leanne - totally agree with everything you just said, and i thought i would be completely relaxed about it this time after it taking a while last time, but first month ttc and already i am impatient, its stupid! Thanks for the support though, its good to be reminded that it will all happen in good time when its ready and not before, thanks for the words of wisdom! Oh and i reckon Archie would be the follower and the one stealing everyone elses food!