HJ - take a deeeeeeeeeeeep breath sweety. u are a fantastic mum and NEVER think any other way ok! Bianca will just be ajusting to the formula. Are you worried coz she hasnt had a poo in a while? They say babies can go up to 10 days without a poo! U will find that FF bubs dont poo quite as much and when they do it is about firmer than BF bubs poo. What bottles are u using? is it possible she is swallowing too much air when sshe drinks.. hence giving her wind. How much are u offering her? Is she co sleeping with u and DH? Babies cry and scream hun, its the only way they can say "mummy help me". If it goes on tonight and u are losing the plot, tomorrow book her in to see the doctor. She might have reflux (which is common) or she might be colic (also very common). I dont think the issue is you hun.. your bubbi isnt happy and there WILL be a reason why and you WILL fix it just give yourself time.
Im here WHENEVER you need to talk xoxoxoxoxo have a good night sweety
Hollye - i am a bit worried about her not pooing - since she is drinking heaps!
she has about 80-100mls every 3-4hrs - gets a bit more hungrier in her witching hrs in the morning! im using AVENT bottles - she gets burped afterwards and usually has a burp or 2! And nope she is definatly not co-sleeping with DH and i - she is in her own cot and has been since we brought her home from the hospital!
all day today she has been fine - but come 1800 - she no longer is!
This really is all my fault cause i cant breast feed! i know it is!
its not your fault!! EVERYDAY when the sun goes down Mia turns into the demon child and i am breastfeeding! Whens the last time she poo'ed? We co-sleep with Mia prob 6 hours out of the night. More so i can get some sleep.. she stays asleep when next to me and DP, i actually have to wake her! lol
HJ sweety it's not your fault at all. Babies have a certain time at day/night were you won't be able to settle them and I know it's distressing for you as you think you should be able to calm them but they will get better with time, it's hard been a mummy but as the saying goes "this too shall pass" and it will hunny, just give it time. As for the clots, if they are as big as your palm then I would be going and seeing the dr/or hospital as you may have some retained palcenta. Big
Hi all, sorry I've been MIA but I'm sure you understand
Jeff and I spent 5 lovely days hiding in a private room in the hospital with almost no visitors. Something you can only do with the first child so we took full advantage. It was really lovely.
Things are going really well here now we're home too. Katie is breastfeeding well, she sleeps quite a lot most nights, and only screams for a couple of hours each evening, well before midnight (and one night not at all and last night only for about half an hour). Unfortunately daddy usually gets that shift so that I can get a nap in before the potential all-nighter, and daddy can't stand the screaming, I think it's something to do with the way men's ears work, it just pierces through his head he says...but he does it anyway.
I'm not getting very organised yet, I just don't seem to be able to slot stuff in between feeds, I'm not very good at being reactive, I'm used to being able to plan my time. Thank goodness my mum is here, she's getting me into a routine and reminds me to got bed for a nap during the day as well.
I'm afraid that there's no chance that I'll catch up with what's been happening with everyone over the last 9 days, so I hope that everyone is enjoying their darling little ones...even though my quick skim showed that some of you have had some bother...I guess we'll all get used to that...I'm dreading the first fever I must say.
At some stage I'll get my birth story up, but for anyone who wants a peak there's a photo of Katie in my gallery.
Take care all, I just wanted to let you all know that I'm still here and thinking of you all.
sorry for jumping on again ladies, if you need to chat about the formula feeding i'm more than happy for you to email me on dcagiannitis@optusnet.com.au and i can also give you my phone number. I also had to change dd to formula after only a couple of weeks and i know how hard it can be!
HJ - Constipation aaaaah. I know the feeling. I have only been a couple of times in the last week and it is killing me at the moment. I am doing all the right things such as drinking metamucil, lots of water, fruit, cereal etc. I don't have any solutions except to relax and it will happen eventually. Check with your doctor if you are really unsure. Big hugs xx
Welcome Fussy and Olive's mummy.
I'm about to put a pic of Logan in the gallery now
Hi Everyone,
I am new to this forum business so sorry if I mess it up a bit.
