Babies Born October 1st ~ 15th 2008 #2

[SamiH]

oooh how annoying on the 12 am feed! I'm sending good vibes that you ain't sitting feeding atm, but are happily still in bed snoozing away! Clearly I'm not still snoozing.. but his last feed was at 8.30pm last night so that's just dandy

It worked - he woke at 6.20am I can do that!!

[[M]umma[M]ia]

thanks Sam, if only i looked that damn good in real life! lol

going good here. Mia slept 10:30pm till 6am. was back asleep by 7am and still is.

photo shoot today! woot woot!

[PinkPalace]

Hollye - i hope your photo shoot goes well! Ethan is covered in heat rash so avoiding pics altogether! lol....

I have been MIA lately as my parents were here for a few days so had to entertain!

Well last night was dreadful. Ethan woke 5 times. ive decided i will lay on the couch all day today (might try to bake a pav but will see..).

He is averaging about 2-4 hrs a of sleep between the hours of 6am-8pm. i know he should have more but it isnt happening.

hope all is well

hugs

[SunnyRain]

I've been MIA too, because I've been feeling terrible reading about all your perfect sleeping babies (but don't get me wrong, I'm really happy for all of you, I've just been having a hard time).

I know I'm not the only one struggling, so I can recommend watching the sleep videos on the raising children web site. It's a pretty good resource. It reassured me that I'm not going through anything unusual or anywhere near the worst case.

I've been taking on the challenge of encouraging Jude to go to sleep on his own, following the advice of the MCHN (is that the right acronym? I'm not down with these abbreviations - I'm too old for net jargon). I've been trying to rock him to sleep in my arms and it's been killing me emotionally and physically. Now I just pop a dummy in his mouth if he's grizzling, pat his nappy and leave him in his bed to (hopefully) fall asleep.

I have to admit, I'm not very in tune with him. I haven't been able to recognise his tired signs or understand his cries at all. I never know what's wrong. So I've been trying really hard these last few days to watch out for the textbook signs, like yawning and jerky movements, arching his back etc. I think I assumed he was hungry all the time when I should have been putting him to bed.

I saw the psychologist yesterday. She asked me every question imaginable including all about my family, highschool and ex boyfriends. I think I talked too much about irrelevant stuff from my past because I have no emotional connection with ex boyfriends etc, but when I talk about my current situation and how exhausted and hopeless I feel I start crying, so I was avoiding the real issue. I have another appointment next week, so I'll try to suck it up and get to the real problem.

With the medicare safety net my $175 appointment ended up costing me $12. Gotta get all my medical stuff out of the way before the end of the year!

[1MOREPLZ]

morning ladies

yep we have been MIA for abit aswell....

Jack is doing fine (although still NOT sleeping greatly during the day) but sleeps (co-sleeps) at night from 10ish til 6.15/6.30am
I can't believe how fast time is going!!!! he is getting soo BIG!! and when we went and saw OH's aunty's bub he was HUGE compared to her....he was NOT a baby he was a little boy.

Bottle feeding is going well, sometimes he doesn't take the whole amount and other times he takes every last drop... he is growing (due to be weighed) so i am happy

[teruteru]

hmm im kinda envious of all u who can sleep thru the night! im still feedin him every 2-3hrs, is that cos im bfing??
he always want to play from 10 onwards (sometimes earlier but nt later) then he'll sleep in arvo
hope he doesnt sleep thru the photo shoot tomoro as its in the arvo!!

[AmandaJ]

teru hi and welcome, I don't think that because your b/fing is why dragon isn't sleeping thru, it can happen with FF as well, it's just his body clock. I know that my fourth boy was like that, they do grow out of it

Hollye when will you be getting the photos from the shoot? She looks so beautiful in your ticker, and your av looks fab too.

Sami we've put a Wii on layby for Santa to bring for the whole family this year, I'm not sure on the Wii fit but I might get that later down the track for me to do as well. But like someone said the games are quite vigourous and are some form of exercise.

Belfie how great that your pump has finally arrived, sounds like your going to enjoy it.

