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Hey, Prama.
We all feel like that at times. My DD1 I gave up BF after 6 weeks coz it hurt. I still don't think that was a good enough reason, but I can understand someone else doing it. If you do wanna go bottle, I think it will be alot less stressful. I've heard of a few who had to do it for similar reasons. Just think how much he's already had & be proud of that!
You've done a great job Prama try not to feel bad he's getting all the good stuff from your milk even though he isn't packing on heaps of weight.
I have had a fairly restful day no soccer training cos of the rain so have had a few days of not having to rush around after school. I have nice clean sheets on the bed so hopefully i get a decent sleep and feel even better tomorrow :crossfingers:
It's official i start work next thursday night not doing too many hours to start with so we'll see how we go i really don't want to but DH and i don't share money i have to ask him for it he has his and i have mine.
thanks skye and trina.
i know ive done my best. at least i got this far which i didnt expect to at the start.
im only continuing cos we are going to be away and i want him to get the antibodies from me.
once we comeback he will be on solids anyway so i can start to wean him off the boob and onto the bottle. he doesnt seem to mind the bottle anyway, so it will be easy..
have to feed him now
lots of love
xoxoxo
Trina you need to tell your DH what I told mine - what's mine is mine and whats yours is mine. Only fair don't you think? Who's going to look after the girls when you go to work?
Prama you'll look back on this and wonder what the fuss was all about when he's a strapping 6ft tall teenager. Keep up the good work and trust yourself. I saw someone on IPL cricket that had the same name as poopy and the spelling was similar too.
Dont know wether to be worried or freaked out that Will slept from 8 pm to 6 am today
Isn't that funny Bron, we worry about everything as Mum's not enough sleep too much sleep it never ends... You probably woke more than him.
Teach good one!! I should give it a try. My Mum and DH will be looking after her, i am wondering if it is worth it i'll only be getting a couple of hundred a fortnight but it's better than nothing i guess. DH wage goes up soon so i will see how things go..
I'm off to get Summy weighed and measured, she must have a bit of this cold at the moment still not sleeping well, she's all snuffly and sounds like she can't breathe too well through her nose but as soon as we got up she can breathe better.
Another successful night in the cot! It's good for me too I think. Now that Jazz is in her own room I don't forget to change her when she wakes in the middle of the night and I'm half asleep. It used to be that she'd wake, I'd get up and feed her while dozing in the chair then I'd be so out of it and put her back to bed without changing her occasionally. Now I go into her room, get her up, change her and then go into the lounge to feed her.
Danni is she in sposies or cloth? I use a night nappy or a well boosted BBH so if Paddy wakes in the night I don't have to change him. Sometimes I even leave it on for his first feed because he often does a big poo as soon as I've changed him.
Well done Bron maybe this is the beginning of a more restful night for you!
Back already i was the first and only one there for drop in... She is 6.4kg, 60.5cm so chugging along.
I have all kiddies home today raining so hard and all are not 100% so didn't want to send them in the rain.
Jazz is mainly in sposies, I only own 3 clothies and they make her bum HUGE and she just doesn't look comfortable laying in them.
I bought a monitor today and am using it now while she's asleep. I had to take the ariel off of the receiver because I was getting radio interferrance but now that the ariel is off it's fine and still working. Also it wasn't working with batteries but I fixed that. The pictures that show the direction of the batteries was back to front so I've put the batteries in opposite to what it says and now it's working on battery power.
hi girls,
been out all day. had to get my hair done again cos the colour didnt show the last time,but it's still not as red(streaks) as it used to be. so my hairdresser said to come back next week. lucky she's not charging me. and had a nice lunch at MIL's. been pouring here.
teach - i hope you're right! MIL said at 16 DH was 5'2" and at 17 he was 6'2".
i havent been following the IPL but hope that that poopy's mum didnt call him poopy cos he does stinky poos.. thats why i call him poopy!
trina - woo hoo! on summer;s progress.
paed said poopy has only been putting on about 100g aweek when he should be doing 200g per week. so im increasing his top up but he only still seems to take the same as before, maybe he will start taking it in.
did you all hear about the little girl who was left in the day care centre and her father came to see it was all locked up?
it's next to my suburb, and it's a new centre, it started this year. i was going to check it out but didnt bother cos it's not accredited yet. i dont think it will get accrediated!!