I have also had cracked sore nipples for the past 3 weeks. I lost heaps of blood during delivery and didn't get any milk for 5 days so Olive was basically dry sucking. Then she got jaundice so became extra lazy with feeding so they just got worse and worse. The frustrating part is that all the midwives and the CFHN have said that attachment is good, she's sucking well, putting weight back on etc. I have noticed a couple of days ago that she has a white coating on her tongue and i'm wondering if this is thrush as i've heard this can cause nipple problems. Has anyone had this? I had antibiotics during labour and afterwards as I got mastitis as well. I'm not ready to give up BF yet but I can understand why women do so good luck with the bottle feeding.
I also have a question about sleep. My baby has been very windy resulting in very little sleep so we have been sleeping her on her side (you know yourself when you have a pain in the belly that you don't want to sleep on your back) but I am feeling worried about it as it's obviously not recommended. I was thinking of using a Safe T Sleep. Has anyone used this or had our dialemma? will ask CFHN about sleeping at clinic tomorrow as well although i'm pretty sure of what she'll say.
Thanks
My milk took nearly 2 weeks to come in and still isnt too great. I always get a damaged left nipple so i hear ya there. Yes bub could have abit of thrush, go and get it checked. When Mia has an upset tummy she prefers her side or her tummy. She sleep 90% of the time on her side. Try and give her a mouthful or 2 or cool boiled water before you burp her, this is meant to help bring the wind and aid in a upset tummy. HTH
Olives Mum it could just be milk on her tongue, I know that Julian always has a white tongue. I think thrush will also be on her cheeks and roof of her mouth and it will be really thick.
Consipation is a big thing after birth as your body is doing more things and using more of your body fluid, try and have between 2-3L of water a day, it will get better after a while.
yay, i found you guys!!
sorry, havent been around much but well, you know new baby and all,
i am typing this one handed while jacob is feeding, will probably take me forever, hasanyone elso got a piranah baby? as soon as jacob getsany where near me he starts snuffling and snorting and omg when i acyually puy him on the breast its not a sight for polite company!! hes a piglet, and the noises he makes!
hj- constipation omg, i hear you, I had a nasty experience the other day and had to call dp to go to the chemist for me "right now!!" and get me an enema! checked with the pharmacist first and it was fine to use while bf. microlax or bisalaxare good ones, quick and efficient if a bit eeewwwyyy!
well jacob is out of nb nappies already, and i still have about 200 of them was not expecting to have such a big greedy baby! lucky i have a friend due in dec, i can pass them on to.
received my discharge notes from the hospital on friday, their reason for medical induction was " unusually large fetus" can you believe that?
now that i have found you i will be back, hi to all and cuddles to all bubs.
xxx
Sorry I haven't been around much but we've been busy here!! Today we finally got our new car after 3 months of waiting so it's been a long day! Hayden is offically one week today and what a crazy week it's been!!! I'm making sure I enjoy this bubs DH and I have decided that this will be our last one, it amazing how much Hayden's already changed! DS has been fantastic and I can leave him unattended in the room with Hayden and know he'll be fine! DS has taken to patting Hayden on the head, proclaming I pat him.... makes us laugh everytime!
OMG you all seem to be having trouble with the breast feeding, I've found that Hayden will de-latch onto my nipple so I've got to be careful ..... learn't the hard way the other day and I'm still suffering for it!! I've been blessed with another placid baby this time around, Hayden sleeps from 10pm till 4am then feeds for 1/2 hour before going back to sleep for 4 hours!!!! Breastfeeding has been good this time but the inital latch always hurts which from memory I think is normal for the first few weeks!
Hj,
Big hugs hun, I can garantee that it has nothing to do with the breastfeeding, I'm sure that things will settle down for you soon, keep your chin up your doing a fantastic job!!!!
Hollye,
I'm not game to co-sleep I couldn't with my other 2 too scared I'd roll over on them, Hayden's in a bassinet right next to me so I can get to him easily! We've been good here, I've been trying to find the time to get on to bellybelly but something has always cropped up, finally I'm back!!!!
