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Hi guys.
Bron - It is possible. Another thing is that he is my last baby (I hope) & once I stop BFing him, thats it. Never again. Also I am very clingy with him, so I think BFing might be an excuse to keep him close too. Maybe thats just my loneliness & now that I have friends & family around who understand & have been/are going through the same things I will relax a bit.
We come from a kinda different family to most too. We are a line of V8 drivers & Harley & dirt bike riders, who listen to rock music & like to party hard. I feel pressured to raise a tough, feral boy when I just want my baby. & its all going to fast for me to let him go to be the type of boy they want. I don't want to wrap him cotton wool, & I do want him to do all that, but I just want it to slow down a little. I mean he's nearly walking. I know it seems a long way off, but is my BFing him & mummying him gonna stop early enough for him to be like that???
I dunno. I think I'm being silly. I just keep thinking that this is it. I'm 24. I need t stop having babies & start to get a bit of a life of my own. Which means I'm never going to experience this again. I'm not ready to give it up yet!!!!! But I need to live my life! As much for my kids as for me.
Ok, now you kinda see the reason for wanting to see the councellor. Coz it all just goes round & round in my head & I can't make any sense of it!
I'm tired. I'm off to bed.
Good night girls.
PS.....Have fun Prama!!!
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Hi girls,
Well, I am scared....... It just took me almost 2 hours to get DJ to sleep. He was so unsettled and wouldn't sleep...... please please please please don't let him be sick yet again........ I gave him some panadol, there was no temp but just so he could settle down. His gums aren't very red, well no more than usual...... I just don't want him to be sick coz we are away this weekend....... Tomorrow is my day off so good thing is we are staying indoors most of tomorrow so I will put him down for plenty of sleeps.
Sorry this is brief...... I just want to relax a bit before he wakes up. Doni is in Griffith tonight and back tomorrow thankfully.....
Shell xxx
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Skye :hug: you poor thing.
There is nothing wrong with loving your boy and BFing him for as long as you want. Its not going to make him soft or a pussy or a mummies boy, he is just going to know that his Mummy is there for him and that you love him loads. He can still be rough and tumble and ride dirt bikes etc etc... I bet some of the toughest guys are Mummies boys at heart, and to be honest they are the good ones as they have the respect that can be missing.
Take each day at a time, its only early days yet, you have just moved and have to actually settle in first. There's no hurry to give up, did you know that the average age world wide to BF is between 2-4yrs, its only the western countries that dont have long BFing as the norm.
I sort of know how you feel, there is NO WAY i could consider giving it up at the moment, i understand why others have, but i havent had any problems BF or medical conditions that would mean i need to stop... I love it and have no intentions of stopping any times soon - that is unless MJ decides that she wants to stop.
Go chat to someone, hopefully they will help you work out whats going on in that muddle at the moment.. i suspect that the move from Anth and having 3 kidlets to look after have alot to do with it as well. As you said, your only 24, you have loads on your plate.... AND you have been living your life, you are a fantastic Mummy, you have 3 beautiful babies and so many people would be envious... just think, when Jesse is 21, you will only be 45... when MJ is 21, i will be 51!!! (AHHHHHH) sure i've done things, but you will be doing things at a different stage... oh im blabbing, i will shut up now... take care of your self :hug: you are doing an amazing job :)
Shell, fingers crossed for you and DJ.... hope ou have a good night.
Im off to cook dinner, sorry for the ramble and lack of personals
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Thanks again you guys.
My problems just seem never ending...
Anyway! It has been raining pretty much the whole time I've been here! I'm over it! 2 months ago I was winging about the heat now its the cold! I am wearing a jumper! I was in my dressing gown nearly all day coz it was too cold to get dressed!! I haven't been able to take the kids to the beach for a swim yet. We've been for a few walks, but its too cold for swimming.
I just put some new pics on Facebook. Jesse & Wally the dog, Jaz horse riding & the beach.
