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We so much want to have another bubby and i would be excited if i was pg, but then part of me feels i would be 'cheating' dd out of mummy time. Isnt it funny how you make such a HUGE deal out of getting pg the first time..now it's kinda 'yeah..whatever...lets go again..'. Crazy! I just dont want people to think we made a 'mistake' or werent careful...why do we care about what people think so much.
All the best with your husband, Kim. I cant imagine how stressed you must be. Just remember that we're never given anything to deal with that we cant handle. not much comfort, i know, but you've had babies so you already have part wonder-woman status!
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Aw thanks tara....i feel like a worn out super wonder woman and mum atm!
You know what.... people judged me when i said i was pg again.....but at the end of the day....it was DH and my choice....it wasnt a mistake 100%......we knew the risk and if it happened it happened...if not so be it.. and it did and i can tell u we hve never been more happy (well other then finding out we were having a baby first time round). I have now learnt thanks to all the lovely ladies on this forum.....stuff others.... u do whats right for YOU...! :p
Goodluck!!
Chelsea was a horror tonight at the hospital...so much i had to leave.. with tears streaming down my face. Then when we got to car she went to sleep... :cry:
Thankfully when we got home i bathed and fed her..then bed!!! Now im relaxing...
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Ann - alot of ppl say Emelia is a spitting image of me but then others can see my DP in her...when i look at my baby pics in some u would swear it was her!!
Kim - hope Dh gets well soon..u deserve a rest darl :D hope u get a good nights sleep.
well looks like im gonna be joining in with the packing, we have decided its time for a move, plus our landlord decided to up the rent another 20 bucks and didnt even let us know just sent down the new lease agreement to sign and we read it and noticed he upt the rent so not happy with him atm...oh well we were thinking on moving so probably a good thing just hate looking for houses im stressed all ready!!!
Emelia is pretty much over her cold which is great she is back to sleeping all night..this morning she woke at 7.30 so i went and got her and i was still half asleep so took her back into my bed and she fell asleep and let me sleep till 9.30!! i was kissing her saying thankyou for letting mummy sleep..she just looked at me a gave me a cute little confused smile lol !!
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Kim - Oh Darlin' i hope things settle down for you with DH and Chelsea. He's in hospital and i'm sure in good hands. Sending you big hugs from Sydney...People are always so quick to express opinions/advice even when you dont ask. I've developed selective hearing for my own sanity.
Blanche - What a good girl. Its hard when they have a cold and cant tell us what they need.
Taralee - it would be nice to have two kids close in age they can share a lot more in life...
Vicky - I found the joy of Chocolate helps with my crankiness. :) treat yourself to something
Christy - hope Jovie goes back to her regular sleeping and eating patterns soon. (whatever that pattern is). Our cat troubles continue - He's wearing an eco collar (satellite) on his head because he keeps licking an old wound so its not healing properly. (looks pretty funn) :)
Ella's going well. Not sleeping in the pram anymore so we can only go out for a little bit and then come home for her daytime naps. Its fine with us it just means we're dashing around a lot. On the teeth front she's got two lump that you can see when she grins but they havent emerged as teeth yet.
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it never rains ...it pours! arhhhghhghgh. Now having said that, I take a deep breath in, and out...
I'm so sorry Kim that DH is so sick. I really hope he gets better soon darlin. It makes all the things that I'm currently cranky about pathetic by comparison.
Ann - Ella is going to look sooo cute once those two little teeth emerge...a big girl. We are having problems on the animal front too... our 15 week old puppy wouldn't eat his breakfast this morning - when we came home from getting the airconditioner in the car looked at (my NEW car!! so not impressed) he still hadn't eaten it, so DH has taken him done to the vet cussing all the way a. that the puppy is sick - and b. that I didn't end up organising the pet insurance... somehow KNEW it would end up being my fault. :( Can you tell I'm feeling rather sorry for myself at the moment?
Blanche - good luck with the home hunting, and packing...thankgod by this time next week I shall be in our new home, and hopefully 85% unpacked.