We're off to the Magic Cave to see santa tomorrow, should be intersting, DH is home this week and wants to take the three monkeys in so we're off tomorrow nice and early to get a head start before the crowds!!!
Hi HJ, my heart goes out to you with the lack of sleep and crying. Liam's had a bad night. My sleep was 3 hours, then 1 hour, and the rest feeding and trying in vain to settle him. He only slept when we drove to the Dr for an appointment (he always sleeps in the car - If I hadn't had a c-section I'd be driving all day every day ). Then when we got home, he wouldn't settle again all arvo. DH let me escape for a couple hours sleep.
Tonight DH had had enough, and really, NOTHING was working. So we closed the door, finished making tea (kitchen is just outside his room) and let him cry for 20 mins while we actually ate TOGETHER(!!!!). By about 15 mins he was quiet and when we checked after the 20 mins he was sound asleep - and so far, still is. This is the 2nd time we've done this, and last time was almost as successful (he cried the whole 20 mins, but settled easily when i went in). It feels very unnatural to let him cry and not do anything, but when he's overtired it seems to work better than stressing ourselves out trying to fix something that probably can't be fixed. The book I read that recommended this (as a last stitch effort - I think it was 'Baby Love' by Robin Barker) recommended 20-30 mins, no less, which I would agree with (though it's hard). Don't know if this helps anyone, but HJ, if Bianca's having such a hard time settling she's probably well and truly over tired by the end of the day and maybe this will give you and DH some sanity. I know it doesn't answer the question of why she's crying in the 1st place, but when i was looking around when Liam was crying constantly, everyone basically said that once you've answered all the basic questions (are they hungry, hot, cold, wet, windy, bored, overtired etc) they're probably just crying. "Babies cry" everyone says - VERY unhelpful, but this is what I meant when I said we'd stopped stressing about it. We just let him cry and do the best we can. I agree, I don't think the bottle feeding would be causing any problems. And because I've lived through a crying baby I know it's the most demoralisng thing you can experience as a new mum. Please believe everyone when they're saying you're not doing anything wrong. Some babies cry more than others. My DH was a terror as a baby to his poor parents crying constantly and never sleeping for 3 months or so (they'd lived through SEVEN miscarriages before he came along - what a nightmare of a miracle he was huh ). Good luck, take a deep breath, and take time to congratulate yourself on the things you're doing well, no matter how small. To get you started: You're asking for help (something I'm really bad at); you love and care about your little girl strongly enough to keep looking for an answer for her; and you're giving her everything you can when you can (e.g. moving to bottle feeding when bf wasn't working). You're not doing a bad job as a mum, you're just experiencing a couple of REEALLY tricky situations. Keep your chin up.
Starskky - LOL on your snuffling little boy. After giving anxious little cries to start with, Liam just sleeps the whole time while feeding.
Well, I'm gonna go catch up on some sleep while he's sleeping. I'm really nervous about tomorrow. I have some 2 hour thing for new mums at the Community Health Centre and am dreading that Liam might be unsettled during the whole thing and how I'll handle it. Why a TWO HOUR thing for new mums??!!! Like it's not nerve wracking enough getting out of the house for a short time for something that's flexible!
Morning everyone,
Just wanted to pop in quickly...... hmmm you wont get rid of me now!!!~ lol
DS went over on the tiles this morning and has a small gash in his head, yay just in time for the Santa photo!!!! hmmmm can't win here something always happens if we have plans!!!
Hj,
I agree with 1stbub27 that control crying can be very helpful in getting bubs into a sleep routine! I have done this many times with my children and children using daycare, sometimes they just wont settle and when your at your wits end a 20 minute break wont hurt you or bubs!
I can remember a few nights with DD when we were out driving or walking up and down with the pram...... luckily for us she always settled after a good scream!
Hope Bianca starts to settle for you soon!!!!!
Starry - like you, we have a snorty, grunty, loud drinker on our hands. It is especially bad at night time when I feed him in bed, DH can't believe how loud he is!!
