you'll be right JB! these things happen. if you just perservere she will go back for it. i have found that they do go through stages like that for one reason or another. take her into a dark room and feed her in the way that you feel most comfortable.. for us its the side laying position. dont do it every 15mins but more like every hour until she has a good feed. dont forget that bubs can drain a boob in 6 mins at this age.! :-)
chelsea has woken up with a snotty nose and a bit chesty too. a slight cough as well! she feels warm but no temp. but its that warm feeling that you know will lead to a temperature before the day is out! YAY!! *sarcasm*
JB - How did you and Immy go last night? I hope that you can get back on track with her and that it's just a phase. We're all here to support you
Hollo - Fingers crossed that Chelsea gets better soon and that noone else gets sick!
Mo - Alexandra isn't really that clingy, she has started to cry when I leave the room sometimes but I try to make sure that she's got a toy or something to play with and let her know that I'm coming back.
Dotty - Welcome back! Sounds like you are doing everything that you possibly can for your little girl, I can only imagine how difficult it must be. I also hope that you get some answers quickly.
TL - Hope you guys have a nice drive down south and that Miss C goes ok in the car. Enjoy your holiday!
SP - Yay on the EBM and the night out! Sounds like you had fun and maybe you should do it more often
Okay, I'm feeling a bit better this morning. She had a feed in her sleep sometime over night but won't attach again this morning so have left her for a bit and will offer it later. I was so stressed last night, it was so long between feeds so I am hoping that she isn't that persistent today... not sure how much I can take and she doesn't sleep enough to get feeds into her that way haha. One of my nipples got bitten so hard she drew blood and the other side, although not as bad is still pretty sore. I really hope it is just a phase and there is a lot going on that could cause it...
JB- you should start a thread in the breastfeeding section. you usually get a whole heap of awesome advice with stuff like that in there. is she taking water from a bottle or cup at all?
We are doing okay, I am wondering if this is her way of telling me she wants to drop feeds? Or some development? Honestly, I am so confused about what is going on!
She has had a feed every 4-5hrs today... is that enough? She messes around, biting etc before attaching but once she is on, she feeds as per usual. I'm used to her being attached every 2hrs and for comfort and for sleep... and just constantly... so it is a bit of a shock to the system.
I don't know, I've just been trying all the standard advice (have a shower, we don't have a bath; lay in bed in the dark and calm; if she bites, put her down and offer again later) and remembering that this is probably a phase that I have to ride out. If things are still bad in a few days, then I might contact a lactation consultant.
Have been talking to some Mummy friends who have been really good. I think just venting helps because I am so stressed about it. My mind is racing.
On a more positive and happy note: we got our new rental approved and signed the papers today! Paid our two weeks rent and bond so everything is set for moving in on the 10th of Oct. Can't wait to have more space. One bedroom is getting really old, fast haha.
every 4-5 hours sounds normal, although obviously a big change from what she was doing. We have about 6-7 feeds a day including 1-2 overnight feeds. I found that Alexandra's feeding changed a bit when we started solids and also because we weren't doing solids every day it was a bit out of whack. I've been trying to get into a bit more of a routine with it. Has Immy been really irritable or upset? Or does she just not want to feed? Sounds like you are doing all of the right things, try not to stress too much, you don't it to affect your supply on top of everything else.
I remember when Alexandra was born she lost a fair bit of weight and didn't put any on for 2 weeks. I was freaking out big time after the 3rd time we weighed her and I was trying to get her to feed 3 hrly and expressing so that I could see how much milk she was getting whilst trying to suppress the thoughts that I was starving her.
Not sure what my point was with that story but i guess if we follow their lead then we can't really go wrong.
BTW congrats on getting a new place and good luck moving. I am procrastinating big time instead of packing up our stuff.
Yeah, she doesn't seem upset, unsettled or anything like that. Just doesn't want to feed. Part of me thinks it might be that she doesn't like the time out of feeding because she has been making up for it by feeding more overnight/in her sleep - two birds, one stone type of girl haha. Hopefully, it is a temporary thing! I think she is having about 6-8 feeds a day so she is probably perfectly fine... just the stress of it changing so dramatically!
Ahh, we definitely worry more than they do about this sort of thing...
yeah thats fine JB, 4-5hrs imean. you are probably feeling a bit sad because YOU have grown attached to feeding so often. i know that i start to miss it when i havent BF for longer than usual and i usually try sticking her on just cause i want to. probably a bad thing interms of routine. HAH routine.. whats that! :-/
Wow, two tomorrow! That is uneblievably exciting... no longer can you claim to have two under two haha
Update on me... today has been okay. Last night was a nightmare... the biting has stopped though which is relieving. I've never felt so overwhelmed and confused... worried, scared... like I don't have any idea what I am doing. Sorry for being basically selfish in my posting lately... I hope all the other bubbas are doing alright xo
Mo - I'm glad Maddi's party went well - Happy Birthday to her
JB - feeling for you with the feeding issues. I hope things are starting to settle down.
Went to Health centre last Monday - weight and HC remain on 50th percentile but length is going down - ha! Not surprising as DH and I are pretty short really.
I am very scepticle re medical stuff as I have worked in health for over 20 years so sorry if I dont sound like a conformist at times - hard to trust when you know so much - most nurses have this ailment
Dotty - feel for you deeply. What a terrific little fighter you have.
praying that you will get the answers and support you need. x
Oh Jess sweetie sorry I have not been there for you this week. Sweetie call me if you need it hun. C stopped feeding for a bit a few weeks ago too and this week has dropped another bottle.
Is Immy on soilds she may reduce the feeds on solids
Mo: I am so glad the party went well
AFM: Naming Day went well although I am aware I am too old to do things at home anymore and being a Mum has clearly shown what I can and cannot cope with by way of interefance in my child's day.
Good to hear the naming ceremony went well. Selfishly can't wait for you to get back! So excited about your upcoming cycle!!
Honestly, have just had the worst weekend. Don't want to go on too much because I feel like I have been so negative lately. Basically, Imogen was sick, DF was working 10pm to 6am and my parents are overseas. I really suck as a Mum. I honestly really just can't do it.
How are you going Dotty? Hope things are alright xo
Jess you know you can talk to us all you want, Who cares if the post is all about you,
I'm here to listen pm me if you need. You don't suck as a Mum i can tell you stories of when Maddi was a baby & i can guarantee they are far worse
Hey JB, you are evidently an excellent mum! I mean it. You are showing enormous concern for your baby and you have a strong desire to do your best to care for her well. That is what makes a "good" parent. Of course everything about raising kids is grey but we wish it were black and white. I have had tantrums 'back in the day' when I lacked support and felt frustrated with the situation but it didnt make me a 'bad' mum. I have apologised to my kids numerous times over the years for making mistakes.
Definition: A 'bad parent' is one that does not care about the impact they have on their offspring, has kids to benefit themselves, and wouldnt say they are a 'bad parent'.
Hang in their babe! And get a professional opinion on what is happening with bubs. A good paediatrician or health centre nurse may do the trick, or call your local mother baby unit staff. If they tell you not to worry but you are still worried ask again until you feel you know what is going on.
but i guess if we follow their lead then we can't really go wrong.
for your big days ahead!
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