Taralee - like Kim said, try not to worry about what other people think. its none of their business - different strokes for different folks. I remember a girlfriend of mine falling pregnant with her second relatively close to her first (i think they are about 15mths apart) and her being reluctant to tell me. lol...When I asked her why she said she was worried about what I would think. I laughed and said what works for you is what works for you, and that is what is important. It doesn't matter what I would do, or what I think for that matter. Same girlfriend, 9years on, was aghast when she found out I was pregnant with number 3. Everyone has an opinion, unless asked, or it directly affects them I think people should keep it to themselves - says I who in making that statement is giving an opinion...lol...I think I need more sleep at the moment. I'm starting to rave!
that said - I'm going to go and sulk, and try to be thankful that it is just the puppy sick and not DH (hugs kim)
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awwww Vicky, whats wrong with your puppy?
Kim, you are a super woman Mummy atm. You are doing so incredibly well.
Hi girls... I should explain that I am the worst at personals & I do read everyones posts and I like everyone here too ;) just that I am bad at commenting on everyone's posts. So please don't feel left out *hugs*
Okay... there must be some wonderweek going on or some growth/developmental thing. I can't get Jovie to sleep AT ALL. The last week has been awful for day sleeps & feeding. Give me strength!!!
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HI Christy - not quite sure whats wrong with him. we were worried that he had eaten something that he shouldn't have - as puppies do! DH took him to the vet. No temp, and no pain when she was poking his tummy. He is teething (lol) and there are teeth gone, and new ones coming up... she gave him some "panadol" or puppy equivilant. He has eaten something this afternoon, we will just watch him and make sure that he is still pooing etc. if he doesnt then back to the vet tomorrow for xrays...just what I need to be doing - oh well. may as well not panic until I need to eh? like I said if its not one thing...
Aston has been better today, not feeding every two hours thank god. I've been exhausted. I hope Jovie settles down soon darlin, it looks like there is never going to be an end in sight...and then you turn the corner...but while your waiting to get there its bloody hard eh
kids have just gotten home so good bye from me...
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Yuck Vicky... puppies react differently to teething, our Labrador was the biggest sook & would not eat for 2 days :rolleyes: our other 2 dogs never showed any signs of teething. She also is a garbage guts & gets into rubbish all the time. As a pup we had to give her meds a few times for what we call at work "garbage guts". She also swallowed a My Little Pony head once & we had xrays etc to track it until it finally came out the other end *thank goodness* otherwise it would have been a huge surgery to go in & get it out.
Have a read in punching bag... I'm a bit over my Mum atm. She just keeps sending emails & letters saying for me to "relax" and that my PND, Jovie's reflux and Matilda's tantrums are all due to my behaviour.... gggrrrr. AND she won't stop commenting or referring to my extra 15kg.... ACK!
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Sorry no replies for awhile ....still settling in to being home again.
Took the plunge and went to sleep school yesterday and they were lovely. I won't do everything, but Lugh is out of the wrap, out of my room and into a cot ....and I am sure he was ready ....but was I ...I went and slept in his room at one o'clock ..roughly the same sleep for him ... but I felt like a new person ...I could be loud in my room, turn the light on and off etc ...
Today he was BRILLIANT in the morning, no time to settle and lots of sleep, this afternoon our "routine" got stuffed by mothers group and and immunisation and now he is very grumpy and won't nap ....oh well....can't have it all ...I will try again tomorrow.
hope everyone is well ...esp Kim's husband and Kim...congratulations on the baby ...
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aarrrhhh sorry guys i've been MIA.
Vicky you always make me feel like i can give you a big cuddle! your posts always make me feel good about my self, so thanks heaps hunny!! beleive me sometimes i wish i could just beam myself up to you!! i find it very hard as i'm yet to tell anyone i know about my PND so you guys are the ears! i go again next tuesday to my group, it's every fornight, i just dont think the group thing is for me, i barely opened my mouth the whole time, just didnt feel comfortable. for various reasons i find it hard to trust people with such issues and tend to keep these things in a little place in my head that surface when i least expect it. i'm feeling better about things though, but not sure if the meds are making me feel sick, so sick that i actually did a pregnancy test today jus to make sure!! of course it was neg. so along with the hair falling out and the nausea i'm a bit blah. i still have thought i shoudnt and that worry me, i want to talk but the only real person i feel like i can to is my MCHN whom i really like and feel comfortable, but io dont want to bother her with my problems, she is awear of everything as we have talked alot and has offered her ears to me, but i feel awkward approaching her again, she has better thing to do than listen to me.