We had a great night last night. Logan slept from 10 until 3, but was making so many noises in his sleep that i was awake on and off from 12 expecting him to want a feed. He then slept again until 7:30 which was blissful for us. We are off to Kmart today and Babyco to spend a voucher. Chat later
hj1981 - You are doing a fantastic job hun and whatever you decide - happy mummy = happy baby. Babies tend to have a witching hour, usually at night when you are about to cook dinner etc... Izzy used to watch her Baby Einstein dvd (bad mummy ) but it was all I could do to entertain her. Very early on DH would come home to find me feeding or her asleep on my chest and me too scared to put her down so I just let her be....and we got takeaway. DO whatever it takes to get you both through that time hun - if you have a sling wear her so that you can do other stuff and she will sleep. \
Amandaj =- How are you going with your gorgeous boys hun!
Olivesmummy - It is hard when your milk takes so long to come in. If bubs is putting one weght then that is great. I thought I had thrush with Izzy and we treated it but apparantly it is commonly misdiagnosed and I really think my nipples were jsut sore. I agree with Amanda...James constantly has white stuff on his tongue which is just fat from the milk so look for whiteness around the sides of his cheeks too. James is in a hammock because he guzzles so much and has wind pain and it has made a huge difference. We hired it from Hire for Baby.We also cycle his legs and keep him upright for at least 15 mns after each feed. Good luck with it all.
Kylie - sounds like you are doing well and Logan is gorgeous!! Great photo and good luck shopping!!!
Starrysky! Hi lovely...I too have a typical boy ...nuzzles into my boobs, snorts and grunts all night long and he is BIG! How big was Jacob hun? I was thinking that James is nearly out of newborn too (4.7kgs last Monday!) and I have 2 more boxes...with Izzy I took them back to coles with no receipt and asked if I could exchange them for a bigger size and they were more than happy to do it so its worth a try. As far as "unusually large foetus - pfftttt the medical profession lose more and more of my respect every day- I was told James was "average sized" on the scan considering he was 14 days late and he was 10lb! Go figure!
Snoopea - I'm with you on enjoying every moment because this is our last one too and he seems so grown up already! We got a little giggle noise yesterday at MG I coudn't believe it! Our little man seems to have worked out night and day too and I was only up at 1am and and then 5am for feeds from 7 last night! Bliss! Amazing how a 4 hour stretch of sleep can make you feel like a new woman. I had really sore nipples for a while and put lashings of Lansinoh on them but they have finally settled down so I hope you all find that yours settle down soon too.
Good luck at Santas cave today- poor DS - I hate it when they stack like that. Izzy has a shiner at the moment from falling off DH's leg face first while playing horsey
1stbub - I hope you had a good night last night hun - and you are right about the crying. Sometimes unfortunately you do just have to give yourself a break. Keep bub safe in bed, and leave for a while to get yourself together for round 324! It does get easier hun. Good luck at your health centre thing - don't forget that there will be other mums there too who will know exactly what its like!
Not sure who I have missed - still getting my head around the newies and the group!!!! We are well, James is sleeping for a great block each night from 7sh til 11-1ish then another 3-4 hour stint. Day sleeps are pretty erratic he likes being with us so sleeps in his bouncer a bit during the day. Off to shower wile I can! Have a brilliant day lades and bubs be kind to your mummies!
Thankyou everyone for your thoughts and advice, everyone here is so friendly! Olive and I went to clinic today and she hasn't got thrush but the CFHN said that she is feeding well and isn't sure why my nipples won't heal (great help that was). Olive has however grown another 2cms this week which is pretty crazy, her Daddy is 6ft4in and she is very long and skinny like him. She is still very windy and is having huge periods of being awake and cluster feeding which i'm sure is normal but hard when your nipples feel like they are going to fall off. If my hubby even hugs me I want to punch him, poor thing. I am going to try some homeapathics and an osteopath I think as i've heard that babies who have been through traumatic birth (see birth story) have a tendancy to have spine problems which can cause wind. Has anyone tried this or other alternative therapies on their babies and found that it helps?
yay, i found you guys!!
was not expecting to have such a big greedy baby! lucky i have a friend due in dec, i can pass them on to.
). Then when we got home, he wouldn't settle again all arvo. DH let me escape for a couple hours sleep.
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