ann - when aston stopped feeding at night, he didn't want booby, so I'd put him to bed, and then he would be distressed...so I started just sitting with him for about the same length of time that I would have had for a feed, and giving him a cuddle, just like when he would feed, and sing him a lullaby. I have a chair in his room, so that was where he would have that last feed, and first feed. Now we just have a cuddle, and he looks at me in the dimmed light, and I look at him, and love him to pieces. its very lovely actually.