Prama, 100g i thought was ok, the nurse at our MG was telling me once that 50-100g onwards is ok so confusing sometimes hey. Good on you getting your hair done, mine looks pretty blah i went darker last time to make life easier and it's pretty dreary really.
It is raining so hard here i have an outdoor laundry and can't get out there so have a massive pile of washing mounting up..... I had to get out there in full rain coat before. House is way too small to be stuck in.
Summy did a poo all over her floor gym before her butt was on a cloth having some free butt time and she wiggled off and did a big poo paige moved super quick while gagging hehe
I just had an email from a friend saying that rubbing vicks (i'm sure it would also work with baby balsam) on the bottom of the feet and then cover with socks. This is meant to relieve coughs in adults & children and help them sleep more soundly and apparently has a 100% success rate
Hey girls,
Hope you are all well. I took DJ back to osteopath and he has been a little unsettled since, but he was like that 24 hours after his apt last week and then a completely different baby. Osteo said he is still twisted and there is a strain in his neck which causes him alot of pain. Poor bubba :(
Prama - yeah heard of that child care centre - very sad indeed. Found out Doni's work creche/childcare centre will take DJ up to 9 months full-time so that is a good thing, and then after that they will take him part-time which is still good. It is a free childcare centre at his work.
Found out Doni is away from Tuesday til Friday next week and then the following week arghhhh at least next week is only 3 nights phewwww but still I just miss him so much when he is away.
Sorry it isn't a long post, will do more personals tomorrow.
Hope you are all well and babies are behaving ;)
Shell xxxx
oh shell - hugs to little DJ. poor babies cant tell us what's hurting them.
could you go away w Doni?
trina - sorry but was :rofl: what sumz did.. i know it wasnt funny cleaning it off the playmat!
I just had such a great sleep. DJ slept from 10:30 til 5:15am this morning then fed for 10 mins and put him back to sleep and woke up at 8:15am for his next feed. I slept for 9 hours all up and I feel great from it :) I hope he keeps this up kehehehe he is much better after osteo apt, still waiting for him to do a poo though, poor bubbba :( he didn't do one yesterday and come to think of it I don't think he did one on Tuesday either so I think he may be a little constipated because normally he does one per day.
Prama - can't go with Doni because he will be travelling around a bit once he is up in Cairns by car with one of his colleagues and he will be too busy. At least it is only 3 nights next week, not sure about the following week but definitely don't want to go with him he will be in Wipa - right up the top of Australia haha not much to see around there, all mining town.
Anyway I am going to head for a shower, catching up with a friend for coffee later this morning so need to get myself organised.
Chat soon
Shell xxxx
Morning girls!
Sorry been away for too long for loads f personals,
Shell- happy belated birthday! glad you had a nice day
Trina - sorry that your hols were cut short, just in the nick of time i think though judging by the weather... DH and I dont share money as such, seperate accounts etc... but i told him that he needs to give me more money, so we set up a regular transfer of money to my account after he gets paid, that way i dont have to ask for the money.. i agree with Teach - whats mine is his etcs!!!! Hopefully his pay rise comes in and you can pack in the work :)
weekend wasnt so bad, DH ex is a PITA but i love having DSS around, so aside from the stuffing around it was OK...
still angry at the situation, you are right prama, it is all about her and it drives me insane, but i guess these are the things that we have to deal with.
Woo hoo Bron on will sleeping so long, try not to worry, its a good think, the only thing i have found is that MJ sleeps less in the day as she sleeps about 11hrs at night... oh and AF comes back!
Noticed a massive change in MJ this week, she is talking back soooo much and giggling, its so great, i was in tears the other day (i was so in love!) it is just magical!
doing a lot more tummy time, i suggested that we d it at MG meetings too as lotd of us are not doing it as much as we should... MJ is not as good as some of the other babies on her tum, but then she stands better than them, i guess you can develop everything all at once, but making more of an effort to get her on her tummy. I really wanted her to roll before this week as Mum arrived back Monday and Nina got back last night yaay :)
Anyway, gotta go, missed you all this week, just been so flat out
Shell yours popped up while i was posting - have a good day and yay on the sleep.