KIM i hope your DH gets better soon, things must be very hard for you at the moment, when are you having another scan? bet you cant wait!!
CHRISTY :hugs: to you about your mum, i can understand the feeling surraonding not having the best relationship with your mum, you need her support not her critisism right now, you have to wonder how she or anyone else would c ope if they were in your shoes! your doing a great job with your girls, maybe she should dpend a day in your shoes!
BLANCHIE, i'm gald emilia arm is better it must be such a relief for you both and that the cold has gone, goodluck with the packing hun.
OLIVIA i'm glad sllep school went well, where did you go? we found it hard to move DD from bassinette to cot too!! makes them too grown up too soon.
ANN sophie is the dame in the pram, doesnt sleep so we also dah out so what we have to then home to sleep, or she sleeps in the car, no teeth for us yet, thought she was teething last weekend , she had a temp and there is a small white dot on her gum but i dont think it;s a tooth yet.
MEREDITH goodluck at northpark hun!! i'm thinking of you!!! yes we HAVE to catch up, next week not good but the week after starting 26th good, not mon or tues for us though. i didnt really click with anyone there, i felt like the other girls who knew each other were happier to talk about themselves a little too much, like "remember when i did this and remember when i did that". i dont want to be judgemental cos i'm not like that but they were not people i felt comfortable even being around. my drinks the other night were great, went down a treat and wayyy too fast!!, it's our
5th wedding aniversary next week to willl have a few out at dinner, DH can drive seen as i've been the taxi driver for ages now
TARALEE i really expected AF to have returned by now as well, i'm breastfeeding but sophie sleeps around 13 hours overnight so i thought with not feeding for so long it would be back by now, but i'm not complaining!!
sophie is doing great,she rolled today back to front :clap: but we were making tea abd missed it!! :doh: we were devestated.
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Hi AJP I've been wondering how you were doing. day by day...which is the best way to live anyway. (she says as her anxiety levels are through the roof!!!! and is snapping at everyone and everything) sigh. I'm glad I am able to make you feel better though hun, just hearing that makes me feel better...lol.
Christy - I just read your punching bag post. :hug: Mothers - what are they like!!!!!!!!! I have been having words with mine, she just loves putting a good dose of guilt on me when ever possible...I just pray and hope that none of my kids feel this way about me when they are older. The puppy is feeling better we think. He ate dinner. so it looks like its his teeth. Sook! $100 later....arghhhhh hopefully it will stay at only $100
Hi olivia, hope that Lugh is feeling better tomorrow...i'm so NOT looking forward to immunisation time again.
I'm about ready to blow I tell you. If my anxiety doesn't settle down after we have moved and I have unpacked I'm taking myself off to the doctor. I HATE feeling this way, its has been a long time since I have been this bad. And I'm sure it is because of everything that is going on... I feel like I'm about to lose it.
Think I will go and run myself a relaxing bath, and leave the packing for tonight. and keep saying to myself over and over...it will get done. it will get done. it will get done.
sorry....
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oh Vicky, you are having 2 of the most stressful events that could possibly happen in life, happening within 6 months of each other!!! OF course you are anxious!!! *hugs* Where are you again? Within a day trip for me ;) I'll come & watch Aston, or you could travel here to get away from things for a day :)
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awwww...Christy your lovely. I had a very warm fuzzy moment reading that. Thank you so much. When this move is finally over, and the dust is settled we will definately catch up, even if it is meeting half way. I'm on the sunshine coast, north near noosa. I went and had a long deep rose bubble bath last night, and read. helped immensly.
Our puppy Jake is still sick - and I think its more then teeth. He has what looks like mucussy with little streaks of blood, runny poos. he has eaten, but has done several of them this morning. the vet did say yesterday that it could be a dog version of gastro??? oh i don't know. so its back off to the vet when DH gets home. maybe have an xray to rule out that whether there is something in that shouldn't be!!! Dh wants me to find out if we can pay the bill off - and if not, talked about having him put down! I just said good bye, I'm going now, and hung up the phone. I feel sick - men - always to the extreme! Jake is not going anywhere!!!!!
i guess all the dull moments in my life will happen when I'm dead :rolleyes:
I will be off line after this afternoon. will have to pack away the computer sooner or later. take care all, catch up with you all in the new house. lol
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Thanks for everyone's kind words about being pg again...will do a test..eventually.