Hope DJ's cutting a tooth & will be right by morning for you Shell! Good luck tonight.
Hope everyone else is having a good week.
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Skye: Good on you for wanting to keep BF, the longer you can do it, the better. Don't let others pressure you into stopping or into raising a "tough boy" You raise him the way you think is best and he'll turn out how he turns out. He's only 8 months old, he's still a baby so there is no reason not to treat him like a baby!
I would have loved to have kept BF Jazz for a bit longer but it just got too hard for me to keep expressing while working and my supply dried up.
Has anyone's bubs started showing preference to a certain hand? Jazz is using her right hand more I've noticed when she is holding and grabbing for things.
I feel like she has become a different baby overnight (all of a sudden on Sunday night she was different). Not a bad different, just more "grown up"
I was holding a 2 month old on Sunday, he was so little and light. Also a friend of mine had a baby 5 days ago. I got all clucky. I told Matt that I don't want another baby for a couple of years at least, but I want to be pregnant again, I loved being pregnant (except for the last 2 weeks when I was just too huge). I miss that. Ah well, we'll probably be trying when Jazz is 2 years old so that hopefully our 2nd will be born around Jazz's 3rd birthday. (that is if it doesn't take us a year to conceive like it did with Jazz)
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Well, last night after finally getting him to sleep he woke again at 8pm but nursed him back to sleep coz he wouldn't stop screaming...... then I tried to give him a dreamfeed at 10pm but he took around 80ml then didn't wake up until 2am for a feed which I thought was good and then 6:30, so not too bad considering the early part of the night I had...... but no tooth hahahahaha I think he is going to give me a hellish night and he will cut more than 1.....haha like his uncle. my mum said within one week my brother got 8 teeth by the time he was 1 year old, but within one week.!!!! she said it was horrible!!! Anyway shall see I suppose..... He doesn't seem too bad this morning, sounds a bit chesty again.... seriously never seems to get better and I woke up with a sore throat again...... I am finally going to the osteo today so going to ask him about DJ as well and see if he thinks he needs another alignment. Maybe that has something to do with his reccuring infections and disturbed sleep.... Who knows but worth a try....
How is everyone else? Good sleep?
Danni - yeah I don't think I will be having another one for at least 3-4 years but alot of people say to me it is best to get both out of the way.... but I think I just need to concentrate on the one first haha
Skye - how ridiculous is the weather hey? It is cold and rainy in Sydney as well soooo cold, have jacket, long socks on and all.....
SJ - thanks for your well wishes..... wasn't a bad night....
Well, I better get some serious housework done. Got so much to do today.... Also got to buy some baby stuff to take to mums on Friday, go to osteo and get a wax done and a body scrub :) (bring on the body scrub - getting a fake tan tomorrow night).
Chat soon
Shell xxx
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Hi girls,
Sorry no reply for a while - things are a bit crazy.
We've had our first word - dad-dad-dad - very exciting.
Shell, sorry to hear that you are having a rough time. Teeth caused havoc with us - even though it says in Babylove that 'teething causes nothing but teeth'... After 10 days of night waking, grizzles and midnight feeds again, I beg to differ!!!
Bjrose - hang in there darl. Bfing is a personal thing - so I understand that it's sometimes hard to even contemplate giving it up. I breastfed for about 8 weeks after going back to work but I ended up with plenty of milk, but not much quality, so I stopped. I think it might be harder to stop doing it when it comes down to choice and not because you have to. Look after yourself.
Hi to everyone else. Sorry for the short entry - going to try to have an early night after a crummy sleep last night!
Take care,
LJ
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wow ive missed heaps
Skye i stopped bf so that i can have some me time, i was going to do it part time but she decided that the bottle was much easier to drink. Its a personal choice, i was going to keep going because she is my last baby but my circumstances changed and i feel i made the right decision, i think you will know when you are ready.