TEACH... could you please check out this thread i started, do you have any advice professionally? thanks https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...ml#post1285660
SJ - DJ is the same stands better than when on his tummy. He still grizzles heaps when on his tummy. Mind you he is fine when getting his back massage or on our chests but when we put him down on his mat for tummy time he is grizzly. But he stands well so keeping up with that and trying to do more tummy time. I had a wonderful birthday thanks for your well wishes and what great news about Nina and soon your mum coming back as well, that went really quick :) Bet you are relieved. And I too was crying but with
such joy when DJ giggles and smiles, it is the best thing!!!
Miss Summy finally had a fairly good sleep... She is soooo snuffly and blocked up though poor little thing. The worst thing about having 4 kids is when one gets sick everyone gets sick and keep passing it back to each other :wall: Both DH and I have it too...
Hope you all have a good day xo
Jazz is also standing well and hates tummy time. She is also interracting with other people and things heaps more now. Like the other day The Wiggles were on Sunrise and the Morning Show. While they were on she was quiet, smiling and kicking away very happily. Before and after they were on she'd been grizzly! After that while I was changing her I put a Wiggles CD on and danced around while she laid there laughing at me. She doesn't really laugh out loud but occasionally excitedly squeels, but I can tell she's laughing without sound coz she'll smile with her whole body and her breathing sort of gets shorter and more frequent during that time, just like a laugh.
SJ, my AF came back a week and a half after I stopped bleeding from giving birth. The first AF was terrible. I've had one since and it only lasted 3 days which is shorter than before I got pregnant. I really can't say if it's from going longer between feeds at night or from the implanon or both. One things for sure and I'm sure this is from the implanon, I don't have any cramping with AF! I'm scared of cramping now, it reminds me of labour!
Hi all.
Daniellabella - That vicks thing sounds interesting, wish I knew 4 weeks ago when Jesse was all blocked up though. He's fine now, but I'll remember next time! I'd use baby balsam though. Should work the same.
I can't believe that day care center! How can like 5 people forget a kid is there? That poor father. I'd freak!
Bri is hopefully starting pre school next week. I can't wait to have a coupe hours a week with just Jesse. I think I'll be lost without her though. She's 3 today. 7.08 this morning 3 years ago I gave birth to her. Wierd when you think about it like that.
Just a quickie as am off out will do personals later. WIll slept form 8.30 till 6 this morning so yay again except I was awake again at 2 3 and 4 expecting him to wake up. He put on 500 grams htis month and grew..wait for it..8 cm *L* so poor little buggar is probably exhausted from all that growing.Yep on the vicks thing have done it to myself and di ti to WIll when he had his cold it really does help.
Got to run
Bron xx
I've done the vicks thing too works well.
I have so much housework to do am running out of reasons not to do it. Best i go do my 6 or so loads of washing....
The other day Matt was talking about his level of nappy changing skills saying he has graduated from beginner to ameture and that I'm an expert. I corrected him and said I'm higher than expert...I'm a mum!
SJ replied to your other thread. Good luck. My sister is a deadbeat mum, my mum has had her first born since she abandoned her at 4 months and now can't cope with having every weekend coz it's too stressful. Welcome to parenthood.
Paddy had his 3mth checkup today 7.22kg 63.5cm h/c44.5(boof head). He's been a bit grizzly during the day and just taking short naps so going to work on training him up to put himself to sleep during the day. Still sleeping well at night 8.30 to 6.30
We had a daycare centre shut down a few years ago for the same thing and then another one for tieing the children up to make them nap. You really have to have a look at daycares carefully, don't you.
I was just sitting here with Jesse on my lap. I had the dummy in the same hand & he slowly reached up & got hold of it. I knew he had worked out how to hit the toy on his rocker & move it, but he took the dummy out of my hand. After alot of grunting coz it was such hard work. The look of concentration was just so cute.
Now I think he's gonna put himself to sleep. I just put him down & he hasn't made a sound. I dunno what to do. He's only 13 weeks old, but I still feel like he's growing up too fast. I'll just have to waste alot of petrol money going to visit my cousin who I just found out is due to have a baby on Nov 1. I'll annoy her while her bub's little then find someone else. LOL! I'm kidding, that sounds a bit wierd, huh. I can't wait for him to get a bit bigger, but I'm already missing my baby...:(
skye - that little jesse sounds like a genius in hte making! haha, good on ya, girl!
xoxox
mumzy - where are you?
