yikes, we were up all night too. the lovely girl across the road thinks everyone is impressed by her turbo'd up car...even at 10pm. kids woke up screaming and that was the end of that
Ok, am i the only one like this?! I know it's normal for them to be difficult at this age but this is beyond it. everything is a battle, everything ends in tantrums and tears...both me and evie. I just lose my temper so quickly because i am just worn down.
Oh i just read your post Nicola...I have a history of depression too and feel like its starting to get on top of me now. i have tried sorting it out on my own too, and will keep trying but i told dh today i am ready to walk away. my family is all in perth and there are 2 other grandchildren around the same age as evie so we dont get any alone time together at all
I hear ya Tara.....im at my wits end and im getting no where...nothing is working. Some days i ask why i had kids.....what am i doing wrong....why do i have a devil child. Im always getting comments how wild she is.....makes me feel great
Taralee it is hard when you have no family around and things are getting on top of you.....I just have to try and find some positives in the negatives and tell myself when Im down and wondering why I had kids that this wont last forever its just a phase and before we know it the kids will be grown up
also today I looked at Zander when he was mid-tantrum and thought how could he be my child, what have I done wrong?? or is there something mentally wrong with him???
god I remember going from being the parent of one child to being the parent of two... and how incredilby overwhelming it was. we had moved from sydney to the sunshine coast, away from all our friends, and family (not that that was a bad thing!)not long after we moved here I fell pregnant with Nathan, and laura turned two... wasn't that fun!??!!! NOT - for the first three months of my pregnancy I was living on the sunshine coast by myself with a terrible two year old, and morning sickness that lasted 24 hrs a day. It wasn't until Nathan was 8 months old, and I found myself screaming at both of the kids, and locking myself in the bathroom sobbing, that I knew i had to do something.
talk talk talk... ask for help. if someone offers take it up. i hate that we have lost our sense of community. we may not be a physical community, but we are still a community of sorts. while we may not be able to do physical things for each other, we can be ears to listen. even being a voice on the end of the phone is immensely helpful. I have been the voice at the end of the phone for Nelly, Jols and christy. and Nelly and Christy have done the same for me. even if it is just to get you through the screaming times... when you need to refocus before you loose it totally.
Nelly - your beautiful hun. and that woman did have a tummy (and just quietly I think our boys were so amazing, and well behaved!!!!!!!) love you x
Nicola - you haven't done anything wrong babe - he is doing exactly what he should be doing. i know its incredibly hard, but try to disengage. try to remove the emotion out of it. I know it may sound easy for me to say it, aston is my third. most of the time (and I say most of the time- not all of time!) I can disengage from his tantrums. I say to him. yep buddy I know its tough, but that's how it is, and go about my business. as long as he isn't in any physical danger, i basically ignore it. disappear into my happy space. Nelly saw him chuck it today, because he couldn't have the whole container of grapes. when he didnt get the attention he was demanding - the fact that we ignored how he was behaving, he got over himself very quickly.
Last edited by tiggerandpooh; November 12th, 2008 at 08:36 PM.
We have tanties and stuff, but I guess compared to Matilda its mild. Jovie's one thing is following us around screaming to be carried. Always at times when you need both hands. When we say no, she gets on the ground and sobs and screams. You'd think we've been hurting her .
I used to have such a hard time when Matilda was this age. Seriously, I would be crying on the ground daily. I felt like such a failure as a mum. Matlida would harm herself seriously, if I said "no" she would run into a corner, like a table corner or a wall corner, until she bled. She would hold her breath until she passed out and she would try to escape everytime she was outside. She refused to be held or cuddled and would scream 6 hours a day. I am NOT saying she was more difficult than other children, just that it sucked big time for me. I had no family around & friends didn't know how to help me or what they could do other than offer advice at what I was doing wrong. We went to a Triple P course which helped with parenting and a few strong willed child seminars. We started going to indenpendant parenting counselling sessions weekly. It was full on. Only NOW... 2 years later we realise that she may have Asperger's. It all makes sense what she was doing.
Tara - FYI... She's been positively diagnosed with sensory integration issues and low muscle tone, but the ASD diagnosis is a bit further off. We moved and they wanted to do some more assessments which we couldn't do, so we are being transfered down here, and are on a waiting list for next year.
There have been definate days with Matilda where I have locked her in her room & stood outside breathing to get through it. We had to make her room like a padded room between 2yrs and 3yrs. So she could throw herself around & not hurt herself. She would recoil when we touched her.
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