nana: good luck with the sleep lady tonight i hope she can sort things out for u.
i uploaded a pic of jayda walkin on fb check it out.
not much else to report here. just sick of the rain.
it has been 12months today since my pop died it seems to go so fast. means only 6 weeks till bubs birthday. makes me so sad he tried so hard to hold out to see her.
ok, quick update from me...
we had the mothercraft nurse come on Tuesday night. She was lovely, and really helpful. Complete opposite to sleep school "nurses"! She freaked out about us having Aadi in a bed though, but understood that it was a last-ditch attempt by us to get him to sleep, and not in our bed. So we have tried to get him back into his cot, in his own room. We're "camping out" in there at night until he learns how to resettle without so much help. Tuesday night he took 45 minutes to go to sleep with us constantly taking it in turns to comfort him, patting, shooshing and singing with the radio on too. The nurse could see immediately that he is a full-on high-needs kid, and suggested we try medication like Pain-Stop, phenurgen, valergen (sp?), or anything we can get our hands on! And a couple of nights a week we have a "sleep medicine" night where we all get some sleep. Yes, it's that bad! Especially since Aadi suffers so badly when he's teething and things like Panadol and Nurofen don't seem to do much at all. Also, DP and I are taking it in turns to sleep in the bungalow so we can get some much-needed uninterrupted sleep.
Anyway, Aadi slept from 8-1.30, but woke up and banged his head on the bars and wouldn't resettle for me, so after an hour I got DP to try. Half an hour more screaming before he went back to sleep, then woke up every hour after that until needing a nappy change at 5.30. He was so hysterical he couldn't even tell me "doddy" (potty) like he normally does. Blah. Wednesday was a shocking day, and he wouldn't sleep because he knew I was going to put him in the cot. He was horrid to me. Screamed all day. I caved and lay down with him and fed him to sleep just so I could rest for 5 minutes. He only slept 25 minutes anyway. By 5pm he still wouldn't relent and nap again, and the nurse rang to check up on me while he was screaming at me. I told her I was going to put him to sleep the only way I could, and call her back. I was a mess by then, and she was telling me I was - in her opinion - borderline PND and needed to go to a hospital. That really pi$$ed me off, so I went and cried with Aadi for a bit and fed him off to sleep again. Then composed myself and called her back. I explained to her that I am not depressed, I'm just frustrated and exhausted and this is the first time I've lost it like that. She understood, especially since I have NO support or assistance here and it's been just me 24-7 dealing with this high-needs kid. She still wants me to try and get into one of the other sleep schools before we go away, but there's nothing available until July/August anywhere. And none of them are covered by my health insurance. The system has let us down yet again...
So anyway, after I put Aadi to sleep at 5, I had to wake him up at 6 to feed him and try and get him back into the routine... He ate some dinner, and had a bath, but was so tired and upset. I gave him a BF and then DP came to try and put him to bed. He was falling asleep in our arms, but as soon as DP put him in the cot he cracked it and then vomited everywhere. DP got him out of the cot and Aadi immediately vomited again, all over DP! Then I copped it while trying to clean everything up. He hasn't been sick like that since starting solids, so it was pretty disgusting even though I'm well and truly used to chucking! Aadi was so miserable. After I cleaned everything up, DP put him back to bed in the cot and he slept, but woke up every hour from midnight again. At 5.30 DP brought him in to me for a BF, but he was carrying on and kicking me again, so he went back in the cot and slept until 7.
I tried to get him to nap in the cot yesterday, and he was so tired but he wouldn't stop throwing a tantrum and screaming. I just couldn't listen to it anymore so I popped him in the pram and went for a walk. He finally fell asleep at about 10.30, after about a kilometre. And stayed asleep for an hour without stirring. I had to go out again in the afternoon, so put him in the sling. Right on 2pm he fell asleep and napped for 45 minutes. I was walking the whole time, and then he woke up right when I got to my appointment with a FDC company. Wreaked havoc in their office, then back in the sling to walk home. Another 2km. My shoulders muscles are like golf balls...