Skye: I love that look of concentration. Jazz does it all the time to try and reach for the toys dangling above her on her mobile or play mat. Sometimes she tries to touch my face too.
Teach: 3 month check up? In SA they do one at 2 months and then another at 4 months, 6 months etc. I will have to pop into the Child & Youth Health centre near me to get Jazz weighed & measured. Will try to remember to do that tomorrow.
We pick up the hand and feet sculptures Jazz had done at 5 weeks tomorrow. I'll post a pic of it as soon as I can. I can't wait to get it!
Jazz is starting to put herself to sleep more easily. It's kind of like as soon as she goes into her sleeping bag, she knows it's time to sleep and as long as she's had a feed, she'll just go off to sleep if I put her in the cot, even if she's wide awake when she goes into the cot.
She's had a lot of wind today but has been able to pass it mostly by herself. I gave her some gripe water at 3am and haven't needed to give her any since. She's been laying on her play mat popping away. When she needs to do a poo she has such a look of concentration, then pulls a funny face as if she's thinking "ewwww" and then does a bit of a poo. She'll kind of clench her fists and pull her elbows in and make the face all at the same time. It's so cute!
Just a quick one. I've uploaded a photo of the hand & feet sculpture in my gallary.
danni the frame looks fantastic you must be really pleased with it.
3 nights in a row of sleeping through for WIll yay and he is still having a sleep or two during the day must be a growth spurt I think.
Anybody got anything exciting planned for the long weekend? Not here our back yard is being demolished garage and all ready for my parents to build their new house at the back of the house we are living in. We will be spending quite abit of itme around at grandmas out of the noise and all the dust.
I bought part of my mums 60th birthdy gift today. Hard to find something for everybody who has everything so got her an experience instead. Its 2 all day cooking classes in a local vineyard and a long italian lunch. They get to prepare all ingredients cook up the lunch then match the wines with all the foods then sit amongst the grapes and enjoy. I realy think she will love it.( would love to do it myself) My dad is taking her to Raffles in Singapore for a birthday dinner when they are there in October so have also organised a cooking class at the culinary academy there as a suprise.
I think experiences wil be my request for gifts now instead of dust collectors for the house *L* although hubby did do well for my birthday buiyng a gold heart charm for around my neck from him and a little boy gold charm from Will..that was pretty special
( he usualy forgets)
I bought great mirror from lamaze for Will today I laughed so hard as I realised its the first time he has seen his reflection close up He thought it was brilliant and laughed and cooed for nearly 15 mins looking at himself it was agreat investment.
wow bj sure does sound liek your little man is developng fast. Its scary all the changes they seem to make over night isnt it.
Hey prama what sthe countdown to you holiday it must be soon hope you can log on while you are away.
sj a personal question and you dont have to discuss but is there any chance of you and hubby having dss on apermanat basis so its more stable for him? sorry you are under so much stress form ex.
trina hope you guys are feeling better at your house.
teach the whole day care thing scares me and I have worked in long day care for nealry 20 years I work in a brilliant centre that I would gladly leave WIll in but cant because its against policy and the other centre doesnt cover my hours. WIll prob end up in family day care.
And as scary as it sounds I can see how it could have happened in the centre..it shouldnt have but can.
Ask if the children are grouped together at the end of the day and how many staff there are there to cover them all its really important.
Are you girls who are at mothers group continuing on to meet up with the other mums. I got a big hint from the hcn that I would be good at orgnaising the next group. Its the last thing I want to do.it feels like I am at work and I Just want to be the mummy who turns up with her boy and enjoys it..does this sound selfish?I know somebody has to do it but I dont want it to be me.
I just had a guy at the dor..730.pm trying to seel me insulation for the house and then when I Said no he asks me if I am a christian..wth? what has this to do with selling insulation..was not happy jan holding the door open on a cold night for that. I know its his job but sheesh good luck getting any body interested.