SJ haha yep the cat and dog bowl are a nightmare, the amount of times ive found her eating dog biscuits yum yum..... As soon as they are mobile it's like everything changes, they become explorers and find things you would never see i vacuumed the other day and im a bit anal when doing the rug and after i found her picking up a christmas beetle off it, she can pick up the tinyest things now.
Bron my poor cat too haha, he still comes and lays down next to Summer the sweet boy but yes she climbs over the top of him, he is a big boy but is only 1 so im lucky they have grown up together. How you feeling?
Hi to everyone else :hello: sorry i haven't done more personals couldn't catch up on everything
im off to sydney this weekend to have a weekend with friends its the first time ever without summer for a night so not sure how that's going to go
So can't wait for the horrible side of teething to be over....... Summer has cut her 6th tooth and it is giving her so much trouble its the top front one.
ok summer is destroying something gotta go
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Hey girls,
Well I have packed the bags for both me and DJ, only a few more things to pack woooohoooo Got a spray tan done tonight so almost ready for Melbourne Yipeeee and I don't even care that the weather is going to be raining all weekend just being away and having a DJ-free weekend is enough for me :) I definitely think this is exactly what I need. I left work early today with headaches and headspins, I think from being overtired so had a rest and then picked up DJ.
Trina - wow 6th tooth, that is amazing, DJ hasn't even got a first one yet haha loved your photos on facebook, your girls are going to be heartbreakers when they get older.
Lily - I know what its like to have a crummy night sleep, hopefully you had a better night sleep :)
Shell xxx
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Hey guys.
I took the kids down to the beach this afternoon (sun was finally out for the day!) & OMG! You should've seen Jesse! He absolutely loved every second of it!
As soon as his feet touched the ground he was walking towards the water, then once he was in there he just kept going!
When the waves hit him, he laughed. When the water splashed his face he sucked the salt in around his lips & kept going & when I tried to sit him on the edge to give my back a break he'd take off on me! Back into the water & waves.
He looked so spunky in his boardies!! My little beach bum!
I put some pics on face book of a snake we found in mum's garde. Curled up next to the clothes line. It was pretty cool. I'm just about t put a few more pretty pics on of the beach & stuff. Been playing with mum's flashy camera.
Off to Coffs tomorrow shopping! Well paying off my chrissy layby's & putting more on.
I bought Jesse a little fold out couch with sleeping bag yesterday. Its neat. Bright red, he loves it. I thought coz it was big & so bright it would scare him (most balls & balloons o) but it doesn't bother him at all.
Everything is going so good ATM. The kids are happy. Jaz has sttled into her new school really well. I knew she would coz she knew alot of the kids from holidays & stuff.
We are going out to see Anth next weekend. We'll leave at around lunch on Thursday, or even after Jaz finishes school. Jesse hates the car & can't stand the 40 minutes to Coffs/Kempsey. He hates the trip out there, so hopefully if I leave late he will sleep the second half of it, which is usually when it gets too much for him.
Anyways, off to put these piccies on face book.
Night girlies!
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bnik cv vcvxdcbhvb m,c6x v rfd - Thats a hi from Jesse!
How are we all? Jesse & I are just up having a midnight snack. (We snuck some 'Nice' bikkies into bed! Shhh...)
Just thought we'd say hello since its 1am & we have been up since 11. Well Jesse has, I haven't been to sleep yet. Gave up trying half hour ago.
I dunno whats wrong with him. He's had a fever & was up at 2.30am this morning too til 4am.
He better sleep in in the morning!
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We are probably going to take Jazz to see Santa today. We have to go to the shopping centre to go to the bank before they close at 12 and I found out that Santa arrives in the centre today. Given that she loves grabbing her dad and uncle's beards, I'm worried that she'll pull santa's beard off in front of all the kiddies. That would be funny though.
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I've put a photo up here and on facebook of Jazz's first visit to Santa. She was very good. We had to get them to take another photo coz the first one they gave us was so blurry.