I just cant believe what a hormonal mess I am. Evie just does not want to go to sleep. As so as i get her ready for a nap, she screams. i woke up so positive this morning and thought it would be all okay today with no troubles. Well of course as soon as i went to put her down for her nap she screamed, i (very very) quietly said 'oh for f**k's sake' and put her in her cot and walked out. She talked to herself (ever so cutely) for about 10 minutes let out a little cry, i went in and gave her a pat and she went to sleep. then i just cried out of guilt for being so grumpy with what, essentially, is such a good little baby.
How's this for hormonal? The other day when she was crying and not going to sleep, i was so frustrated that i got ****ed at DH for not putting the curtains up....how random is that?!?!
I know everyone's having troubles at the moment with sleep, puppies, husbands...but i guess we should just be grateful, it could be so much worse.
Lets all try and have a group smile :dance:
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GOODLUCK vicky with the move!!!!! poor Jake :( what sort of dog is he? when will you be back on line?
Hi taralee we must ohave posted at the same time!! dont worry we all have hormonal days!! i too have a go at DH for noooo reason at all and totally left of field!!but i'm sure your DH isvery understanding. when are you going to test? i did a test yesterday cos i feel sooo sick, just like m/s but it was neg. i thinkj it's cos of my meds though.
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BTW, Christy, wear those 15kgs with pride, baby! you've got bubbas to show for it!
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AJP- Im not sure when my next scan is....soon i hope!!
Tara- never mind being hormonal....ur a chick...ur allowed to be!! Ouuuch to the poor kid in that clip..... he was in the wrong place at the wrong time!!
Vicky- Hows your puppy?? Goodluck moving hun!!!!
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Vicky sounds like garbage guts to me. If something is coming out the bottom end, then there shouldn't be anything blocking the way ykwim? Meredith would best answer these questions though ;) I'm a lowly nurse :P with years of experience LOL
Tara hormones are fantastic things NOT!
Me... well things are going okay today. Took myself to Big W to get Matilda all sorts of tights for winter, all black & white stripes & red & black stripes. I'm a punk from the old school days so I love the new kids punk fashion... I'm now living vicariously through my child's clothes, how funny is that?
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ooo..sorry about the link, christy! i should've read the rules!
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No worries Tara, sometimes I have to put my mod hat on even when I want to ignore it ;)
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thanks girls for all the moral support. I have felt like I have had you guys barracking from the side lines, and it has kept me going. Absolutely shattered now, but gotta do it all again tomorrow. truck arriving at 8am. in for a HUGE day. but then it will be all done. Aston has been an absolute legend today. god love him.
well i'll see you all in the new house...lol
thanks again
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hey everyone
hope everyone is well sorry havent been on much, so i will do personals later!!!
DP's sister had her 2nd bub yesterday James Benjamin 9lbs 13oz and he is 4 weeks early!!! she had c/s...so we r off to see them today cant wait to see a newborn again..hope i dont get too clucky lol wont b able to hold him though cos he is in icu cos he isnt feeding :(
have a great wkend everyone
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I just dont feel like i want to be a mum today. DD has been so fantastic up until now but the last week or so has just been so draining. i feel like she just doesnt want to be around me. ive posted stuff about her crying when i go to put her to sleep...and its just not getting any better. she used to love laying next to me for a nap and now she just cries. Same with when i hold her when she's tired.
i just feel kinda useless, everyone's saying i'm a good mum and DH says he's so proud of the way i keep ploughing through DD's tough times, but i just feel like i have nothing left. i am constantly swearing under my breath when she gets all grizzly - i know it's silly, but i take it personally.
I'm finding that even though i get a whole nights sleep (pretty much), i am still so tired during the day - which is probably why i cant deal with her grizzling the way that i should.
Weeks 6-14 were fantastic, now i feel like she's never going to be the happy baby she was, and i kinda miss that.
Has anyone else found problems around this 15wk mark?