Anyway enough blabbing from me hope you and yours are all well
Bron xx
danni - i go to see the MCN every 2 weeks just to weigh and measure him. he's been better at putting on weight. ive just been worried about his weight gain so i go that often. else i'll go every 4weeks. the nurse is really nice so i enjoy having a chat with her.
bron - that guy sounds so strange! what has insulation and religion got to do with each other? hell?
i will surely log on at my parents. my brother's tehre at the moment cos his house is being renovated. but i will have easy access during the day while he's at work. will be a bit hard at night as he's doing his MBA part time and has an exam at night so he'll be studying.
our MG mett up yesterday. i 'voluntered' to organise meetings but i didnt mind. but next week we are going to see sex and the city, and another mum is organising that. i think we'll just do it week by week. i think there will only be the 6 of us who'll meet regularly. anyway, someone will have to do the organising while im away so hopefully they will become the permanent one!
yeah, one of the mums' in our grp was going to send her son to the dodgy day care. i didnt bother looking at it cos it's brand new and not yet accredited by NCAC. it's just in the next suburb to us.
the staff obviously didnt look at the sign out book. the mum rang at 5.40 and no one was there, so obviously they decided to ahve an early day!
why would they strap a 1 yr old to a bouncer. would they force the kids to sleep by strapping them in?
nothing exciting.. just packing.. so much to do!
Ok going to try and post again, last few days Belly Belly hasn't been posting grrrr so been typing big long posts and they don't post.....
I decided to let DJ sleep through his 3-4am feed because he only feeds for 5 mins in that time and falls asleep and instead of feeding him I just settled him down stroking his head and he fell back to sleep so last night he slept from 9:30pm til 5:45am this morning woohooooooo Sure some of that time was grizzling and I didn't sleep for that entire time but at least we are getting somewhere ;) It will be much easier on me if he continue to sleep through when Doni is away for his work trips as well :)
Not much else new from my end, just been busy with DJ........ And spending time with hubby. He is away from Tues til Friday next week, which isn't too bad, at least it is only 3 nights......
Prama - you must be on the final countdown for your trip away wooooohoooooo do you think you will be going to Ness' class on Tuesday? I can't remember what day you leave it was 14th or something like that..... call it baby brain, I can hardly remember what day it is...... have fun packing, you must be getting so excited :)
Sorry I don't have time for more personals, got heaps of stuff to do today :)
Chat soon
Shell
PS: here's hoping this post actually goes up.....grrr
Jazz is 1/4 of a year old today!
I've managed to get her onto a bottle but I have to use a small slow teat. She had about 75ml yesterday and always falls asleep easier now with a bottle feed. I'm sad that she's starting to take a bottle easier coz it means that I have to start looking for work.
Matt & I have decided that he's gonna go part time in his job and I'm gonna try and find a part time job because if we are both working part time then hopefully Jazz will spend less time in day care and with the way things work out we'll probably earn more than if one of us is working full time and the other is working part time.
shell - i'll be going on tuesday, better try to fit in one last bit of exercise before i go!
woo hoo! good on DJ on increasing his sleep time!!
just had a nice big din din, time to go play with poopy, his royal highness has woken up.
xoxox
Dilemma’s
Hi all, I am sitting here wondering what to do about our financial situation, at the moment we survive. We live fairly comfortably but are on a pay-check to pay-check basis and do struggle to pay bills on time sometimes though they always get paid. I love spending my days with Jake and watching him grow and I don’t want to miss out on seeing our son grow up but on the other hand I want to get ourselves established before we decide to add to our brood so buying a house is paramount to this.
I have been offered a job working 5 days a week from 7am till 5:30 pm on a VERY good wage (almost a six figure sum per annum) and it is an easy job too, driving a loader and dump truck. There may be a way to get Jake to come with me if I can take the crusher operator position but that is not certain as yet. If I could do that it would be awesome! But at this stage I am working on having to put Jake into the care of a good friend’s mother.
The dialema is how to decide what the best course of action is, Jake would be very well cared for if he were to go to my friends mothers place however am I neglecting my duties as a mother to be putting him into care so early (he will be four months). Taking this job on will mean we will be able to put some serious savings away and really take a giant leap ahead in getting to where I want to be (stay home mum who runs a small agistment property ). I am planning to only be working for a year at the most so will be returning to Jake full time by the time he is 16 months old, about the time according to Brett that I am supposed to have another child! Eeeeeeek!
