we have a naughty corner at our house. which it didn't take long for aston to understand. the only problem now is that if I say to him "Stop (doing whatever he is doing) aston or you will have to go to the naughty corner" he goes and puts himself there! I'm not sure if he is going... yeah well right, I'll just put myself there then, what are you going to do about it or if he thinks sod it - i'll just get it over and done with!
We started norty corner yesterday and Chelsea does what Aston does....only problem we are having is she stays for 5 secs..thinks she is 'good' again and takes off.....put her back, screams, goes quite....then takes off again.
It took Matilda ages Kim. In fact, she still does that if I'm not serious. We were told that its 1 minute per age of child, and that for the first oh.... 5 days or so if you do it consistently... it would be a continuous thing of saying "NO" and putting them back on the spot. With Matilda, we had to actually lock her in the bathroom because she would bite us and fight us. But that was extreme!! We didn't want to do it, but it was pretty full on.
yeah, i was going to ask what's working for everyone in the discipline department. NOTHING is working here!
naughty spot is just a joke to her, and if i cant send her to her room because she can open the door. oh she can now UNLOCK the front door and let herself out, thank you very much! thank goodness we just finished our fence around the house, it's like fort knox here now!!!
this is my main issue. she loves having play dates with her cousin who is 7months younger. only prob is is that evie just pushes her over aaallll the time. it is so so so draining. i keep saying 'no' and taking her to her room but she just keeps doing it and i while i know my SIL would tell me if she had some discipline ideas for me, i know its just as draining for her because her daughter keeps getting hurt and we just cant take our eyes off them for 2 seconds!
LOL yeah we cant send Chelsea to her room cos she can opent he door too....i left her in there yesterday and she trashed all her good ornaments on her table....i was soooooo angry when i discovered broken ornaments, clothes everywhere
Chels pushes Jas over.....i get all updet and then she says 'sorry sisshy' ....rubs her head then pushes again....never ending cycle!
Went to the park today (WHY....is was sooooo damn hot and i felt horrible!!) the girls had a ball on the swings though.....had some lunch and then they both passed out in bed....and so did i!
persistence, persistence, persistence. Think Super Nanny. It does take a while - they do think its a game. but it is only from you persistening that they realise that mum means business. When we first started doing it with aston, he would do the same thing - come out. and then I would put him back in again, and restart the time. and Christy is right, after about 5 days, of continualling doing the same thing it does work. First get down to their level and give a warning "If Chelsea/Evie doesnt stop doing XYZ she is going to have to sit in the naughtery corner/spot/step for 2 mins" if they don't stop, pick them up, put them in the naughty spot, and say "mummy's put you here in the naughty spot because you didnt stop xyz when I asked you to. You have to stay here for two mins" Walk away. of course they are going to follow you. DONT SAY ANYTHING. just pick them up, put them back. and continue this over and over until they stay there for two mins. When the time is up, go over to them, get down to their level and repeat "mummy put you here because you did xyz. Say sorry mummy, kisses and cuddles" and then move on. It will work - I promise you. to stop yourself going completely insane while doing it, find a mantra to say over and over in your head to keep yourself calm. stick earphones in. whatever works. The problem I have with putting them in their room, is that I want Aston's room to be a fun, safe, sleepy kind of place... if that makes sense.
Please don't think I'm telling any of you how to do suck eggs - This is just what I do. and it really does work. I have seen it with other kids too. my big kids have a chill out zone that they have to go to when the *****e hits the fan.
One more thing - pick a week to do it when there isn't a 1000 other things going on. I think that would be morely likely to lead to success. the other reason I pick a naughty spot is that is portable. I can do it at anyone's house. consistency and persistence are the keys
I am feeling profoundly and deeply sad at the moment. My sister's children are being so badly affected by her insane behaviour that is like watching a frieght train heading towards a stationary car on the tracks in slow motion. I hate it. so my "tone" in this post may seem a little terse. I apologise. I want to wave a magic wand and make it all better. I want to pick her children up and bring them here and make them my own. If only it was that easy.... life never is ... is it?
Last edited by tiggerandpooh; November 2nd, 2008 at 02:59 PM.
So...Chelsea being norty...
1. walk her to the corner
2. Chelsea you done XYZ wrong and you have to sit in the cornor til mummy says you can move
3. Walk away...if she follows says nothing and take her back
4. Repeat until she stays?
5. When time up praise her for staying and doing the right thing, but explain she cant be naughty
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