oh no i hope he gets better soon!
yay on the cleaning christy!!! well you know what i mean!!
kim big sleeps !!
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oh no i hope he gets better soon!
yay on the cleaning christy!!! well you know what i mean!!
kim big sleeps !!
Oh no :( poor Jack, poor Blanche! I was always worried about bronchiolitis with Matilda.... we never got that far thank goodness.
Too bad all my cleaning efforts yesterday seem to be wasted today, my washing is now flooded and no sign of the rain letting up... which mean.... Vicky are you stranded, flooded in school holidays??? *shudder*
Well... I went to a seminar last night & missed out of the night craziness. Nice
wasn't flooded in when DH left for work this morning, but the rain hasn't let up, so I guess anything is possible - which really won't be a good look. I'm cranky cranky cranky - AF is due to show her horrid face, and PMT is reigning supreme. PMT and rain - great combo!!!!
can;t seem to get out of this ****ty mood and am taking it out on anyone who comes near me :(
vicky tell the wicked witch to be nice! hope you dont get flooded in!!
tara vent away love!
blimey its cold here today!!!! only 8 degrees at the moment!! :O
Eek! Jols.... Do you still have your toes ;) I have the heater on in QLD.... I'm a wus. Now remind me why I'm moving to Sydney????
Thats right... we're definately going now. Not until November, around Jovie's birthday... and then we'll be a house of no children under 2!!! :( Wah... I wanna borrow a baby for a few hours :P
ooohhh how exciting christy!! i can come vist!!! yay!! what part of sydney??
yep toes still attached, heater on 21 degrees so toasty inside but were about to head out to lunch!
ok - so somewhere I missed that Christy was thinking of moving to SYDNEY! WTF???? Please explain?
:)
i'm cold cold cold.
and tara - i'm with you - I'm cranky and snapping at every one - but I think you have a much better excuse. :hug:
Im a teary mess...my baby had her first day at FDC today :(
:hug: kim!!
well its now a balmy 9 degrees!! snowing in ballarat!
hi ladies ive come home for a little bit today to see Emelia as the hospital is an hour away so havent seen her since sunday night. but going back soon still dont know how long he will be in there for hes doing well though but still in his little box :( i did get a cuddle this morning which was sooo nice, cant wait till hes better just want him home. well now Emelia is in bed i best get some more clothes and head back up to the hospital, thanks for all your well wishes
take care
xx
Oh Blanche, you poor thing, i really hope Jack is OUT of the scary box and dribbling you kisses really soon. Emelia must be missing you and Jack too. Healing wishes to Jack.
Vicky - no words, just passing you some dark choccy lovey.
Christy -
i feel very out of the loop with you sugarplum!
1. have you been, or are you still going to the US to see your mum?
2. what has prompted the move to Sydney?
3. in your last post, what was "scary" about doing the houseework? or were you referring to emergency FDC? i am confuddled!
KIMBAZ - another milestone heh? How was she at pickup time? Did you get feedback from the carers? Pulls at the heartstrings to leave them heh? :hug:
Taralee - i take it you're over 40weeks now? You are TOTALLY entitled to feel very hormonal! i was two weeks overdue with bilbs, you get mighty sick of every one asking all the time hehe.
ME - i can't believe, out of all the people i've told about the PND clinic experience, you lot have "got it" so well, with the least amount of explanation, you just "get it" without me having to explain all the details, i feel understood. i didn't expect anyone to believe me, or understand (anywhere). My expereince just seemed like the opposite of what these places are there for. so i really thought no-one would "geddit". thank for getting me.
Gigi..Jasmine loooved care....when i picked her up it was all smiles and happiness! Carer said she done very well, slept, drank bottles and played. Chelsea was very protective of her baby sister too!