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hi girls,
so much to catch up..
skye - is jesse walking already!?? gosh!!
shell - hope you had a good time away.. all that teeth in one week! wow, that might be easier for them then having one cut at different times.
trina - 6 teeth!! wow.. is she biting stuff? hope things are going ok w you.
sj - how's mj's sleep.. poopy's still the same..
evryone - hope you are all ok..
we had a fantastic time away.. i am so relaxed. it was so nice to have a family holiday, and steve w us 24/7 for so many days.
my shoulder still hurts so steve helped all teh nappy changing.
poopy was waking up at 1ish then 4ish, i woke up at 1ish to pat him back and 4ish for a feed, and then poopy would wake up 6ish 7. steve would wake up w him, (after the feed, we sometimes have him in our bed cos it was easier, and we were lazy) steve get him up and change him and give him brekky but i'd sleep in and loved it. it's so nice to know he was being taken care of and i didnt ahve to worry about it.
i'd wake up, have my shower, steve and i have our brekky, chat w poopy and we'd go out.
we had a few overcast days but one or two sunny days.. problem was as soon as we drove out, poopy would fall asleep! we didnt do lots of walks cos we couldnt take the stroller there and at times poopy was fast asleep. so different when it was just steve and me, we do walks, grab something to eat and relax. now we have to time going between poopy's meals/milk etc.
he enjoyed the beach. the first time he didnt like it cos the water was ice cold, the next day it was gorgeous and he loved the sand and the water on his legs...
we just had a fantastic time, after he'd go to bed, steve and i would just cuddle and talk and watch tv. we had our 5th anniversary on friday.
anyway, sorry it's all about me..
will write more later...
oh we are going to take a piccy w santa too!!!
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Hi guy.
No Prama, not walking yet! He's getting very close to cruising though. But no, not yet.
I think another tooth must be coming. He won't sleep, is constipated & wingy. Little bugger.
Oh well. I'm going to bed.
Hope you guys are all good. Your a bit quiet.
Bye now y'all!!
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morning,
Prama, sleep was better, then got worse the last 2 nights, think it was the cauliflower though as she has been farting heaps, and she had it 2 days running. Last night was a shocker, i am really really tired.
No teeth here still, MJ is cruising too.. she doesnt really like crawling anymore, she wants to stand up all the time and try and move.... she is so cute, cos she is a little worried about getting back down and falling, so she stands for ages!
Shell hope you had a great weekend away and enjoyed the sleep in
Danni, great santa pic, we are going to do one soon, will do one with just MJ then we will also have one with MJ and DSS (and as much as he rolls his eyes, he loves it really)
Trina, my gosh you kids are sooooooooo cute... you will have to lock them up when they hit puberty!
hummmm, cant think of all the things i wanted to write, my head is in a fog and i am really not looking forward to this afternoon as we have a meeting with DSS Mum and his counsellor... its not bad, just hate having to do these things, feel like i am under scrutiny
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skye - ah i thot jesse was walking already!
sj - i know, just when you think they are going get better they go back to square one. so frustrating. we had 2am, grizzle grizzle till 3, then 5am feed, and 7am wake up. i was so tired, i put him in bed w me till 8.
poopy's cruising and carefully lets go so he sits on his bum..
yesterday, we saw him w one hand on the sofa and he actually took a step, not facing the sofa but the other way, the sofa on his side. eeekkk..
bbl whingy is whinging
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Jazz is getting much more coordinated at crawling backwards. Matt & i were helping her to crawl forwards and she thought that was great. Then she tried to do the exact thing we were making her do but she was going backwards.
She went over to our cat yesterday and was laying on the floor next to him. He was enjoying it and she was stroking him. Then she grabbed him by the scruff of the neck and yanked him towards her. He looked at us like "help me" so while we were laughing I unlatched Jazz and put her back on her couch and the cat got up and went somewhere else. We are so lucky that he's a contented cat and not the sort that would lash out and scratch. (Unless he's in a playful mood in which case he would not be inside laying down, he's always outside when he's playful)
