 or 4 weeks old.......now there are the super mums!! But thank you for saying that anyways................I'll still take it!! hehe!! But there are those completely non-super mummy moments as well!!
Celsie - where are you?!?! Hope that you are doing well and your DP is doing well with his health. xx
Oh and......
I feel like a bad mummy when in my tiredness, I snap at my almost 3yr old and forget that she is just being almost 3, she's not out to get me!
I feel like a good mummy when in my tiredness, I control my snappyness and see how truly beautiful my almost 3yr old really is...then I just want to eat her all up!!!!
Diana seems to have forgotten all about her fall. On Friday night, after she fell, she was a bit unsettled, so she got a special bath, then got to sleep with mummy. Yesterday she woke up as bright and alert as ever and last night she slept through from 11:00 - 5:00. Yay! She has been happy and playful today (apart from her usual early evening sook). Just now she did a poo and wee in the potty again.
I feel like a good mummy when Diana feeds well, settles well and is generally happy. And when she smiles at me.
I feel like a bad mummy when Diana won't settle and I get annoyed because I think of all the housework and chores that I haven't done.
Hi everyone
nellnell - I know what you mean about the DH issue - i love my DH to pieces but he will come up to Jackson when he's screaming his head off say whats the matter and then leave him to scream and not pick him up - drives me crazy cos as soon as I pick Jackson up he will quieten down he just needs a cuddle usually - in saying that DH is so good at changing nappies and they love their bath time together (and I get a break as well)
anyway I feel like a GREAT MUM - when Jackson gives me a huge smile and his little legs kick out in excitement and when my DH gives me a hug and tells me I'm doing a great job
I feel like a TERRIBLE MUM when I have to put saline drops in Jackson's nose to try and clear it and he screams his head off
big hugs to everyone and their little people - be proud of yourselves no matter what - my early childhood nurse said to me the other day that there is no one else in the world Jackson would rather be with right now than me - if thats not a boost to the ego then what is?
Had IL's over for dinner, DH & I in kitchen, backs to table, IL's at table with almost 3 yr old DD.......suddenly DD is crying horribly, laying quite awkwardly on the floor and MIL is saying she just went face first into the tiled floor from her chair!!!!!!
I know it's not anyone's fault. DD has never fallen out of bed nor off a chair before but I guess there are always firsts............... DH & I just feel so bad that we just took for granted that nothing would happen with parents right next to her......I feel so bad like I dropped mummy mode or somethingand didn't watch her closely enough!
DH & i were sitting on the floor with her trying to work out where the blood from her mouth was coming from and watched this massive black egg form on her forehead...................
We kept her up way past her bedtime to keep an eye on her, icing her head and making her sit quietly. DH knows first aid so has been very vigilant in checking her eyes etc She's completely fine, wanting dessert and chatting away, telling MIL that she bumped her head and, "doesn't want to do that again"............but I had to fight inwardly to stay calm so as not to panic DD but oh my goodness, it was so hard..........feel like a strong coffee right now!!!!
Blah, blah, blah.............bleh!
Last edited by Charlyfrog; September 10th, 2007 at 08:57 PM.
Oh what a night you have had you poor thing , lucky there were no broken bones, i can only imagine what its going to be like the first time Ava falls over and hurts herself. Keep your chin up
I feel like a good mummy when i hold Ava and she cuddles into me and hugs me (well I think its a hug lol) and when she wakes up and has a beautiful smile on her face
I feel like a bad mummy when i cant settle her, but most of the time I feel like a good mummy.
And im sure that everyone here is a great mum!!!! We wouldn't be on here talking if we weren't concerned parents looking for answers, yay for us all!!!!!!!
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DD looks up at me while she is feeding, delatches and gives me the biggest grin......So good as I know she really likes her food so interacting with me is really important too.
But thank you for saying that anyways................I'll still take it!! hehe!! But there are those completely non-super mummy moments as well!!
DH & I just feel so bad that we just took for granted that nothing would happen with parents right next to her......I feel so bad like I dropped mummy mode or somethingand didn't watch her closely enough!
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