Jack is out of the box now, i can have cuddles!! he just has the nose prongs supplying him a little bit of oxygen, he is still being fed through the nose tube but is having little bottles for comfort feeds and hes taking them really well his breathing is staying good and hes not having to work to hard now to breath so hopefully tomorrow he will be off the feeding tube and onto bottles and thats a good sign we will be home quicker, just taking each day at a time.
im home tonight as Emelia is missing me so much she was having nightmares last night and didnt sleep well so im home tonight with her and in the morning then will head back up. my mum is staying up there with Jack atm so i know he will be well looked after, such a hard time taking its toll on everyone DF isnt coping to well as he has to work through all of this and all he wants to do is be with us..he had to go to hospital today for his anxiety he had a major panic attack, they wanted him to stay over night but he is to stubborn :/ cant wait till things are back to normal
Blanche your whole family is in my thoughts..i wish there was somethign i could do....please take care...and def watch on DF....i hope he settles down soon...must not be easy *Hugs*
:hug: blanche. I'm glad Jack is on the improve, and hope that Leigh is to. Poor darlin - anxiety attacks SUCK! and knock you around so much. stupid boss.
I hope that Jack is home soon, and that things return to relatively normal. In the midst of all of this, and you being all things to all people, please make sure that you are able to have some YOU time, just to regroup, and feed your soul hun. Your not super woman, and need to take care of you too. :hug:
:hug: Blanche, I know you are holding it together and I think you are amazing. Like Vicky said.... please take care of you too.
Gigi, the scary stuff was getting housework done, atm its taking everything I have to sweep & mop this house. One because Jovie has been a complete cling on and I can't physically carry her in the sling to do housework anymore.... and another because there's too much to do.
Okay... better explain stuff I obviously have been missing out here (I've left it in mods until we were positive about our decisions & told our best friends)
* Mum has had a haemorroid procedure go wrong in the end of April, since then she's had 3 more procedures on her bum. She is in horrible pain all the time, but keeps telling me to stay here & wait until the brain surgery, but they are holding that off until everything else is okay & its been 6 months after another anaesthetic.
* My brother is tired of looking after her, so I may still go out there to give him a break.
* DH's dad passed away in April which prompted trips back in forth to Sydney staying with friends.
* DH's mum needs help... she's having a hard time coping with life.
* DH had a job transfer offer in April which he said no too, but then we reconsidered.
* I started putting feelers our in Sydney to "see" how viable the whole thing is.
* I got 2 job offers within a week from vet hospitals I used to work at.
* One of the job offers was basically the world on a platter.
* Our friends in Sydney... this is our MAIN reason for moving. They are our community... when we were there, they looked after our kids, gave us a car with car seats & money to get home.
* When I came down for the girls weekend, they organised everything... I went to an open day at a school & they drove me everywhere.
* Some of our friends went to kindy with DH, we were all in each other weddings, and we go on family holidays together once a year. Their parents have offered to help us with the girls, after school one day a week and if I need emergency help.
Anyway.. thats the life atm. Now we are working on fixing this hole up to sell it, and thats a lot of work.
ok - now that all makes sense. so much going on Christy. sometimes it feels like your on a rollercoaster ride that never seems to end - well I know that is how I am feeling at the moment! Thanks for letting me know what is happening. I have been wondering how your mum was doing. not too good by the sound of it. sometimes when life throws your lemons, its bloody hard to even want to make lemonade eh.... right at the moment all I want to do is throw the lemons back, and say STOP! Hang in there girl, one day at time is the only day you can live. :comfort:
my life is farked :(
oh babe - what's the matter - :hug: :hug:
You ok Jols?? *hugs*
no not ok, BBS
seems like everyone is having a rough time of it :(
Hope all is ok Jols..which it obviously isnt - but i'm hoping it will be
Christy - i can't believe how much you've got on. you seem to have been on the uphill climb for a really long time, i sure hope you catch a break real soon. Moving back to sydney to have that kind of support network seems too good to be true! but you deserve it, thats for sure.
Blanche - thinking of you guys. just take one day at a time. it will all be ok. it always is ;)
Gigi - i'm 37 weeks today...wish i was over 40!!