So last night Aadi was exhausted and DP put him to bed without a problem. He woke every hour from 10pm, and by midnight DP couldn't do it anymore and put him to sleep with him on the mattress on the floor. It probably is a really bad time to be trying this big change since Aadi's TEETHING like crazy again. But we're persisting. It's really hard, since Aadi WILL NOT settle for me, and that means weekdays are going to be hard, but I'll keep trying over the long weekend while I have DP here to support me, and see how we go.
OK, I'm done. Hope you're all doing well! Enjoy your long weekend.
OMG Tiahna just too her 1st 4 un assisted steps and i missed it on camera... She has done 1-3 before but i thought i'd wait for a woo hoo til she had progressed to 2 both feet... LOL... She is still a little scared after her big fall but also excited when she does it herself.
NaNa- glad the lady was nice... WOW on recommending something to knock him out... But i guess u all need sleep... and i notice with my wild child that if he doesnt get enough sleep he gets worse and worse.
Sounds like you are having such an aweful time with this sleep business... i really feel for u... My DS was very similar..... i started givinghim camomile tea at about 4.30 every afternooon to get him to relax and get into our night routine... I guess its difficult when u dont want to do the controlled crying because nearly every sleep school seem to choose this method... I really hope that i can find something that works... wonder if there are any other foods and things that have a relaxing effect... or maybe some oils and things... maybe burning them or making a mix to massage into him... u know like the baby bath or baby bolsum???
Were having teething issues also... needed neurophen few times... The necklace has helped so much but 4 teeth are just way too much for her to handle sometimes. We got our 1st ever MCN yesterday a Maz-alicious Nite nap but i think i needed a medium size. she leaked out the legs... but it was on almost 12 hours so didnt doo too bad...
Hope everyone had a great easter and all the bubs enjoy their 1st ever easter. I just got Tiahna a kinder bunny..... i spent $140 on 4 new MCN's for her this week. plus too much chocy will make her get a sore tummy.
ETA.... Sass... must be a tough time for u ... i remember u going through this at the ending of ur pregnancy... Just know ur pop is watching Jayda from above... if u need a chat u know where to find me
Last edited by Je$$_84; April 10th, 2009 at 12:03 PM.
yeah, Jess, for Maz-a-licious you would probably need a medium. I don't know about the sizing of her night nappies coz they're new, I just have some of her covers, and the large cover on Aadi is big enough to go OVER a big bubble-bum night nappy! It's super-important to check the weight range and measurements for all MCN if you're not getting OSFM/OSFA. Definitely ask in the cloth nappy thread about what type you're thinking of getting and someone (probably Gigi) will be able to tell you if they're a good fit for your DD's shape. It seems so expensive at first, but when you haven't had to buy sposies for a month, it feels great. Also, with the nite nap, you will need to give it at least 10 washes before it's at it's peak absorbency. Same with all bamboo and hemp products. If you're getting gapes around the legs, try taking the boosters out. If that fits better, you can put the boosters outside the nappy and put a cover over the lot. At least until Tiahna grows into it a bit better.
I have tried to keep Aadi calm by using as many natural methods as I know of. I always put lavender oil in his bath, and try to massage him afterwards but he doesn't keep still long enough to do it anymore! I have an oil burner going with a special calming blend of oils all the time, and have gone thru a few bottles of Brauer Calm formula. I have decided to cut out dairy from Aadi's diet after trying him on yoghurt and some cheese. It's just not worth it. I avoid anything with tomato in it, and prepare all his food myself now. DP thinks I'm being food-paranoid, but I know how much of an impact it can have on behavioural issues and health. I ate too much cheese the other day, and Aadi and I both suffered afterwards. For a couple of days. It's yuk. I don't want to have to go down the avenue of medicating, but it's getting so hard on DP and I, and Aadi is sleep-deprived too. It's no good for any of us. And it's not that I don't want to do the controlled crying thing (well, I don't) but I know that it isn't going to work without destroying his trust in me completely or making him even more clingy than he already is. It's not worth it. He's challenging enough.
Sass, I'm thinking of you. I remember this time last year, and was wondering last week how you must be feeling now. I hope you're ok.
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