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*hugs* Tara its soooo hard. I have definately found the last few weeks trying. Jovie is starting to really fight going to sleep and its so frustrating when they don't sleep but are very tired.
I have found I need a break to rest for the day, thats not unusual at all. I can't deal with the grizzles if I haven't had a rest myself.
Have you read the book "wonder weeks" Its fantastic the way it puts their development in place with what they are doing. I just realised Jovie (week 19) is spot on with distractions and things influencing her sleep. She really needs no distractions to sleep now, and if I go near her she takes heaps longer.... frustrating because she used to love sleeping next to me. So try a few different things you haven't done before like patting her off out of eyesight etc to see if its just a developmental thing she is doing.
*hugs* You ARE a fantastic mummy!!!
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Tara Chelsea is being exactly like Evie..... cries and winges... and i get all cranky and go off my nut at her.... then burst into tears myself. She doesnt mean it...but its tough....she cant talk and i sometimes have no idea what is wrong.
Chin up darl... we can get thru this.... :)
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Thanks Christy and Kim, I hope this is just a phase and it passes soon...i want my baby back. I was trying to explain how i feel to DH. it's like when DD is happy i'm happy and then remember that there's this "issue" with her crying at sleep times. it's so silly of me. I watched a show today about a 1yo who needed a liver transplant and her body was rejecting the liver and she needed a new one and the mother was so distraught and praying. i cried for her, and thought 'what the hell am i complaining about! ive got it so easy'...i guess its hard to remember that at the time
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hey taralee
i was watching that show today and i was thinking wow im so lucky to have such a healthy DD...im glad the little girl pulled through though poor thing had to have the 2 operations:(
Emelia is the same sometimes she will go down easy then other times i know shes really tired and she will fight it...so hard not to get frustrated..i feel terrible if i get angry cos she is so innocent..hopefully it is just a phase and will pass like u said :)
BTW...I love your DD name its gorjus
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Taralee, yup Lugh is a couple of weeks older than Evie ( love the name, same as my sister ) and yes he went through a stage ...and possibly still is ...I thought it was going to NZ, but he is sooo easily distracted even now ...christy, the wonder weeks is dead on ...I am doing the patting and it seems to be working .....
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Tried everything tonight. Her scream is just horrible, it really sounds like she is in pain and she just wont let me comfort her. it just breaks my heart.
Eventually i put her on the bed to re-wrap her, as i put her dummy in her mouth her eyes rolled up like she was already asleep (this always happens but i usually pick her up and pat her/put her in her cot) - but this time i just left her on the bed, leaning over her and sshh'ing. She went to sleep in about 2 seconds.
I guess this is just another technique to add to my arsenal for next time.
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Fantastic!!!! I hope it works next time for you Tara. I'm going mental with the screaming atm... I want to cuddle her to sleep and co-sleep but she will have none of that.
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Chelsea can ROLL!! Yay for my bubby girl finally!!
However im worried she will do it during the night and stop breathing or something... how do i stop her from doing this?? It is cute tho... she been sleepin on her side... one knee tucked up... one straihgt and her hands under her neck.....
Exactly how i sleep!!!!!
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Having so much trouble with Emelia in the car now she screams and screams and as soon as u turn around she will stop and give u a huge grin! was very frustrating on the way to city (i was in the passenger seat) i was constantly turning around popping her dummy in then she would scream as soon as i turned back around...its been happening the last few days, she used to be fine in the car ive even tried hanging toys on her car seat (plays with them for a little while then chucks them) im dreading having to go in the car by myself :s lol
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YAY Chelsea!!!:D
i was worried about emelia rolling in her cot but shes fine, she sometimes sleeps on her side but the she will roll on her back and wake her self up!!!! i have to look into getting bumpers for around her cot last few weeks i will put her in her cot at one end and by the time she ready to get up shes up the other end bumping her head!!!
i think u can get the things that go next to them lol not sure wat there called im not much help sorry!!!
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Blanchie - i had the same problem, i eventually worked out that it was ALWAYS because she was uncomfortable (sounds obvious, i know). What i did was try to make sure i went out after she was fed, so i knew she wasnt crying cos she was hungry. i also found that if her nappy was just a bit wet then it was made worse by the strap between her legs - so i always change her nappy before i go out. then the other day she wouldnt stop crying on while i was driving by myself on the highway so i found that putting the window down helped. i think it was the noise and fresh air but she went straight to sleep!
