Yep it is almost 3am and I am posting. Well I have just finished feeding Isobella and currently have her lying asleep on my chest. I have a feeling that she gets reflux but she doesn't actually have any of it come out of her mouth. Which is worse as it sounds like it keeps repeating on her. So I have been trying to keep her upright for atleast 10 minutes after her feed and it seems to be helping and she is settling better. I know it then causes problems as she is almost always falling asleep in my arms; but it is better than her screaming and arching her back as if in pain. I am going to have to organise to see the quack and get it properly diagnosed though.
Now to fill you in on the other day. I am going to try and condense it as much as possible and I hope I don't ramble on too much.........
Both Paul and I had fallen asleep on the lounge the other night; about 1:30 I was woken up by Isobella for a feed. She didn't settle till about 2:30ish and I was still awake at 3 when Paul's mobile rang. It was his mum's mobile and when I answered it his Aunty (she lives in the same house as his mum) was on the other end sounding very upset and asked for Paul. My first reaction was "Is everyone alirght?"
She said yes but Paul's Grandfather had passed away. Well that was a shock. So I woke Paul up and his Aunty told him then asked him if he wanted to go to his grandparents house. The whole problem is that we haven't been to that house in over 4 years. Back in March 2003 his family had gathered for the grandfather birthday. Paul and I had had an argument that day and never went. But while everyone was there a massive argument broke out between the uncles and my SIL and my MIL.
Just a few months before this my MIL had been diagnosed with breast cancer and had been under going chemo treatment with a full hysterectomy (sp??) done only a couple of weeks before the grandfathers birthday, Well in the middle of the argument my MIL got very upset and was going to leave, my SIL followed her outside and when they got out the front my MIL collapsed. My SIL then raced over to see if she was ok. While she was leaning over her mum to see if she was ok one of her uncles came up behind her. My SIL turned around to look at him and as she did so he grabbed her with one arm and hit her twice with the other. Well my niece and nephew began screaming and then the Aunty that lives with my MIL got caught up in it trying to get my MIL off the ground. The grandfather threw a shoe at my niece and told her to stop screaming and then told my MIL, SIL and the Aunty to leave. SO he basically kicked them out. It ended up with the police being rung. They called Paul and I to let us know what had happened and being the protective person that my husband is he phoned his uncle and asked him if it was true that he had just hit his sister. Well the answer was yes Paul was shocked and told him he had no right to hit a woman. The uncle respomded with "she deserved it" and because Paul stood up for his sister both the uncles threatened to kill him. Bl--dy hot headed Italian family. The whole thing was a total mess that then ended up in court. So it was quite hard because before the argument my husband had been very close with the grandfather.
After the call we sat up for a little while before going back to bed. When we got up Paul phoned his sister up to see if she was still coming over (she wasn't going to be going to the grandparents house) as she was supposed to be coming over that day to get her car fixed by our next door neighbour who is a panel beater (someone had tried breaking into her car twice and had used a screw driver to put a hole in the both front doors to get in behind the lock) she said she still wanted the work done but didn't have a license as she didn't realise that she needed to renew it a the beginning of the month. So Paul went to over to get her and the kids and drove her car back to get the repairs done. So after not having had much sleep I was having visitors for the whole day. I then became the listening ear for my SIL and her reasons as to why she wasn't going to the house as if I needed to be convinced. She kept saying to me that she didn't feel anything with her grandfather passing away and that she wasn't upset. And to be honest I think it was kind of getting to her because she wasn't feeling any emotions.
Paul ended up going to a very brief time to the grandparents house and the rest of the family just ignored him and his mother. She ended up stopping in late that night and couldn't stop crying; she was a mess. Lucky for her she had just started speaking to her parents a few months ago. Can you imagine what state she would have been in if her father had passed without them having spoken.... she would have never forgiven herself. So it was a very emotional day for the family as it brought up a lot of feelings and past dicussions......I am not sure when the funeral is but I can see it is going to be a very hard day also.
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