Me - struggling a lot with pain this afternoon and still now. i don't know. i'm getting paranoid and absolutley over it. i havent packed my bag, i'm not ready but i am sooooo ready if u know what i mean
Jols???? :hug: if you need to talk or phone I'm here
MIL issues, those of you with platium have probably read about some issues i have with inlaws and them not staying at our house when new baby comes, we dont have the room and i get stressed with FIL here, watches me feed etc... generally feel uncomfortable plus he is very diffecult at time, DH and i discussed them staying with BIL int eh fuure and he's fine with it, understands etc.... i told MIL last time she was here that i get anxiuos stressed etc...
fast forward to tonight she rings prying for info on my anxiety fishing for info if i have PND i tell her we wont be able tohave them here because of room etc..and beacuse i find it stressful, dont want them to come look after sophie while i have baby, want my mum to, they live 4 hrs away! she gets upset, i understand why but still...told them i dont want anyone to stay here the first few night s after i get hiome, want some family time, this leads onto her stopping short of accusing me of blocking them seeing us!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!! me hysterical... i would never do taht and thats not want im asking!
sounds silly and petty but upsets me greatly they have been my second parents, i love her like my mum
:hug: Jols :( thats so hard, and wrong. Okay? You aren't wrong.
thanks hun :( feeli like *****, feel like vomitting, stress adn m/sickness = vomitting :(
DH is on the phone with them right now, hope he sorts things out
oh babe :comfort: and :hug:
Breathe in breathe out.... you have every right to want these things. This is your life, your family, your right. When we were having aston, I was going to have my mum come up from Melbourne to help with the kids, and for after when I came home for a couple of weeks. DH started getting antsy, and eventually said to me that he really wanted it to be just "us" the 4 of us and aston, to become a family. thankfully my mum was very understanding, and accepting of this. I can totally understand why you want this. It is your time together, as Sophie becomes a big sister, as you and DH become parents of two children, as you all adjust to the new dynamic of your family. I hope that your MIL can stop for a moment and understand that - but even if she doesn't Jols - this is HER problem, not yours, You and DH have made that decision, and if she wants to have a dummy spit, tantie, or anything else over it, leave it with her. You have not done anything wrong ok. :hug:
My mum spat it at me when I asked her to book her tickets 3 weeks after Jovie was due. She felt that it was her right to be here, and I had to remind her that it wasn't about her, it was all about me. It felt selfish, but its NOT!!!! Okay? My mum was here when Matilda was born and although I wanted her to be here, DH & I missed that precious time of babymoon on our own. Instead we had her in the background asking us what we were doing (like we knew... it was our first time).
Jols im terrible finding the right words....but i hope DH can sort something out...i did read your other post and again i couldnt find the words. ive not had to deal with that before. *Hugs*
CHRISTY - thanks for the up date - so sorry to hear your mum is going thru so much pain. So much happening for you. I dont even KNOW where our broom or mop is, that's how much housework i get done these days. Dishes and clothes/nappy washing - that's all i get done. Moving cities, that's huge. Wow, you have got heaps on your plate.
AJP - ARGGGGH! if i had a the energy, i would have a big scream for you! what pressure you are under from MIL. no way should you have to cop that.
VICKY - when if your dh's op?
KIM - glad the CC went well, i didn't realise it was for both of them, i have a hard time leaving ONE bilby at CC, so i would times that by two for you!
TaraLee - sorry honey - here am i wishing YOUR life away LOL, for some bizarre reason, i thought you were due NOW (shaking head), have no idea how i am three weeks out!! sorry poppet, as usual, my maths is terrible. See, i get all excited and clucky for you, and maths goes out the window.
Luaa - are you there? haven't heard from you for ages, hope you are ok, and darling Ella of course.
Me: i had a success of sorts today. It's school holidays, and i took bilby to a community library this morning, even got her there on time, to see a lovely guy perform children's songs, lots of hand movements and little dances, some TSI stuff (torres strait islander), some wiggles, some i coudln't place, but it was all great fun, guy was quite the comedian.