Kimbaz - Evie started rolling about a week ago and now sleeps on her side at night, i havent found that she goes all the way onto her belly while asleep, but i just made a fat sausage out of a blanket and put it along side her so she cant roll too far - seems to be doing the trick!
BTW - did pg test, it was negative. quite relieved i must say! hormonal-ness seems to be dwindling (thank goodness says DH)!
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VICKY - i hope your moving house nightmare ends soon! Truely, the biggest stress i can think of is to move house - HUGS to you sweetie!
Like many of you in posts above, i too have had many times over last week when Jaz is giving
- all the signs of being hungry (won't drink),
- all the signs of being tired (fighting sleep),
- all the signs of distress (won't let me cuddle her)
- i feel like tearing my hair out - you know, the hair that is still there after all that is falling out every two seconds already! I could start a wig shop with all this hair!!
It really rips your confidence to shreds when patterns of meeting your babies needs that you've taken the last few months to build up, are tumbling down.
The child youth health website in my state has pages on that Wonder Weeks phemonmena too, so interesting, and it helped me to have a new perspective on her new unsettled behaviour.
We have the four month immunisations due on Tuesday, hope i manage not to cry this time.
A weird thing happened recently, another slightly older bub, whacked Jaz in the face, purely because she is too young to have good motor control, nothing malicious, and the appropriate thing would be for me, the adult, to move Jaz out of arms reach of the other bubba, so they could check each other out, without hurting each other with their robot arms. But instead of moving Jaz straight away, i went into slow motion, almost NO reaction. It really scared me, i always thought i would be the Protective Mamma. But i went into the headspace of my childhood, when i coudln't react to violence because i was raised, you never answer back your parents, so i just had to put up with their violence. So, when this happened to Jaz, i just froze, and i think if there weren't other parents around - who said - move Jaz out of the way, i don't know how long it would have taken me to "come to" and react normally. I feel so shocked that i coudln't react quicker to help Jaz. She can't crawl or do anything to get out of the line of fire, she was reliant upon me to help her, and i did nothing. It really freaked me out.
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Blanchie - i thought bumpers werent recommended cos of the suffocation hazard...evie rolls into the bars all the time - i think it's a gentle reminder to her to stop!
Fellow hair-less mummy Gigi, I wouldnt worry about not reacting as quickly as you might have thought you would've. I think at this stage, all of our senses are slightly dulled and we're running a little on auto-pilot, considering we're all having the same problems. I'm sure that if Jaz was really in any danger you wouldve jumped without even thinking. Dont look too much into it and beat yourself up over it :)
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When i first bought DD home i had a nurse come her and checked out her room.... first thing she said was i had a bumber at the head of the bed... no where near where DD slept.... REMOVE IT...i never did....lol and i had roll thingys so she couldnt turn (like for her now not back then) DONT USE IT, NOT RECOMMENDED BY SIDS.....so both things i got in a lil troble for.....
DH found her belly down bum up in the air this morning after her morning nap.... now im ***** scared she will thru the night as well.
Chels due for her 4 month needles in 2 weeks.....im dreading it again..... touchwood i dont cry.. i was brave last time but held her for ages afterwards cos i was so proud of her...
Tara- good gal u done a test.....im glad ur happy its not a positive.. or maybe thats DH !! haha
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thanks i better not get bumpers!!! i wouldnt forgive myself if anything happened.
Emelia has her 4 month needles on friday im sooo not looking forward to it DP cant get the day off to take her :( i just cant handle it!!! im a big sook i made my mum hold her last time...i almost cried lol
i cant beleive its been 4 months already:( they grow too fast..i was holding a newborn yesterday was so weird so tiny, didnt get clucky though:D so thats good hee hee
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Well its not really a bumper as such... it just ties on the the head of her cot.... not arund the sides.... from what ive been told they are now not really allowed to be sold becuase of SIDS.....but i still see sooooo many shops selling them.. and in their display cots....??
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yeah i see them alot too hey..thats y i never clicked that they could be dangerous.
i guess Emelia will learn, she has been doing it less!!!! saves me $$$ too lol
