Sounds like some of us are still having tough times adjusting. It is just SO HARD sometimes isn't it? Leila is going through her 6 week growth spurt so some days she sleeps more, some days she feeds more and some days she is just very unsettled. I'm pretty sure it will all settle down in the next few days though. Last night I was so utterly exhausted, every part of me was tired nd aching and I was sure if I didn't have a baby to look after I could of gone to bed and slept for 3 days straight!! I got about 6 hours though so that's pretty good, DH did one of the feeds for me
Stevie happy anniversary! I really hope you and DH have a lovely day together. Managing a relationship and a new baby is really tough. You both have to focus on working through your problems. It definitely sounds like you have the right attitude which I think is fantastic and I'm sure you will be able to get through this tough time
LJ I hear you on the frustration In the early days I would get so angry and frustrated I even yelled at poor Leila a few times. She just wouldn't sleep and after many sleepless nights I remember grabbing her out of the bassinet and yelling "what's wrong with you! Why wont you sleep!!!" Of course then I felt terrible and I had to leave the room and get DH to go into her because I was scared of what I was doing. I honestly thought I was going crazy Turns out the poor little girl just hates sleeping on her back, once we flipped her onto her tummy the problem vanished instantly! Not saying there is an easy solution for you, just letting you know that I've been there and totally get the feelings you are experiencing Time out, even for 5 minutes can make the world of difference
AFM I'm finding having 3 in the family very difficult at times. DH seems to have so much freedom and I feel so restricted at times. We don't live near shops so it's hard to take a small baby out when we need to drive 20-30 minutes to get anywhere as I find it very disruptive to her sleep patterns and she becomes quite unsettled. I do take her out, just not every day of course. DH often sends me messages saying he will be home late as he's going to the gym or going shopping or to visit a friend or whatever. He had his work xmas party on Friday lunchtime so of course he drank a lot, which is fine I was happy for him to be having such a good time but of course it meant that he was no help Friday night, again this was fine but then on Saturday morning he got up and went out saying he would be gone for several hours.... WTF?? I'm absolutely exhausted and he hardly spends any quality time with his daughter and now when he has the chance to help me and bond with his baby he just goes out for the day! Grrrr Anyway I cracked it with him and told him how it's not fair that he can just go off and do whatever he wants whenever he wants and that I need some time out too and he needs to be more suportive of me and more interactive with Leila. He told me I was an annoying nagging housewife Anyway he ended up doing the middle of the night feed last night and is currently cleaning the kitchen so obviously he feels bad and realises that it's not easy looking after a baby. It's so frustrating that we need to have an argument for him to realise that he needs to help me more.
Hi to everyone else, hope you and your bubba's are well and staying cool.
wish me luck girls off to have Lukes needles today, to the others having them as well today sorry I can't remember who *bad* and too slack to go back looking but know I am thinking of ya all
Fi- Get to a playgroup hunny REALLY saved me when I 1st had Annabelle You meet ppl through it and it gives you a diffenate outing every week! Dh will get over it. You guys just need to find a routine that works for you guys. He needs to realise chipping in with the house work etc is a must now Miss L is here.
LizJessie- Were Mr W needles today? Mine are tomorrow I got the wrong date
rach2281- Your birth story was amazing, I did post in it I have to dollies one tiny and one big I have created such princess' it does my head sometimes haha Love you ticker pic!
Rach75- How were needles?
to everyone else!
Well my Lucy's needles are tomorrow I got my dates mixed Mums coming with me so she can play with Annabelle in the waiting room
Im just going to put Lucy on the boobie and hope that helps her
Bbl!
Last edited by Kazmar; December 15th, 2009 at 10:47 AM.
Good luck for today Rach75! Leila is getting hers this afternoon, hopefully they both cope well.
Rach2281 love the new pic of Evangeline!! Her eyes are amazing, I think she is a wise old soul there is just so much depth to those eyes and she seems so at peace with the world its so beautiful.
Thanks LJ, glad I'm not the only one!
Will bbl to let you know how Leila went with those awful needles...
happy anniversary! I really hope you and DH have a lovely day together. Managing a relationship and a new baby is really tough. You both have to focus on working through your problems. It definitely sounds like you have the right attitude which I think is fantastic and I'm sure you will be able to get through this tough time
In the early days I would get so angry and frustrated I even yelled at poor Leila a few times. She just wouldn't sleep and after many sleepless nights I remember grabbing her out of the bassinet and yelling "what's wrong with you! Why wont you sleep!!!" Of course then I felt terrible and I had to leave the room and get DH to go into her because I was scared of what I was doing. I honestly thought I was going crazy
Turns out the poor little girl just hates sleeping on her back, once we flipped her onto her tummy the problem vanished instantly! Not saying there is an easy solution for you, just letting you know that I've been there and totally get the feelings you are experiencing
Anyway he ended up doing the middle of the night feed last night and is currently cleaning the kitchen so obviously he feels bad and realises that it's not easy looking after a baby. It's so frustrating that we need to have an argument for him to realise that he needs to help me more.
to the others having them as well today sorry I can't remember who *bad* and too slack to go back looking but know I am thinking of ya all
sometimes males just have no idea. Sometimes they just asume that baby will be no problem and fit in, Im glad he felt a bit guilty though. 
to everyone else.
Honestly give me a chubba bubba anyday!!!!
You meet ppl through it and it gives you a diffenate outing every week! Dh will get over it. You guys just need to find a routine that works for you guys. He needs to realise chipping in with the house work etc is a must now Miss L is here.
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