Bilby chose to PLAY WITH CRAYONS, whilst all the other (admittedly older) children joined in. She sorted the crayons from ONE icecream container to ANOTHER icecream container over and over, while this lovely guy sang, played guitar, made everybody laugh, told great stories. Ah well, i tried to provide her with a musical, dancing type experience. At home, she even dances to the end titles of kids shows - but here - NOTHING!!! The session was advertised for 1 - 10 year olds.
but main thing is, i got us out of our four walls, it's a start. that was my success.
Well done on a great day out Gigi! Chelsea would have loved that...she is quite a dancer....i reckon she is going to be my ballerina....has the standing on tip of her toes down pat and almighty balance!
Yep both my Princess's are at family day care now...1 child free day a week for me..and LOVING it...i so need that down time and ME time, i know once BumbleBee arrives it will be hectic again, so a good 6 months of quiet time is very welcomed. Jasmine goes Tuesdays and Chelsea goes Tuesdays and Thursdays.
Hows that bub baking going Ann?
How you feeling now Vicky....DH still being a PITA? Men....sometimes i have to wonder...but then some days i feel for them!
Christy wow....what a bust plate you have indeed. Id love to go back to NSW....but for the moment im calling good old Vic home for a while. All the best for your mum *Hugs*
Hows bub going Tara...giving you any more signs yet?
Blanche still thinking of you, hope Mr Jack is improving.
I have a mind blank and cant think of anyone else...hope you are all well!!
Woohooo now its Thursday i can say.... YAY 14 weeks today so 5-6 weeks closer to knowing if we have our Blue BumbleBee :D
thanks guys, wasnt them on the phone last night, DH spoke to his mum today to sort things out.
told her
yes he also finds his dad diffecult, she doesnt know how to address that with him (he will make a mountain out of a mole hill,) i understand we all have bad traits taht we cant change, but he can make more of an effort to change certain things he says, hes the srot of person who expects people to get him things instead of getting it himself, i feel like he's the percious one here!
she understands we want some time alone
understands we will no longer have the room to accomodate them
understands im not blocking them out!!
understand that it best for my mum to look after sophie while having baby, its just not practical to get them to drive 4 hours
still worried WTF...
so over family ****, respect our wishes, she works with PND women and she fishing to see if i have it and i DONT
fark have a head ache now!
Jols i find that incredibly rude and inappropriate. if thats how they want to be then fine, but don't let it ruin your day. i'm sure they'll come around and realise they were out of line if you mean as much to them as they obviously do to you. Big hugs tho, IL-relations sure can be tricky
Still here, still having pains but nothing to show for it...blah blah blah f**k i am over this
what would make you feel better Taralee?
a relaxing bath? a trashmag to read? some chocolate? or time to jump forward 19 days???
thinking of you :hug:
obviously my whinging put everyone off posting!
jols. So a hard juggling everyones emotions but i'm glad both of you confronted her. Its so easy to forget about yourself.
We are feeling better. Ella's uclers have cleared. Her breath is back to normal and she's eating crunchy cereal for breakfast so her mouth must be ok. She had almost a whole pear today! she can and asked me for it and she went to her high chair. So i got it and is ate it all!
Decide we'll tell the family after the dating scan this friday. Then we can be sure of the due date and at least see the heartbeat. Feeling OK these days cant wait to see the blimp on Fri.
Ann
:hug: Jols
just letting ya all know we got home today and Jack doing much better, so glad to be home :)
Blanche thats great that you are home
:hug: Jols I'm sorry, been away most of today & this is the second time I've checked this thread. I'm glad she understands, and I hope she is able to soften things with FIL. I didn't have the best relationship with my FIL. Often times I had to stay firm, for example, I refused to leave the room to breastfeed Matilda.... in my house, 4 days after she's been home from hospital after a c/s. He was horribly offended & didn't speak with me the entire visit... until we went to visit 11 months later. Apparently I was horribly disrespectful having the baby blues, and having to breastfeed.... obviously an offence against him. So :hug: you are not along in this mate.
new thread is here everyone https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...ml#post1331766