So what would you do? Take the job for a year, with the sacrifice of missing out on a larger portion of your son’s first year and set your lives up or struggle for the next few years but spend the quality time with your child??? Why would you choose what you did??
Cheers
Lisa
Lisa you certainly have a dilema and I'll just say now that this is a very personal choice. I chose not to return to full time work with my first two unless DH could look after them and will be doing the same this time.
I went back to work for 5 months while DH looked after our first (he worked nights). The hardest part was that I wasn't her most imprtant person anymore. When she got upset she wanted her dad because that was her primary carer. Great for him sad for me. Over the years I have worked/studied around my kids with the support of my DH. We don't have grand parents readily available.
So I suppose I would weigh up if this choice is for the greater good (will allow me to stay at home later on) and if I could live with someone else having a large input into my child's life.
Go with your gut. You could always quit work if you found it wasn't working for you or Jake. Good luck
Lisa this is a catch 22 question. Unfortunately I don't think anyone can answer except you.
We are in a similar situation, living paycheck by paycheck and usually by the time we've done shopping, paid rent, paid bills and gotten petrol for 2 cars, we are left with a very, very small amount for the rest of the fortnight.
I'm sad to say this but I think for you and for me and for just about every mother, no matter what decision is made there will always be some regret for making that choice.
I personally think that the hours you mentioned are huge and I don't think I could jump straight from nothing back to those sort of hours.
For me I will need to ease back into the workforce by working (hopefully) 2-3 full days or 5 part days a week. I know beyond any doubt that I'm not ready for full time work.
Before Jazz was born I thought that I would be ready to work full time again when I went back to work, but I know now that just isn't so. If you are ready to do that then good on you and I wish you the best of luck.
One thing though, no one has the right to judge whatever decision is made. We each have to do what is right for our situation and our family. No one else knows what's best for your family, unfortunately often we ourselves don't even know what's best, but we do know better than anyone else.
Lisa - I know how u feel. I've been thinking about it, but I can't leave Jesse yet. Not full time anyway. After Jaz I worked casually for my mum, which helped. She was about 6 weeks. But after Bri I didn't do anything til she was 18 months when I started working at the pub at home, but that was only 2 nights a week. Sometimes 3. About $100 - $250 a week. It was our have fun money. The rest went to bills. What I earnt was for takeaway, & going out etc.
I would like something like that again, just to kinda get out of the house too, but I'm not game enough to work in a pub here. We moved an hour & a half away to a bigger town. Where we lived before there are only about 250 people & most of them are out of town. I knew everyone. There are a few thousand people here & I don't know any of them.
Then there's day care. It really just doesn't seem worth it unless I'm making good money, but then I'd have to be away from the kids more.
The decision is way too hard.
Danni - Jesse is 1/4 year today. It's going so fast!
Happy 1/4 year birthday Jesse!
I wish Jazz would sleep through the night again. She was so good before but now she'll wake at about 12:30 but I don't get her up then. I go in, put a dummy in her mouth and she usually goes back to sleep for 30mins to an hour or a bit longer if I'm lucky. Then she'll wake up 2-4 hours after a feed.
Last night when she was up at 2am for a feed DH got up as well so he could watch the F1. Jazz then woke at 6am and I'm in the habit of no matter what, I set an alarm for 8am and get up then. When she wakes at 6am she'll finish the feed at about 7ish so I usually stay up, there is no point going back to bed IMO. So I'm up, she's in bed, DH is in bed and that's the way it is.
Any one else found ticklish spots yet?? Under Jesse's arms & the top inside of his thigh. He cacks himself. Its so funny.
Danni - Jesse has good nights & bad nights. Last night was a bad one.Went down around 8.30. Woke at 1am, 3.30am, 5am, 6.30am, 7.30am. The night before was good though. Went down about 9.pm & only woke at 3am, then 7.30. Almost every nights different. I think last night he had a dirty nappy though. He doesn't usually dirty it through the night, & I use Huggies so I don't have to change him. But obviously last night I should've. Oh well, we r still alive.