Kurazia I'm so sorry your having such a hard time, big

Well I got my Chrisco delivered yesterday so that was my excitement for the day, I love getting my hampers every year that's my little splurge for the year, lol, very sad I know. I won't get Julian's needles done for another two weeks, I've always thought that they had to be the calendar month too. I'll also be getting Wyatt's 4yr needles at the same time so will have to see if DH can come down with me as it will also be school holidays and will have all 5 boys so will be stressful if I have to do it by myself. Ok have to go and get ready to do school drop off.

hugs xoxo

[belfie]

Oh Kuraiza, I'm so sorry to hear how you've been feeling. Part of me thinks, uh-oh I shouldn't post when X is sleeping well, but then another part of me thinks that hopefully that can give you hope that one day Jude will be sleeping well also. I think it's great that you saw the psych and hopefully that will start to help - as for what you talked about - well Rome wasn't built in a day, and there'll be time for you to talk about current stuff too.

As for recognising tired signs, well I think that takes time. I think I'd been assuming EVERYTHING was a hungry sign and I'd just feed him more, so I think you're not the only one who's not sure! I've been watching X like a hawk to try and pick them up... and i'm soooo perceptive... I've spotted yawning so far!!! DUH me! Does Jude have more trouble going down in the first instance, or once he's been down - then rousing back up? Or both?

Anyway, I hope things start looking up for you!

[Moi]

kuraiza - I do have the same problem as you. I have to rock Maya to sleep. By the end of the day my arms and back are killing me. Then she just won't go down for a sleep from about midday till we try and put her in bed somewhere between 9.30pm and 11.30pm. So during that time the only thing that works is having her sleep on me, which is so limiting and exhausting. Sometimes I can get her to sleep in a sling which frees up my arms at least. Then I pass her off to DH when he gets home so he can take over. I also struggle to recognise her tired signs. I have to wait till she's yawning and I was told that that is late tired sign so it's harder to put them down once babies are yawning. But I can't see any signs before the yawns. I pretty much go nuts every afternoon and evening trying to work out if she's tired or not and then trying to rock her to sleep if I think she's tired. She also won't sleep in her pram or in the car! We did settling techniques at the mother's group two weeks ago and they went through stuff I already know, but it just doesn't work for Maya. I asked the MCHN and she said Maya might still be too young and to try again when she's 8 weeks. She's 8 weeks this Friday, so I'll have to start trying to put her to bed awake again and doing the patting routine.

Maya's calling.. so gotta go. Hello to everyone else!! I'll try and get back on soon.

[SamiH]

To all those who are having probs with their little ones sleeping through the day - they are still so little - some liked to be helped to sleep, others don't. Tired signs can be so confusing - their cries might be a little bit different so maybe try hearing instead of seeing for a day and see if that helps you at all???

Zander has days where he doesn't sleep, but as I said cos I am busy in and out of the house and car at some stage during the day he catnaps in the car etc so I probably don't notice it as much than if I was at home all day. He has been in his cot now for 30 minutes and is still awake - not screaming or crying - just groaning, but wide awake - but I KNOW he is tired cos I have been out all morning - little cheeky thing ...

teruteru - I don't think it is because you are b/f your bubba wants 3 hourly feeds still overnight - each baby is different. My DD still had a feed overnight after 12 months of age!!! Yet my first son dropped feeds from 10 weeks - but he DID dream feed which was great. It is so exhausting, but hopefully he should drop at least one feed for you soon. Can you try and force () a bit more into him during the day perhaps? Offer a couple of extra feeds??

kuraiza - have confidence in what you are doing - it is so easy to question yourself and Jude all the time that it starts to spiral - even 3rd time for me it happened twice with Zander's feeding and did my head in for a few days. I know with my DD if felt like I spent more time trying to get her to sleep during the day than she actually slept and I felt like it was such a big waste of time - eventually she slept - but she ended up not needing as much as her big brother. And hun, I am way older than you, not too old for net jargon

Hollye - that's a great night! I'm thinking of getting an avvie now to boost my on-line confidence Hope Mia gave lots of smiles at the photo shoot - hard on the wallet when they look so damn gorgeous in their piccies.

Going to eat whilst Zander is still deciding whether to go to sleep, or start screaming out for another feed cos he is too tired etc .....