Gigi - big big hugs to you. I agree with what the girls have said so far and i'm glad that you feel you can turn to us. This ol' internet thing really is a lifeline at times.
I agree, talk to centrelink..they are meant to be there to help!
I know you said this debt isnt your fault, but i'm pretty sure when DH had trouble with tax debt a few years ago (young and naive lol - we just sold his car to pay it off - a stupid decision in the end!) anyways, he since found out that he could pay the debt back over time - he didnt have to pay it out as a lump sum. and i know the amount wasnt much. it was an $8000 debt that he could pay back at $6 a week or something stupid like that. I'm not saying that i think you should have to pay it back - but if it comes down to the wire thats always something you can look into.
I also agree with nelly. There's no point in staying for the sake of bilby if the quality of life is crap. if you are constantly arguing then thats not a good environment at all for her.
I guess it comes down to - do you feel that YOU want to put the effort in? do YOU want to make it work with DH?
It's worth reading 'men are from mars, women are from venus'. we are COMPLETELY different species. I guarantee your DH's non-commital attitude towards this debt is because he feels guilty and embarrassed for putting you in this situation. In all honesty - he probably doesnt know what to do about it and feels stuck.
I'm not making excuses for his behaviour - just offering possible reasons.
Anyway, hope thats of some help
Oh re: cord clamping. I wish I had known about it! I probably should have done a bit more research LOL oh well...i guess i did my best. no drugs and waterbirths have to account for something!!! lmao
(just making myself feel better) hahaha
i'm here too. just a little consumed with stuff....
when I pick aston up from day care I ask him did you have a good day, and he says yes. well today, I asked him and then talked to him about what he did (prompted from what was written in the book at day care) a little bit later he says to me "mummy" and I say yes? "did you have a good day?" lol funny little man. made me all warm and fuzzy. tonight after reading stories in bed (i love the big bed for that - his favourite is Magic Beach - alison lester.) i laid down next to him, and as I'm patting his bottom, he starts stroking my hair... i can't believe my little boy is two on saturday. where has the last two years gone???
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